Twins at 2 months...

MrsClark8109

My twins are 2 months. They were only an ounce apart at birth but DS is now a good pound heavier than DD. DS also tends to smile and laugh and play more whereas DD rarely smiles, and is more content to stare at the lights vs. actually playing. She's also alot fussier...DS can focus perfectly always vs. DD who can focus and track but when shes tired her left eye tends to turn in or out a little bit and not be paralell with the other eye.

I'm just wondering if the difference in development/temperments is normal? I feel like I worry more about DD just because I have another baby right there to compare her to--and I'm not sure if there is really anything to worry about or not...

UsedToBeGoldie

it's SO hard not to compare them- esp in that first  year when they are doing new thigns every other day.

Gibson was my bigger twin- almost 2lbs bigger at birth, and is now 10lbs bigger. Earlier on it bothered me and i kept feeling this need to get Grayson to catch up and be the same size- which is just silly - he's SUCH a different child - and part of that is his size and shape.  Now I love that they are so different in size - and personality.

Gibby was very hard to get to smile... didn't make a lot of eye contact, etc - I was SURE that he was going to get an ASD diagnosis (it's in my family).  He aslo was a lot slower to do gross motor skills (rolling, crawling, walking) b/c of his size... but did them all on the later end of normal.

Grayson was so smiley and always making eye contact from day 1. 

Then it flipped- and at 18mo Gray wasn't talking at all and Gibby was... suddenly I wasn't worried about Gibby - and was worried about Gray.  Turned out he had hearing loss and qualified for EI speech - and since tubes/therapy is doing great.... but what i'm ssaying is they totally flipped --- And gibby is excelling - very mature and wise for his age.   Grayson is about average for his age, slightly behind in speech.

we're potty trianing Gibby this week... Gray has zero interest - and that's fine with me.  I celebrate their differences now - and love that they do thigns on their own time... you'll get used to it - i think all twin moms compare like crazy that first year- it's hard not to

violaplayer

My guys have switched places a couple of times as to who weighs more.

 

And they're personalities/abilities are very different. One of my guys is verbally adventurous and the other is physically more adept.

So I would think it's pretty normal. Especially in fraternals. 

KarliB84

I wrote a post very similar to this a few weeks back and actually a week after I wrote that post my dd who was the crankier and very serious one started smiling non stop! I still do catch myself comparing them from time to time but I try and tell myself that they are two completely different babies and of course they won't be reaching every milestone at the same time!

 Just give her a little extra one on one time and I am sure she will come around! : )

MrsLoos

I could have written your post! My twin were fairly close in weight at birth and now DS has a couple lbs on DD, he is much more interactive, coos at toys and smiles constantly. DD smiles but not as often and doesn't make as much eye contact. My DS is the fussier one. DD only cries when she is hungry or overtired. And she sleeps like a champ, we can put her down awake and she will put herself to sleep. DS on the other hand is what we affectionately refer to as "the monster" during bed time, it's difficult to get him to sleep but once he's out he sleeps well. 

I've voiced these concerns to my pedi and she told me one of the biggest thing she sees with twins is parents comparing them - how can you not! She told me both babies are exactly where they should be and that I should try not to compare (yeah right!) 

mandi leigh

Ours are like that too! They were 5.5 and 6 at birth, and now they are 4 1/2 pounds apart (at 4 months old). They were developmentally doing a few things different at first but on the basics they seem to have caught up to each other, for now. I know they'll be walking, talking, and crawling at different times, but with the eyes, smiling, and moving they are now right with each other

Fancy3Face

I did/do the same thing.  My Ped always gets onto me for comparing them.  Annie was born 3 ounces heavier and continued to be just a smidge heavier for the first 3 months (we're talking 6oz at the most).  She was WAY ahead developmentally also.  She had amazing head control right out of the womb, she sat unassisted first (and early), she started gabbing first, etc.   Around 4 months Mack had a HUGE growth spurt and now weights a good 2lbs more than her and is about 3 inches longer.  He's also ahead of her (just barely) developmentally now.  He was the first to crawl, he's starting to pull himself up, he's more of a talker too.  To the untrained eye, they're pretty much neck and neck at the present, but he's a little ahead. 

I agree with Goldie about celebrating their differences!

 

MrsClark8109

Thanks ladies-- I feel better knowing that this happens and will keep happening I know that if I had just DD I probably wouldn't even notice that shes not that smiley-- I think its just harder when you have another baby there to compare and they aren't the same.