Can I handle it...(TTC mentioned)

drvst8

So I've been doing some calculations...regarding my cycle. And if we try to get pregnant after this next cycle and we do get pregnant...that will put me around 6 days plus or minus of where I was with Logan. I'm not sure I can handle the same date milestones with a new baby as I had with Logan. I don't want to wait but I might have to. What would you guys do?

magdalina.h

I was due with Aidan on 4/21 but he was born 2/1 so the milestones weren't the same but the boys are a year and 20 days apart. It was hard making the decision to start ttc but we just left it to fate

johnnys june

We started ttc before our Logan's EDD even approached. I had a fear we would get pregnant at the same time as we did with Logan (June) and they would have similar EDD, but June came and went. It took us nearly a year (including medicated cycles) to get pg again. The journey apart from grief and milestones is definotely tough, and I won't sugar coat that. We ended up getting pregnamt the month of Logan's birthday...in fact, implantation was most likely on his birthday. I had mixed emotions but saw it as a gift from Logan instead. Personally, I think it comes down to how ready you are to ttc period, apart from your grief. I guarantee there will come a point no matter when you try where you will question of you're ready....unfortunately that's part of TTCAL. *hugs*

cookie_queen

We won't get pregnant on our own. We have to plan it out. At this point I don't care what the due date is. I just want to be pregnant again.

dandywarhol

I worry about the same thing.  Sylvie was born in the end of October and if we start to TTC in the next cycle or two we'll be very close to a potential EDD near her birth day.  It concerns me a bit but one thing I've learned from all this is no matter what you plan or think, the universe could always through you for a loop.  So while I'm aware of potential similarities I also know I have little control over it so like the PP said, I'll just leave it up to fate. 

goillini823

Well, here's what happened to me:

My due date with Gabe was 4/18/10, but I was to have a repeat csection on 4/8/10. When we decided we may be ready to TTC again, I tried to avoid having a similar due date. I ended up with a due date of 5/18/11 with DS. He ended up coming a month early on 4/18!! He was born on Gabes original due date.

Everything happened so fast. It was 10pm when my dr. Decided baby was coming out. I asked that they try and get him out before midnight. At that point I knew it was just meant to be. DS will never replace Gabe, and I love them both equally, but I just felt Gabe was telling me all Is ok. That date will now always be bittersweet.

If that isn't crazy enough, I've got something else. We found out Gabe had passed on 11/24/09. This past 11/24, DS got super sick, and we spent 4 days in the hospital. I don't know, just crazy coincidence, but it's little things like that that make think.  

Cercamom2011

We conceived this LO on DDs due date (+/- 1 day).  He will most likely be born sometime around the 2 weeks DD was alive.  I look at it as a blessing and a sign from DD that she wants her little brother to arrive safely.  I know that most drs wouldn't say it's an emotionally good thing to do, but in a way, I find it peaceful and reassuring. 

No matter what, being PGAL is difficult.  There are bad days and then there are wonderful days.  Although my babies aren't on the same "schedule", I still make comparisons with milestones.  GL and I know you can handle whatever comes your way!

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drvst8

I think I'm just going to let it up to fate. If we are blessed enough to get pregnant on the first try I will just take it as a sign from Logan that its meant to be. And if we don't then we will just try again till we do concieve. Whenever it happens it will be a blessing. Thank you for all the comments.

lovemymaddy

I've had this thought a few times myself and wondered what I'd do in your situation. I think that if it were me, I'd go ahead and ttc and see what happens. Perhaps even if it ended up being around the same time of year, maybe it'd be healing in some way? GL with whatever you decide.

krissywave

I think everyone is different.  I know our 1st MC would have been due 11/15.  Our 2nd mc Jonah was born 11/11 and my husband wedding anversity is 11/15.  The next time we can try again is Feb (IVF) which means march implation .  That would put due date of Nov.  So I can understand both sides.  I dont want to take day away from Jonah but at same time when is it my turn to bring home a baby.

drvst8

lovemymaddy:

I've had this thought a few times myself and wondered what I'd do in your situation. I think that if it were me, I'd go ahead and ttc and see what happens. Perhaps even if it ended up being around the same time of year, maybe it'd be healing in some way? GL with whatever you decide.

 I hope your right. Thank you everyone. I guess the one thing I have on my side is that the new baby will have an eviction date. Since they are not going to let me go past 39 weeks...I will get to pick out the bday for the new little one.

Jackie2200

I'm a little insane but I'm pg. again after losing my tiwns in Feb. I kind of knew the due dates were close based on when I got pregnant with the twins and when I got pregnant with this LO.  I didn't want the drama or to go through the milestones togetehr so I've gone through this pregnancy (17w+ so far) without knowing my due date.  Ignorance in bliss!