walking the line

melmax

I'm conflicted a lot lately b/c I know DD is still little and only 5.5, but at the same time I think well, she IS 5 and is learning new skills every day at kindy, etc

 DD had her school Lessons and Carols show last night at school. It was at 7 p.m., her normal bedtime. She was 1 of 4 kids in her class who had a speaking line. I was SO proud of her... my shy girl was so confident and clear speaking into the mic in a roomful of 200 people.

Fast forward to 8:15 when the show ends. My H goes to pick her up/give her hug, and she kind of gives him a little push. We walk outside, my Dad and his GF go to embrace her as well, while telling her what a good job she did, how proud they are...and she does the same thing to them. She turns to me and asks if she can have a snack when we go home. We all understand she is tired. I talk to her about it at bedtime, telling her I understand she is tired, but next time, maybe just a little hug would be okay.

Lately, the line feels so blurred regarding whether I'm expecting too much or too little from her (not just this scenario, but others as well).

 

Zenya

I think you handled it perfectly.

AnnapolisLari

I don't think that asking her to give a tiny hug to a relative is too much to ask. Part of our job as parents is to help push them out of their comfort zone a little bit and to learn that sometimes you have to do things that you might not particularly feel like doing.

In your DDs case, she needs to know that Grandpa and GF made a special trip to see her in her show and that it's nice to thank people who go out of their way to be there. What you said was great.

 

melmax

AnnapolisLari:

I don't think that asking her to give a tiny hug to a relative is too much to ask. Part of our job as parents is to help push them out of their comfort zone a little bit and to learn that sometimes you have to do things that you might not particularly feel like doing.

In your DDs case, she needs to know that Grandpa and GF made a special trip to see her in her show and that it's nice to thank people who go out of their way to be there. What you said was great.

 

This was what made me feel bad. I completely understand she was tired` and would normally be in bed....but I also belive there are some things that she just 'should' have to do, no matter the circumstance.