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YES, I still have a month left. YES, I am aware my stomach is very large...vent...

In the past week or so I have been seen shocked face after shocked face when people ask how far along I am...and realize I still have a month left before my due date.  As if the face isn't enough, I have to hear the inevitable comment "Wow you look like you're about to pop that baby out now!"  

Now I know people aren't trying to be rude.  I'm aware that I have a thin frame naturally, and I'm carrying entirely out front.  You can't even tell I'm pregnant from behind.  But still....this doesn't make me feel any better.  Especially since I'm already freaked out that I've gained 50 pounds so far; and being a very athletic, healthy, in-shape person (pre-pregnancy) this is probably the most self-conscious I've ever been about my size.  Some days I don't want the pregnancy to end only because I don't want to face how my body is going to look after the baby is out.  I just don't know if I can face this another month.  I'm afraid one of these times I'm going to burst into tears if I keep hearing comments like these.

Just had to let this out...I'm sure I'm not the only one hearing this or feeling this! 


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    Oh, I'm in the exact same boat as you (except because I'm having a scheduled c-section at 39 weeks, I can just tell people I only have two weeks left). From about 20-ish weeks, I started getting the twins comments. I posted last week about how my own family tried to convince me I'm having twins. I'm 5'3", and just fairly small. I've gained 40+ pounds, so it's a lot on my frame, and yes, I realize, my belly is big. My OB said today she thinks the baby is going to be 9 lbs (my son was 8.6 and she accurately guessed his weight), so that is a lot of baby, especially on me. But still. What is wrong with people? It's SO RUDE. I want to HIT people when they say rude things, or act like complete a-holes when you say you have X many weeks left. About 28 weeks or so, I started responding with "can you believe there's an entire baby in there?!!!!" They'd just kind of look at me not knowing if I was kidding, which I liked because it's sort of a passive aggressive response (I don't care). All I can say is, I know how you feel. I've been there. People suck. 
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    I can relate, the other day someone asked when I was due i said the 29th, as I was starting to say of December they said oh yep you look like you are going to pop any day now. I have gotten a lot of those comments too :(
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    Ignore them, I know its hard but really its not worth stressing about. I am in the same boat, except I have 2 months left to go and I am getting those comments already...I had the same with my first baby. What can you do but ignore it! It won't be long before you are holding a sweet sweet baby and your body will be back on its way to how you were before 
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    There's really no winning when it comes to comments on your size when you're pregnant.  At work, all the girls comment on how big I am, which is fine, I've been through a pregnancy with them all before.  But for some reason, when I tell people I'm due Christmas Eve and I hear "Wow, you're so tiny!"  it makes me feel just as bad as being called a whale.  Like I'm not going to have a healthy baby because I'm so small (and to me...I'm HUGE!).  You just have to let it go...I figure, I got all the same comments when I was pregnant with DD1 and she was almost 9lbs, so I must be doing something right.
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    Yeah I've been getting these type of comments too. And I have 2 months left lol. I JUST had a baby so I started showing super early and I look MUCH father along then I am. But still ugh I realize I look big but you don't have to drop your jaw to the floor when I say I am due at the beginning of feb.
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    Yes, apparently it's a fairly universal trait that seeing a pregnant woman makes people say stupid things. I'm already starting to get such comments. They really bothered me with my first one, but this time around, I just give them a look and raise my eyebrows, like "Really?" and don't even respond. Then I move on and forget about it. It may be hard but I wish you luck in doing the same.
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    I understand sister!! I have been hearing this for about 3-4 weeks now, and I'm not due until............FEBRUARY!! It gets really old and its very rude.  I agree that people do not mean to be rude, but they need to think before they speak!! Good luck!
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    I've been hearing this since about 20 weeks at least too. I'm not due until Feb and people at work are the worst offenders (I only go to the office 1-2x a week). A couple weeks ago someone asked me if I was having triplets! I am having one. I've had the twins comment a million times. Then when I tell them just one- they're like "are you sure" and when I say "I've had 8 ultrasounds so far, I think the doctor would've noticed" they still say "well, you never know!" Grr
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    Totally know how you feel . . . I have spent all week working a sales meeting for my work. A total of 55 people and only four women. If I hear a fat joke one more time, I think I am going to SCREAM!!!!!

    They are all nice men, and I know that they are trying to be funny, but I really need it to be Friday.

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    Meh, most people just don't realize what a real 8/9 month pregnant woman looks like.  I don't let it bother me...and I got my first "any day now?" question last week. LOL

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    I've been hearing this since about 20 weeks at least too. I'm not due until Feb and people at work are the worst offenders (I only go to the office 1-2x a week). A couple weeks ago someone asked me if I was having triplets! I am having one. I've had the twins comment a million times. Then when I tell them just one- they're like "are you sure" and when I say "I've had 8 ultrasounds so far, I think the doctor would've noticed" they still say "well, you never know!" Grr

     

    That is EXACTLY what I have been hearing! I haven't been getting ill over it yet, just a little frustrated. Although, I imagine as I continue expanding I will get a bit more sensitive over it.  

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    People said that to me all the time with my first pregnancy. I carry my babies all out in front and my belly looks like a torpedo. I also gained 50lbs with DS1. If it makes you feel better, I was thinner after each pregnancy (within a couple of months) and also gained less with my next two pregnancies. With DS 2 I gained 40 and this baby I have only gained 23lbs! So don't worry, wear lots of black and dark colored clothing and just focus on the fun things about being pregnant. Babies are a lot harder to take care of on the outside! :) 
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    I was just telling my friend, people are the nicest to you when you are pregnant BUT they are also the most insensitive and nosy....Never again in your life will a complete stranger feel its ok to ask you how much weight have you gained or are you having sex to bring on labor or say WOW your HUGE! Or how about, did you dent the chair?? (that was a personal favorite)...!!! Now... I am not petite or athleticly built as you are, I was about average when I got pregnant the first time, I had actually just lost 30lbs and was in the best shape of my life, still had the little line of pudge on my belly that I had been working on and then I had a miscarriage. So all dieting and exercising went right out the window, in fact my arch nemesis of comfort eating returned 10 fold and then we were incredibly lucky and got pregnant again 2 months later. SO the 10 pounds of pudge I gained on top of what used to be a cute little belly during those depressing 2 months was no longer cute and THEN I was terrified to exercise!!! So by the time I was 3 months I got asked the twin question for the first time. I've since only gained 40lbs in 39 weeks, not to shabby, but I have literally been asked if I'm having triplets...it started out as a "are you having twins??" and when I smiled and shook my head they said "TRIPLETS!??!?!" I cannot possibly tell you how fast my smile disappeared and if looks could kill, a nuclear bomb would have gone off in that womans face!

    Women are supposed to gain weight when they're carrying a baby! I don't know when this notion was thrown out the window but I resent that I'm supposed to keep my shape in ANY way while growing a person! Maybe its all these actresses who evidently must starve themselves while they are pregnant to retain those unacheivable figures. It certainly doesn't look healthy to me. Obviously this is a problem that many of us deal with! I hope you all have wonderful DH's like mine though who have said to many people on my behalf, "actually... its none of your business how much weight she's gained, and I think she looks fantastic"..how I love him! :P

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    I have stopped telling strangers my actual due date because I was so sick hearing people comment on how big I was to still have X amount of weeks/months left.  Now I just tell them I'm full term and it could be any day now.  (Starting tomorrow, it will be the truth!) 
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    I am with you ladies on this! I have a few months to go, and I started getting the "WOW are you having twins??" Comments and just yesterday, a co-worker asked me when I was due. I said end of Feb and he was like, "You look like you could pop any day!  You're gonna have a baby that's bigger than our Thanksgiving turkey..." I groaned and said, "Pleeeeeeeeeease don't say that" and he laughed, and said "Well for your sake I hope not, that turkey was close to 25 lbs."

    ..... I know he was teasing me but I am starting to feel self conscious.

    Then over Thanksgiving my step MIL said to me, "How much weight have you gained?" Ummm... about 20 lbs.  "What? Don't they care about how much weight you gain during pregnancy??" Well, actually to my knowledge, between 20 and 40 lbs is completely "normal" for my build, and I have several months to go yet.
    She shut up real quick after that one. She never had kids herself so I don't think she could relate lol.
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    I completely feel the same way!  People have asked me if I'm having twins, and the most often heard words recently have been "WOW!", "Any day now!", and "You look like you're ready to pop!"  In fact, I've been hearing this since I was 7 months pregnant.  I also carry the baby all out front in the belly, and I'm 5'2" and have gained about 27 pounds... I guess it just seems like my belly is ginormous compared to the rest of me or something.  People aren't trying to be rude, I know, but those comments certainly don't feel great >.<.
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    I'm right there with ya hon. I hate hearing how big I am and I look so much further along. I really don't think I'm that big, I actually think I'm quite normal and I only have a belly maybe a very little in my face. People just don't know when to stop talking
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    People just don't think when speaking to a pregnant woman.  I have the opposite problem, but it causes the same hurt feelings.  People say to me "oh wow, you aren't very big" (I was heavy to begin with but here I thought I had a cute baby bump, instead of looking fat!) which is probably a compliment but to me sounds like "you don't look pregnant at all".  It is hard to deal with these people - I'm the type of person where I just smile and nod so as not to offend, and then cry about it later - I wish I could come up with a snappy response but that's never the case.  Try not to stress about it too much, I am sure you look adorable :)
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    I got these types of comments for the last 3 months of my pregnancy at work constantly. I eventually resorted to just saying "It really doesn't make a pregnant woman feel good to know that she looks 9 months pregnant when she's not" to everyone who felt the need to comment - I could say it with a little bit of a laugh, but I definitely got my point across that it was rude and an unwelcome comment. 
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    Lucky for you, you have 1 month left. I have a little over two months left and when I went to the mall on Black Friday this lady looked at me and said I was making her nervous and not to have the baby in the mall! Then when I got back to work after the Thanksgiving holiday a co-worker/acquaintance said. Dang! Did you swallow the turkey whole! Believe me I completely understand!
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    Hi sister. :) I'm going to butt in here and say you do NOT look like you're going to pop, and you don't look huge. People don't know what they're talking about, and a lot of them have never been around a full-term pregnant woman before.

    As far as being afraid of what your body will be like after baby ...  I think that's natural. And to be honest, it's not going to look the same at first. I'm sure that's not comforting, lol. But the good news is it can be the same again, you just have to have some patience. It took a year for your body to grow a baby, it's going to take at least a year to bounce back. Lucky for you, you were in good shape before you got pregnant (unlike me) and you are a healthy person. I don't think you'll have any problems. Make it a challenge to yourself (to be healthy and get back in shape) instead of seeing it as an impossible goal. It's all about your frame of mind!

    Last I want you to know that you are a beautiful woman, and you are doing a beautiful, wonderful thing (having a baby). Try not to let the comments roll off your back (I know, easier said than done). Start to believe that you ARE beautiful!

    Love you! :) 


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