Don't want to poop :(

Gooberlina

So this is my second child but the first to actually have the father in the room with me. When I had my son my mom was in the delivery room with me and personally I didn't care if I scarred my mom for life with the visuals but I am TERRIFIED of having my baby's father in the room. I know that everyone poops for the most part and I can't remember if I did when I had my son or not but I do know I farted louder than a grown man. We've been together for 3 years and I have yet to even let out a little toot around him so I'm so scared about this process. Anyone else in the same terrified poop boat with me?

hannahbagels

Gooberlina:

Anyone else in the same terrified poop boat with me?

Nope, not me. 

Either don't have him in the room or have him stay up by your head so he can't see.

bobs89

i can't give too much advice because i haven't had my daughter yet.. i am 33 weeks today and i am terrified of pooping on the delivery table. although i have talked about it with my husband, and he said he loves me and he wouldn't care. (i would care though!) but i read also that since so many women do it, most of the time the nurses/doctors clean it up so fast you might not even know it happened. i am still a little worried about it. but i have been told that when that time comes, that will not be the thing that is on my mind, i will be thinking about my baby... 

hope that helped a little..  

nonoemily

Gooberlina:

So this is my second child but the first to actually have the father in the room with me. When I had my son my mom was in the delivery room with me and personally I didn't care if I scarred my mom for life with the visuals but I am TERRIFIED of having my baby's father in the room. I know that everyone poops for the most part and I can't remember if I did when I had my son or not but I do know I farted louder than a grown man. We've been together for 3 years and I have yet to even let out a little toot around him so I'm so scared about this process. Anyone else in the same terrified poop boat with me?

I'm sorry, I'm of no help to you in saying this, but this sentence made me laugh uncontrollably.

Maybe just ask him to stay up by your head, so he won't see the poop come out?

I wish I could say I'm the kind of gal who's man has never heard her fart, but J and I have spent too much time in close quarters over the years for that to happen. We fart in front of each other and talk about pooping freely.

I'm sure he won't love you any less because of it....

NoodleM

I fart infront of my husband without shame, I figure if he's used to that he won't be phased  by anything he sees during birth.

We're all adults, we're all aware that stuff 'happens' during birth, I wouldn't be ashamed or scared. It's all natural and I'm sure he can deal with it 

Brenna9481

The father is really not going to care and neither will the doctors/ nurses.  Don't even worry about it.  My sister said she pooped with her second and she was embarrassed for like a second.  Everyone, including you, has much more important items to worry about at that time.

mrs.larry

I'm not all that worried about it. But my husband and I have been through it all so I know if he happens to see that it won't scar our relationship. After all, I'm producing his child from my body.

FWIW: I did not poop while pushing last time around. I went several times during labor and I that cleaned me out. You could get lucky!  Even though I'm not terrified of it, I do hope I get lucky again and manage to push poop-free.

Molluskwrangler

Sh!t happens.  If this ruins your relationship, you weren't meant to be.

I pooped all day and then some more while pushing, my H still loves me and tells everyone what a champion pusher I was.   Don't fret about it.

wolson1988

I am in the same terrified poop boat as you... I'm scared to death!!! I do NOT want to poop in front of the doctors let alone my husband!!!!!!!

k3montel

I was definitely in the same boat as you for a long time, until DH did it in front of me.

DH had surgery for Testicular Cancer 2 and a half months ago, and they gave him a spinal for it.  When he came down to the recovery room, he had no control of anything, and he could barely walk from the bed they moved him in to the bed in the room.  Mid walk to the bed, with a nurse on either side of him, he pooped.  And, he only knew b/c he could smell it, he had no feeling.  He said he was really embarrassed, but he was still kinda out of it.  Later, he said...now, you don't have to worry about doing it in labor, I already took care of that awkwardness. 

I felt really bad for him at the time, and I wanted to cry for him, b/c I know how embarrassed he was.  But...I also know he has a good sense of humor, and he's kept that with this story...although, nobody knows but us and the nurses (and now you guys).

nickert2000

Guys are not grossed out by poop....that is like one of the top things they talk about with their buddies. And if you poop that means your using the right muscles

cbkeni

I not only don't ever fart in front of my husband I go so far as to tell him that pretty girls don't poop. Of course he knows it's not true, but he appreciates the effort I put into keeping some things secret. To him it's like I don't want him to see me as gross and he thinks it's super cute.

BUT when we found out I was pregnant he was the first one to say "You know you're going to poop right? It's ok I'll still like you." I've decided in my immature mind to only admit that girls poop while they're having babies. Also at our childbirth class they mentioned that pooping a lot can be a sign that you're getting ready to go into labor so now he asks all the time if I've been pooping.

He is going to stay by my head but he said it's only so I don't get self conscious and that he could care less.

I know it's not actually that you're worried your relationship can't handle poop, it's just that it's something that you're not comfortable with and it freaks you out. It'll be ok I promise  

indiana101

DH and I don't fart infront of each other and so pooping is definitly a concern of mine. DH only sees the funny side though. We are planning a homebirth and have our birth pool and equipment all set up and ready to go. I was absolutely mortified yesterday when we had friends over and he took great delight in showing them the 'pooper scooper'. I was so embarrassed and he thought it was hilarious. I guess I would feel better if he were to say things like 'it doesn't bother me' or 'you just do what you gotta do' instead of 'I am not getting in there with you'

MesmrEwe

Think about it logically for a second - you're afraid of a little poop when you're pushing a 6-10lb. baby out of your lady-parts...  Like the PP mentioned, if he's scared by a little poop, then he probably shouldn't be in the L&D room to begin with.. 

When I delivered DD I felt it along with a hemroid being pushed out...  it only took a second for the nurse to say "focus on pushing not on the poop, it's part of the process and going to come out because there isn't anywhere else for it to go!"

Lilena

Guys I am going to tell you something.

When you are pushing out a baby (especially if you aren't getting an epi) You will N O T give a Flying F if you poop or not. You will be in so much pain and trying to concentrate on getting the little one out, pooping will be the LAST thing on your mind!

I know I was weirded out by the entire idea of it happening for me too. Guess what, I did. They clean you up so fast it's over in a second and no one cares. Trust me DH was like "meh". The healthy delivery of your little one with outnumber any silly fears of pooping trust me! So stop worrying guys! It's really truly not a big deal. And it might not even happen. And if it does it's just a small little thing in a much MUCH bigger picture.

beachbunni307

How did you go through pregnancy and never fart in front of your DH?? I have had more gas in the last 6 months than I have had my entire life. Luckily, my husband still lets them rip far more than I do.

I am afraid of pooping on the table too, but I read about alot of women who say most of the time they didn't even realize that it happened until someone told them about it. That doesn't really make me feel any better, so I doubt it does anything for you...lol. I guess you just have to figure, it happens to a lot of women and as long as that baby comes out healthy, nothing else matters.

Rosebud2587

Lilena:

Guys I am going to tell you something.

When you are pushing out a baby (especially if you aren't getting an epi) You will N O T give a Flying F if you poop or not. You will be in so much pain and trying to concentrate on getting the little one out, pooping will be the LAST thing on your mind!

I know I was weirded out by the entire idea of it happening for me too. Guess what, I did. They clean you up so fast it's over in a second and no one cares. Trust me DH was like "meh". The healthy delivery of your little one with outnumber any silly fears of pooping trust me! So stop worrying guys! It's really truly not a big deal. And it might not even happen. And if it does it's just a small little thing in a much MUCH bigger picture.

THIS!!! 

purpletulip

I can't believe how many woman don't fart in front of their husbands! Do you hold it in? Go into another room? How do you live your life like that? Lol

Anyway, like PP said, you might not poop, and even if you do, he might not notice, and if he does, I doubt he'll care. Poop doesn't usually phase guys anyway and he'll be focused on the birth of his child.

Gooberlina

I think the biggest misconception taken from the post was that he has any idea of how scared I am. I don't think he can't handle it or that he will be overly upset about it, it's more about me. I feel like this entire pregnancy has taken me far beyond my comfort zone on several occasions and pooping on a table just seems like the top of the list for oh no moments for me. We had a miscarriage last year so I'm sure he won't care that much but I can't help but be a little mortified about it all. Plus, I don't hold my farts in until I'm cringing in pain I make my way to the other room or go to the bathroom and it may sound over the top but it's just the way I am. I don't let em' rip in front of my friends or family so why on earth would I want the one person I hope always finds me sexy to listen to my trumpet ass all the time But kudos to those who are open and comfortable enough to do so.

harmonicbabe26

Ask for an enema before pushing. A friend of mine did that last week when she was delivering and it helped.

roxyu

I opted for the enema...but then ended up with a c section.  I've heard you can still poop during your c-section, but I don't know and don't care if I did!  Seriously, you're pushing a watermelon out of your body, do you expect to be able to control what comes out of the other hole?  When you're laboring you will not give a crap (pun intended ) what is happening in your rear!

mtm0109

Posts like this crack me up!

 I work in a hospital.. doctors and nurses have seen FAR WORSE, believe me and those things dont phase them, if it did.. they wouldnt work here! They could care less if, when and how you poop.. seriously. Its part of the process for some.

And I second what another poster said.. for those who dont fart in front of their husbands or SO.. what do you do? That seems so odd to me. Like everyone does it.. and Im pretty sure he knows you do it.. its NORMAL.

 Delivery rooms are graphic. You will see, smell and hear a lot more than you expect. And like someone else said you wont give a hoot about poop when your pushing a human out of yoru vagina.

palmtreemandy

uh, if he has nerve enough to he grossed out by that then fatherhood is going to he rough. and trust me, you won't give two shits (pun intended) who sees what in that moment.

LilyPotter218

Honestly I'd give anything to poop like a normal human being again. If it has to be in the delivery room then so be it. Nothing like getting it all out at once?

 

tartaruga

Having been through this before, you should know that poop is not even the grossest thing that comes out of you during delivery.

KylenMelissa

I already warned my guy that it could happen and honestly, especially since the pregnancy the gas has been bad and we just laugh it off at this point. Things happen, let him know ahead of time and ask him to stay towards your head I'd say. But all in all, don't worry too much!

MrsT2008

every time someone posts something like this, it astounds me how many people are afraid to fart/poop/burp in front of their husbands/SOs.  I just don't get it.