npr- need some opinions (kinda long, sorry)

Holly_1007

Hi everyone,

DH has a friend that he has had for atleast 10 years now, he's definitely not the kinda guy I would hang around with, but I tolerate him for DH.  I don't discourage the relationship or anything and I am friendly with him when he is here.  When we bought our house last year he asked us if he could park his truck at our house because it was out for repo.  he told us he would have the money to pay it off in a month or two tops.  I was skeptical, but since it is DH's friend I let it slide (DH is a part time police officer, so I trusted that it wasn't illegal for the truck to be parked here, he would never do anything to jeopordize his career). 

It has been over a year since we bought our house, and the truck hasn't move.  both rear tires are flat, I'm sure the battery is dead and the nearby shrubery took over the hood with vines.  Everytime he comes over I ask him about it, what the plan is, if he is ever going to come even see if it runs, etc. and everytime I ask him he plays it off, oh sure just a few more weeks. 

about 3 month ago he said the bank that owned it was going to compromise with him since they couldn't find the truck (surprise surprise) and he only had to pay back like 20% of what he owed on it.  so he told us this and said he had the money and was going to have the truck out of here within 2 weeks. 

its. still. here. omg I don't even know what to do. talk about wearing out your welcome! I don't wanna hurt DH' and his friends friendship, but I'm so tempted to call someone (I don't even know who I would call??) ugh wwyd???

shopgirl78

I'd throw a shitfit over with MH and would have had it towed, months ago : ) but I am a b!tch like that. I think what he is doing is wrong and I wouldn't agree to be an cover up. 

Yodajo

Your Dh is a part time officer and is ok with this?!  It is totally shady. 

There is no way I would allow that truck to stay in my driveway.  It would have been gone a long time ago. 

Holly_1007

ugh i forgot to add that it has a plow on it and they put the plow down so that its practically impossible to tow it, on top of the fact that atleast the rear 2 tires are flat :-/ ugh

littlemermaid

You have a husband problem not a friend problem.  You and your husband need to have a long conversation about this vehicle and that you are done having it in your driveway.  Tell your husband that he either has his friend remove it by xx date or a flatbed tow truck will be coming to get it and impound it.

Rebekah1021

Yodajo:

Your Dh is a part time officer and is ok with this?!  It is totally shady. 

There is no way I would allow that truck to stay in my driveway.  It would have been gone a long time ago. 

Seriously. I would tell your DH and friend that he has a week to find a new home for it or an anonymous phone call to the bank will be placed.

Holly_1007

thanks everyone, guess I just needed someone to help get me to the point. 

I think I'm just going to call someone, the local pd? if the friend gets mad, atleast it will be at me and not DH. 

and honestly, my husband is not a bad guy, he was trying to help the friend out, the friend had originally asked to borrow the money to pay the truck off, which we just didn't have the money.  my H is the kind of guy to give you the shirt off his back, so I guess he just thought he would help him out by keeping it here, like I said it was NOT supposed to go on this long. 

I think I need to get it out of here before we have any snow though or it will probably end up stuck through the winter.  sigh.

should I give the guy till the 30th? or just 24 hours? Like I said I don't even think the thing runs, he can't just come over and drive it away.....

jettagurl

holly71087:

thanks everyone, guess I just needed someone to help get me to the point. 

I think I'm just going to call someone, the local pd? if the friend gets mad, atleast it will be at me and not DH. 

and honestly, my husband is not a bad guy, he was trying to help the friend out, the friend had originally asked to borrow the money to pay the truck off, which we just didn't have the money.  my H is the kind of guy to give you the shirt off his back, so I guess he just thought he would help him out by keeping it here, like I said it was NOT supposed to go on this long. 

I think I need to get it out of here before we have any snow though or it will probably end up stuck through the winter.  sigh.

should I give the guy till the 30th? or just 24 hours? Like I said I don't even think the thing runs, he can't just come over and drive it away.....

Seeing how you've let it set there for a year without making a stink about it, I'd give the guy a week.  By now, you've set the tone that you're a pushover.  Tell your H to tell the guy he has a week.....to get it out or it's being sold (as you'll probably have to pay the towing fees for someone to haul it....after all, you agreed to let him park it there, albeit a year ago, it's not trespassing if you agree to allow him there).

So, tell H to tell buddy to get it out or it's going to the highest bidder.   H needs to grow some balls.  Buddy took total advantage of the friendship, so he's not a 'great' friend to begin with.

 

EMT

You can't sell a vehicle when you don't have the title. Just tell him to get it out of there in a week or you will call the bank. I get that your DH is trying to be a nice guy but him being super nice to other people should not come at your detriment, KWIM? DH can be this way too. Soooooo nice to everyone else that the kids and I sometimes finish last and that's not right. 

mommytoconnor

I'd tell your hubby to get that damn truck outta here.  That friend is taking advantage of you and your kindness.  Your hubby needs to take the reigns on this and tell him that he needs to get it out of there.

juniper19

If he can't use the truck anyway, what is the purpose of avoiding the repossession?

EastCoastBride

juniper19:

If he can't use the truck anyway, what is the purpose of avoiding the repossession?

This is what I'm wondering! It's just sat there for a year?  What's the point in keeping it?  

Holly_1007

he did use it to plow a few times last winter and make some money, I guess thats his intent this winter, but it literally hasn't been started since last winter.  he came over tonight and I told him he had until the 30th to get it out of here.  he joked around and said okay I will be here on the 30th trying to get it started. sigh.

I really don't want to pick a fight with DH about it, but this has definitely gone on long enough, thank you all for your input and encouragement.

CTFandme

Is your DH ok with it or is he frustrated too?  Sounds like you and he haven't even talked about it.  I think my neighbors would have had a fit by now.  hey, there's a thought.  Call the cops anonymously and pretend like maybe a neighbor did it!! hmmm...  Just a thought.