TTC after 35

So sad - warning - parent loss mentioned

I don't mean to be total downer, but this is one of the saddest things I've heard about in a long time. And I needed to share it.

https://www.thetigersnest.com/thesnydertwins/

I don't know they family, but they're friends of a friend here in NYC.

After trying for years to get pregnant, the couple conceived twins with IVF. And then the mother died from complications from the C-section delivery. Luckily, the babies are fine.

So tragic. I can't stop thinking about that poor woman, trying for so long, finally getting pregnant. Her dream was just about to come true. Why is the world so unfair? Women like this don't get to hold their children, while other people kill or abandon theirs. I just don't understand.

 

Me = 38, Husband = 31. TTC since 1/10. M/C at 8 wks 5/10. Started trying again 9/10. All tests normal: AMH/MIS, FSH, HSG, SA. Estradoil high. 6/20/11 - Clomid+Ovidrel+IUI#1=BFN. 7/17/11 - Clomid+IUI#2=BFN. 2 natural cycles = BFN. 10/6/11 - Clomid+Ovidrel+IUI#3=BFN. 10/31/11 - Clomid+Ovidrel+IUI#4 = BFN. 11/26/11 - Follistim+Ovidrel+IUI#5 = BFN. IVF#1 - Menopur+Follistim. 2 ET 5/11/12 = BFN.

Re: So sad - warning - parent loss mentioned

  • OMG......This brings tears to my eyes.  Such heartbreak.  That is horrible.  Wow.  Being a mom of twins this really tugs at my heart.  Prayers to her babies and her family.   
  • That's so very sad.  You go through IF as a couple, should always have chance to parent as a couple.  T & P to the families that our experiencing this loss and the babies that will grow up without a mom :(

     

    TTC since 10/09 Me-43 DH-44 RE and testing 10/10-11/10, Recommending IVF 1/11 New RE AMA and DOR-DH low motility IVF #1.1 cancelled 3/11 due to poor response IVF #1.2 May 2011, one perfect 8-cell embryo, 3dt-BFN, IVF #2.1 Converted to IUI d/t poor response. New RE 9/2011. IVF 2.2 completed using HGH,EPP,DHEA, Q-10 and accupuncture. Transferred one 8-cell, grade one embryo on 10/19. BFP 10/31/11 Chemical pregancy on 11/2/11. Started stims for IVF #3, our final try, on 12-2-11. ET on 12/18. Transferred 3 Grade A embryos-BFFN Planning DE IVF, late March/early April- Donors ER expected to be 4/2-4/4. PAIF/SAIF welcome
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  • How awful.  This makes me so sad.  I can't even imagine what the poor husband must be going through.  

    Those babies are so perfect and adorable, and after all those years of IF (the site said it had taken 7 years) their mother probably never even got the chance to hold them. 

    I'm happy that at least the husband seems to be holding up and getting support from family and friends.  He is even smiling in a couple of the pictures.  But . . . again, I can't even imagine how he must be feeling right now.

    As if we needed more evidence that life can be cruel and unfair.  :-( 

  • So completely heartbreaking. 
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  • Totally heartbreaking.  Those babies are perfect.  The poor man.  It's really nice to see the outpouring of support and love, though.
    me - 41 (dx: DOR); DH - 53 (no problems); 7/18/09 - married!; 8/4/09 - BFP on first (real)try; 9/14/09 - missed m/c; 9/15/09 - d&c; 11/09 - 3/10 - 4 natural cycles = BFN; 4/10 - dx hyperthyroidism caused by Graves' disease; 6/10 - thyroidectomy; 7/10 - 12/10 - 1 natural and 5 medicated IUI cycles = BFN; 1/11 - new RE; dx low ovarian reserve (AMH .42; 1/26/11 -- BFP (ectopic) from IUI #6; methotrexate 2/10/11; 6/2/11 - IVF #1 = BFN; 9/12/11 - prescreening for DE; 9/15/11 - IUI #7 (unmedicated)= BFN; 11/8 - begin DE cycle (shared risk program); 12/5 - ER (5 eggs/4 mature/3 fertilized/2 left by day 5) 12/10 - ET of one 1BB blast (expanded, "fair" quality), none to freeze; 12/22 - totally shocked by +hpt; beta #1 = 413; #2 = 3952 2/14 - CVS reveals a healthy baby girl! EDD: 8/27/12 DD born 8/31/12, 10 lbs 10 oz and perfect in every way. 
  • I couldn't read the article, but, oh, that poor woman. It's hard to remember in these modern times, but childbirth has always been very dangerous for women. My heart goes out to her husband and children.
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