How did your LO adjust to new sibling?

cld123

I have a 26-month old baby boy at home who I am so worried will feel jealous or insecure around his new baby sister..I think he will love her until he realizes she's there to stay and I am wondering how others little ones adjusted to their new siblings..?

cld123

He is also full throttle in his terrible 2's and I am worried the tantrums will increase even more once baby girl is here..

proudmotherof3nproudwifey

my two oldest did well when I had my son they had a little jealousy at first but they did great with him

Jillibean85

I plan on facing the same thing! My LO will be 2 yrs and 1 month old by the time her little brother arrives... I know it won't be easy at first, but i wouldn't worry about it. Like anything else, they'll adjust and grow to love them on their own time!

shelbym

My son was 22 months when my daughter was born. At first he ignored her.  The first few weeks I have pictures of him laying three feet away from her trying to pretend she is not there.   I would say he got jealous when she started moving around and was able to take his toys.  He also took her pacifier and baby toys in the first few weeks to act out.  I think my one saving grace was that he got lots of one on one attention from my dad and friends in the community so he was never really slighted.  Good Luck. 

led2009

It's a part of being the oldest child. Eventually they'll adjust and get over it. DD will be 2.5 when her little sister comes and she needs to learn that the world does not revolve around her. She's the only grandchild on my side and the only one close to grandma and grandpa on DH's side. She's become very spoiled which is why we didn't wait any longer for a sibling. She needs someone to share the spotlight and get all the attention off of her. I don't feel bad at all. In the end it will teach her a lot of lessons about sharing, since right now her favorite word is "mine" and when you tell her to share she cries.

Monicagail1

I just talked to my DD's pedi about this yesterday.  For the most part at that age there's not a lot you can do ahead of time, other than maybe give them a doll to take care of, and make sure any transitions (new bed, etc) are done in advance or well after the new baby arrives.  She said the biggest thing is mostly that they will be missing their "mom" time once the new baby arrives, and that if you can set aside 20-30 minutes a day of one on one time that will go a long way in helping them feel like they're still "special" to you.  She also said that usually the older kids don't act out toward the new sibling, and will tend to act out more towards you and DH so be prepared for that.

And, watch out for possible choking hazards from your older LO trying to "feed" the baby.  That's one of the biggest choking hazard for kids under 6 months, according to my pedi.