I am getting really nervous about being a SAHM.

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I am so excited about it on one hand but on the other I am scared to death.  I have worked ever since Regan was 8 weeks old.  I wonder how I am going to deal with a 3 1/2 year old while being pregnant.  I know women do it everyday but I never have.

I also want to keep up her preschooling and I am nervous I will fail at that too.  Her last day in daycare/preschool will be 11/21, I am keeping her in an extra 2 weeks after my last day at work.

And I know this is stupid, but part of me wonders if she is even going to like staying home with me?  I mean on the weekends, we always have something planned and places to go.  It won't be like that now with us being home everyday.  I am just nervous and scared.

DaiLyght

Nothing to say except good luck. If I were in your place, I would have having the same thoughts and feelings.

Angela814

Did you decide to stay home with her?  That's in the back of my mind too now, although realistically I don't think we can afford it.  I have the same thoughts as you.  I think DD really benefits from the socialization of daycare.  I also am not sure what I would do with her home all day long, especially as the weather gets worse.  I'm sure you'll do great as a SAHM once you get started.  There are tons of resources out there.

FooBride

I think anytime you start a new job you get nervous about what to expect.  Just remember that any change always requires the kinks to be worked out, but in the long run I am sure you'll do great!  Good Luck!

JOEBunny

I worked for 12 years.  I do miss the "power" and "respect" aspect of working.  I look young, so people tend to underestimate my experience and education.  At work, that was not a problem because I had a title and a paycheck which automatically told people not to underestimate me. 

 I love being home with my DD.  She is 2.5.  I call her my pocket pet, because we go everywhere together and she goes in her sling most of the time (her pocket).  She goes to "school" one day a week, so I can go to doctors appointment, but for the most part, I have made an effort to make friend with lots of people and have lots of playdates.  We also get outside a lot, and I get loads more exercise than I did when I was working.  

I think that having worked for a long time, I appreciate very much the time I get to spend with her.  When she is 4, she will have to go to pre-k either full time or at least 3 days a week.  This is the only time in our lives we can explore and live without having to be someplace, or have a million commitments and things that have to be done.  I love it!  She seems to be thriving, confident, and loving. 

Reagan's Mommy

I've been SAH for 9 months now.  I'll be honest, it can be tough some days.  For me, I don't have any local friends/family, so it can get kind of lonely. 

There are certainly days when I think Reagan is bored being home with me.  Especially when the weather is crappy and we stay inside all day.  We don't have activities planned every day, but I searched on some websites for easy things to do, so that I always have some "go to" activities when she seems to need something "new".

Also, if you belong to a gym or somewhere that has a daycare/nursery, you should take advantage of that.  It gives you both a break.  Or, maybe a babysitter for a couple hours once in a while. 

Good luck!

stacynikki

I think that once both of your get a routine and a schedule going you'll both love it! 

wellfleet04

Kate and I are SO busy!  If you want to, you can have scheduled activities all the time, or as much as you want to.  It just takes some motivating in the beginning.  We have a couple playgroups a week (organized by the local mother's group in my town), a music class, story time at the library or PBK, trips to the farm/zoo/museum, nature walks with the dog, the park, etc.  I made a big effort when we moved to a new town to meet other moms and it is totally paying off.  Kate and I both have a great network of friends here, and we've only been her 6 months. 

 

zansmom

I think you paged me on this one!  I just became a SAHM a month ago.  I get how you feel. We have an activity every morning because I am so fearful that she'll get too bored. I will warn you that it is exhausting with a baby in tow.  I would not change it for the world though! These moments with my kids are precious! I'm home for my son at the end of the school day which is a privelege. My days are crazy and my house still is not as clean as I imagined it would be!  But I love it and feel blessed to have this time at home (we never thought this would be possible).

 Good luck and enjoy!