WWYD school related

ppants

This isn't about a snack but did occur in the lunch room. DS is in K. He was telling me that he asked a teacher/lunch room person for help getting his little container of pears open(from sack lunch I packed) and she called him a baby. He said he told her that hurt his feelings. Sounds like another teacher came over and asked what happened. I asked DS what 2nd teacher said about what teacher 1 said and he said nothing. He did get opened himself and one of them (unsure of which one ) told him good job.
I understand DS will be called names during his life , but I'm disappointed a person of authority called him a name. Should I email his teacher who was not present at the time? Let it go? WWYD?

ppants

I also asked if she called him baby in a sweet way and he said no that she had a "mad face" when she said it.

summerbrideDC

mrs_sexy:

I also asked if she called him baby in a sweet way and he said no that she had a "mad face" when she said it.

that's what I was going to ask; if she said it meanly/derogatorily, I'd definitely want the teacher to know about it. Like you said, you can't protect your kid from ever having his feelings hurt or being picked on, but it shouldn't be at the hands of a teacher/authority figure--not only is it incredibly unprofessional on her part, it's horrible modeling of behavior for the other little kids.  I'm sorry your little one had to deal w/ that today.  :-( 

tammy79

I would be upset, and yes I would definitely say something, like the PP said, it's one thing if it was from another child, but from a teacher, that's unacceptable. 

veloelle

I'd be super irritated. I expect other kids to be mean and call each other names; it's part of growing up. But not an adult, let alone a teacher.

EXL311

I would absolutely mention it.  That would make me so mad and hurt for my child.

ppants

Email sent to teacher. Thanks for the input

Ciarrai

I'd be upset too!!

FWIW - I do "lunch duty" for the Kindergarten 1-2 times a month.  I can tell you that about half of them can't open their fruit/milk/gogurt/yogurt/thermos/plastic silverware/candy/whatever.  Some are pretty good, but we are kept hopping at least for the first 5-10 minutes opening everyone's stuff for them.  They sit down and half the hands shoot in the air.  Then we get all those things opened for the kids who bring lunch and the kids who bought are sitting down and wanting us to open their milks.  It's why we're there and why they have volunteers to help with Kindergarten lunch.  They still need help!  No one should give them grief about that.

Yodajo

mrs_sexy:

Email sent to teacher. Thanks for the input

Be sure to update! 

I would have emailed too.  My heart aches just imagining how he must have felt.

Chapter79

You did the right thing. I would have e-mailed someone and told them, also. No ADULT should ever say that to a child. NOT even acceptable.

My daughter is in K, too.. she has to ask help to open things. I TRY to put things in baggies and stuff, so she doesn't have to. But every so often she gets a yogurt (and she cannot open the top) or can't get a lid off, etc.. I tell her it's perfectly OK to ask for help from the aid, they're there to help with things like that.  She's told me LOTS of the kids need help opening things.

Bah. I'm sorry that was said to your child

Emiliana7

I would also say something. To me that is bullying and I know schools are big about having no bullying happening.

J&A2008

Emiliana7:

I would also say something. To me that is bullying and I know schools are big about having no bullying happening.

Yes!  Schools are big on being "bully-free" but that's not going to happen when the teachers are doing the bullying and promoting that behavior!