Those of you afraid of miscarriage

KM121309

Here is a chart I look at when I need some "calm."

The likelihood is pretty low now and will only get lower after I hear heartbeat on Friday.  

 https://www.pregnancycharts.org/miscarriage.php

FlannelGrl

Thanks for sharing!

zyas

thank you! That was great!

peeper72

I'd love to see this but the link isn't working for me

 

KM121309

Peeper, try cutting and pasting into browser?? 

KM121309

Glad you ladies are enjoying. Like I said, it helps me find my place of calm if I am feeling scared

writerinNYC

This is helpful. Does it count if the heartbeat was seen but not heard? My OB didn't have equipment to measure the HR. 

 

I want piece of mind but apparently I'm still worried because we didn't actually HEAR the heart beat or find out the rate. Sigh. 

holliekriegel

thanks hope we all get our sticky babies

 

kristeno90

Thank you for sharing. That does help!

zappatini

Thanks for this!  Since we haven't seen our OB yet (first appt is Friday) I have been wondering what the possibility is.  Being on the boards sometimes makes it appear more probable than the statistics.

ashie0610

zappatini:

Being on the boards sometimes makes it appear more probable than the statistics.

I totally agree. I love to come here and see people going through the same things as I am, but sometimes I need to take a break when there seems to be a lot of bad news at times.  Sometimes I just need to remind myself that we're more likely to see m/c posts on here than we normally would hear about.

carmenlcoats

That made my day! Thank you! : )

shrtfrkgrl

Thanks that does get rid of some worry.

carebear054

Thanks for sharing! Definitely helps calm the nerves a little....

MrsC0409

writerinNYC:

This is helpful. Does it count if the heartbeat was seen but not heard? My OB didn't have equipment to measure the HR. 

 

I want piece of mind but apparently I'm still worried because we didn't actually HEAR the heart beat or find out the rate. Sigh. 

I'm no doctor, but I would be willing to bet that this counts as "hearing the heartbeat" You saw it beating, so if the equipment was available, you probably would have heard it. The important thing is, the heart is beating!

MrsC0409

writerinNYC:

This is helpful. Does it count if the heartbeat was seen but not heard? My OB didn't have equipment to measure the HR. 

 

I want piece of mind but apparently I'm still worried because we didn't actually HEAR the heart beat or find out the rate. Sigh. 

I'm no doctor, but I would be willing to bet that this counts as "hearing the heartbeat" You saw it beating, so if the equipment was available, you probably would have heard it. The important thing is, the heart is beating!

MrsC0409

writerinNYC:

This is helpful. Does it count if the heartbeat was seen but not heard? My OB didn't have equipment to measure the HR. 

 

I want piece of mind but apparently I'm still worried because we didn't actually HEAR the heart beat or find out the rate. Sigh. 

I'm no doctor, but I would be willing to bet that this counts as "hearing the heartbeat" You saw it beating, so if the equipment was available, you probably would have heard it. The important thing is, the heart is beating!

agapeflower117

Thanks!

Kayte317

For most normal, healthy women in their first pregnancy, the statistics look like this:

Week of Gestation	Percentage Likelihood  of Miscarriage
1-2 (You do not know you are pregnant)	75% (this includes eggs that never grow past fertilization, and it would have been impossible to know you were pregnant; after implantation, which occurs 7-10 days after ovulation, the odds go down to 31%)2
3-6	10% (after home urine test is positive at 14 days post ovulation when hCG levels reach 50-80)2
6-12	5% (or less if heartbeat heard)
2nd trimester	3% (considered stillbirth after 20 weeks)
3rd trimester	No longer considered miscarriage once fetus is beyond one pound (500 grams) around 24 weeks gestation. Stillbirth rate is 1%.

Statistics for repeat miscarriage

Situation	Percentage Likelihood  of Miscarriage  in Your Next Pregnancy
If you had a miscarriage in your first pregnancy	13% chance of it happening again (up from 10%)1
One miscarriage after having one or more live births	10% (no more than normal)
Two pregnancies and two miscarriages	40% (you should already be eligible for basic testing)1
Multiple miscarriages with one or more live births	13% if you are under 35 If you had one healthy child early on and later have several miscarriages in a row, you should seek testing, as your odds may have changed.
Three pregnancies and three miscarriages	60% (you should have testing done after three concurrent miscarriages)1
Four or more miscarriages with no live births	Your odds are as low as 0 to 5%. It's time to stop trying on your own and seek the help of a qualified reproductive endocrinologist or fertility specialist. See the section on causes of miscarriage for more information on what may be causing your losses.42
Maternal age over 35	If you have healthy children or this is your first pregnancy, and are in good health yourself, there is no reason to worry about an increased risk of miscarriage. It is a fact, however, that eggs begin to deteriorate after age 35 regardless of the mother's health, and a higher rate of miscarriage and babies born with birth defects will occur. Recommended reading if you are over 35 can be found atwww.marchofdimes.com.
After your first miscarriage, your likelihood of becoming a recurrent miscarrier	20%6I don't like this statistic, as it doesn't match the others. But few places will give a number for this. This one comes from Miscarriage, A Woman Doctor's View.

 

Statistics on Ectopic Pregnancy

Situation	Percentage Likelihood  of Ectopic
No history of ectopics	2%43
Tube with ectopic removed completely	9%
Tube with ectopic preserved	12%

 Even though your rate of ectopic is a bit higher when your tube is preserved, you want to keep your tube if you can. It dramatically increases your ability to get pregnant again.

Kayte317

Yay!  It worked, hope it helps!  

MissRachel621

ashie0610:

zappatini:

Being on the boards sometimes makes it appear more probable than the statistics.

I totally agree. I love to come here and see people going through the same things as I am, but sometimes I need to take a break when there seems to be a lot of bad news at times.  Sometimes I just need to remind myself that we're more likely to see m/c posts on here than we normally would hear about.

I second (third?) this sentiment.  It also helps me to remember that "People Who Post on The Bump" is not a representative sample, in scientific terms.  It's a specific type of person who uses these boards, which further reduces the sample size.  At least, that's what I tell myself

apollonia10

hijoi:

Actually, that made me feel worse.

This. I don't like the "repeat miscarrier" thing. All my doctors have told me that this is not the case and one miscarriage does not make it more likely to have another.

JustcallmeGG2

I wish there was a chart about multiples that would calm me down.

I was feeling really good about everything until i read that if you are having twins, seeing a strong heartbeat means almost nothing.  something can go wrong at any time.  so much for my 2 moments of peace.

peeper72

Ah! There it works for me now. What a reassurance that there is a 95% chance that everything is going to be just fine from here on out!