Would you use a name that a friend had?

amberleeb

One of DH closest friends has a 3 1/2 year old with one of the names DH and I have always loved.  These friends live in a totally different part of the country (Texas) we are in Minnesota.  I talk to the wife about once a month on the phone and  DH and his friend talk probably 4 times a week.  They have 4 kids and want at least 2 more.  We see them about every 2 years or so.

If you would use it would you ask or tell them prior?  This has been a name that we talked about before we were married and this friends child was born. 

LoveMyGirlz

I would absolutely use it. It's hard enough to come up with and agree on names that you both like/love. I would not ask them ahead of time (don't ask a question you don't want to hear the answer to) in case they give you grief. If they ask sometime I'd probably say, " yea we've liked the name xxxx" for years. So we all have good taste, or something like that.

btw, what is the name? pretty please?  (pm me!)

amberleeb

LoveMyGirlz:

I would absolutely use it. It's hard enough to come up with and agree on names that you both like/love. I would not ask them ahead of time (don't ask a question you don't want to hear the answer to) in case they give you grief. If they ask sometime I'd probably say, " yea we've liked the name xxxx" for years. So we all have good taste, or something like that.

btw, what is the name? pretty please?  (pm me!)

I will just tell you it's Lydia

UsedToBeGoldie

hell yes!

i have many friends who have kids with the same names - nobody cares... even the ones that live near each other.  Family would be different, but a friend? Of course- the name is up for grabs.

I'd love it if someone used one of my boy's names... i'd be flattered. 

LIAngel

I would totally use it.   My cousin named her son Nicholas James.   A good friend of DH,and his wife named their son Nicholas James.   Guess what?  I named my son Nicholas James.   I see my cousin maybe once a year.  

 

emmyloustu

Generally, I would say no, I wouldn't use it, but in this case, I'm a bit partial to the name! The only reason I wouldn't use it is that it would bug me to have another child in our circle with the same name, but I'm weird like that. I don't pick top 10/20 names for that very reason. I wouldn't be offended if one of my friends chose one of our names though, I think I'd be flattered. Lydia makes a beautiful sib set with your daughter's name! I love your siggy! Seriously love it!!

LoveMyGirlz

Aw, Lydia is beautiful!! And goes great with Audrina. And it's not super duper out there so your friends wouldn't think you 'stole' it. For example, Zaly.  Lydia is common enough. So heck yea, that's a beautiful name.

Dr.Loretta

I would totally use it. Unless someone makes up a name, there is someone else in the world (or many someones) with that name.

I might casually mention it. "We decided on a name for LO, it's [insertnamehere]. We've loved it for years, and we know it's a favorite of yours, ha ha."

browneyedgrl4282

I would use it, it isn't like you see them all that often.

povo

absolutely!  I would however ask them prior and explain that the name has been one on our list since before we were married etc. I don't think they will have a problem with it! I would see it as a compliment!

btw, its a beautiful name!

BeccaLandes

i would use it. also mention to them how much you love it and that you are planning to use it.  there is another mom in our play group who has said numerous times that if she has a boy, his name will be asher. and a woman i went to grad school with also named her son asher-- we just call him asher b. (b for last name.)

also- i like the name lydia! 

Sarafuss

If you love it, then I would use it!  I wouldn't ask them prior (because you don't need their permission to name your child and I'd be upset if they acted weird about it) but I probably would tell them before she's born.  Just as pp said, "We've loved the name for years and we both obviously have great taste!"

MayDayGirl

i wouldnt use it, but i wouldnt ask if i did. we asked my brother about a name they had liked for their daughter (but went with a diff name) and he said no! we couldnt believe it. he wanted to "save" it, even though his wife hated the name. i wish we would have just used it.

ALY1981

MayDayGirl:

i wouldnt use it, but i wouldnt ask if i did.

agreed

Soon2beMrs.Sivert

I wouldn't use it. Maybe a middle name? 

 We have friends, whom we see a few times a year, who named their daughter Anna. We have an Anastasia and always call our daughter Ana (anna). So, it bothered us a bit and can be confusing for the kiddos.