People w/o kids criticizing parents

JenninMA

I hope I never did this before I had kids. Last weekend my cousin and his wife were visiting and his wife went on a big rant about her brother and his wife's new baby. She was all worked up about something totally stupid- she felt they didn't try hard enough to give their 3-month-old a pacifier. I didn't say much but I wanted to say "Get yourself a baby and then we'll talk". There are some big issues- like abuse- that I'd say it's fair game for non-parents to have an opinion about. But it really pisses me off when people who don't have kids are so sure they'd do everything right.

goodhartedmommy

It's funny what I swore I wouldn't do and what I judged before I was in the situation.

LittleMamaB

Ugh...I hate that. I actually hate the "you should's" from anyone, kids or no kids, unless I ask for advice. If I don't ask for it, I don't need it, thanks.

jaredswife

there  is a guy at our church who thinks there is no need for a nursery.  That parents should just be able to take care of there kids in the service.  Him and his wife dont even want to have children.

KrisBriMcBunny

Josh is doing this right now...some examples....My daughter will be 100% potty trained by the time she's 8 months old.....she will no cry, scream or other forms of temper tantrums....she will stop when I tell her to stop.

Thank God Bobbi is so grounded and her & I are constantly laughing about this kind of thing.

Kristie

DaisyAdair

My mother is famous for giving me advice.  The other day, she said, "Well, I told you what you should do, but you don't want to listen."  I said, "As far as I know, I'm an only child.  Where did you get all this experience having 2 kids?  Where are my siblings?"  She also had my grandmother living with us after my grandfather died, so she was never alone with me, let alone 2 of me 11 months apart. 

JOEBunny

I remember a conversation I had with a coworker about a 3 year old sitting under the table in a resturant one time.  I was adamant that I would never let my kid behave that way.  Yeah!  Right...  I let DD dance on my head if it means I can get a decent meal that I don't have to cook.  We mostly go out for lunch, but when we do dinner, it is usually with my FIL (he doesn't cook and I don't feel comfortable cooking in his home) and it is brutal. 

LittleMamaB

KrisBriMcBunny:

Josh is doing this right now...some examples....My daughter will be 100% potty trained by the time she's 8 months old.....she will no cry, scream or other forms of temper tantrums....she will stop when I tell her to stop.

Thank God Bobbi is so grounded and her & I are constantly laughing about this kind of thing.

Kristie

Hilarious...he'll learn!

Ashley&Bryan

AAAHHH Yes!! This makes me roll my eyes to the back of my head!  It's also pretty funny when people 'know' what they're going to do w/ their future kid before they have them. 

For example: I also frequent the 2nd Tri. board and there was the famous 'spanking poll.'  I just thought it was humorous the opinions and judgements thrown about by people who's babies aren't even born!  Some people were like "yes, I'll spank for sure when I have to....."   ummmm, how about meet your child first and see if that's even necessary?!?!?

marrymemylove

Well I would draw the line slightly differently, I think you don't need to get anywhere near abuse for non parents to have a justified opinion. But the basic idea that they don't have a clue about the day to day life with a baby is right. And your examples are spot on. Dummy or no dummy (you'd say paci), sleeping patterns and so on, all small beer.

?I must say I judged a friend of mine for having a super padded bumper and leaving her kid to sleep in a moses basket where the pad was a big pillow when about 3 months old and I stand by that. Everyone, non parents included and the mum herself knew it was dangerous and irresponsible. She just liked the "cute" factor too much to be safe. I've also seen people give their kids peanut butter at 6 months of age - that too I think anyone has a right to judge as stupid and dangerous even though it isn't abuse.

The only thing I have to admit I judged a little before kids and now realise is stupid was getting ANYTHING done at home while being a SAHM is a miracle. Until I was a SAHM I didn't get that and thought that they should be able to at least do the washing and dishes. Now I know that women who CAN do those things probably have placid babies that annoy the hell out of me and that with a baby like I had you simply can't leave them to scream blue murder while you do much.?