I never knew this would be my biggest challenge of being a FTM. I have read all the books, tried a number of different things, and asked advice of everyone I know. Sometimes LO is a kick butt sleeper, and sometimes not so much. And there's no way I can make a connection about why sometimes his sleeping rocks, and why sometimes his sleeping sucks! And there's always a reason; this growth spurt, 4MW, a wonder week...when do babies just start sleeping? If ever? Ugh, sorry we're having one of those days...
Re: Tired of obsessing about baby's sleep...
We're having one of those days too. Up 4 times last night....two hours to get 2 20 minutes naps this morning...gave up...drove around for 90 minutes to get a 30 minute nap....both of us in tears at the end of the drive. I fed him and handed him off to DH who is similarly having no luck at getting a nap. So my kid was up at 6 and has slept a total of 70 minutes since then and it's 2pm now.
I'm eating something finally and reminding myself "this too shall pass" while DH works on it before he goes in to work at 5pm
Hope your day gets better!
well I just rocked him back to sleep after his 45 minute wake up
Hopefully he'll be down for another hour. So we're doing better than this morning.
Maybe he just doesn't need as many naps...I don't know. Darn babies and their secret preferences!
Our DS wouldn't fall back asleep after his 45 minute wake -- we struggle with that one a lot. Although he did take a 2 hour nap this morning and about an hour when we were out -- so I'm taking it and going with the flow. He woke up all smiles, so when he's like that, we have to give into the 45 minute intruder....
Sometimes we can't get past the 45 minute intruder, but usually we can with some rocking and pacifier and shushing. If he wakes up at 45 minutes and is crying it usually means we can get him to go for more sleep. If he's awake and talking it's really hard to get him back down.
....and this too shall pass
DS is a decent sleeper at night, I get 7 hours out of him, then he wakes up to nurse then goes back down for a few more hours. Usually wakes up between 5 and 6. But there's some really awful nights. Sometimes he goes to bed at 4:30, and is wide awake at 11 and it freaking sucks! He doesn't nap well though, never has. 45 minutes is a loooong nap for him. And some nights he's up every hour or two. It happens, and it sucks.
Honestly, I don't keep track of when he's sleeping. When people ask me how he sleeps, I just say he sleeps good, and I try not to dwell on it. Life is what you make it. Try to let it go, and just say "this is how my baby sleeps, and as long as he's healthy it's ok." and see if in a couple of days you don't feel less stressed. And remember, it doesn't last forever
GL!
haha glad to know I'm not alone with this. I have a friend who had a baby 3 days before I did and all we do is obsess over sleep. Her son has STTN since about 3 mos old but is impossible to put to sleep. My son goes to sleep fairly easy but tends to wake up - recently I put him on his belly to sleep and he has been sleeping much longer. However, I don't rest easy knowing this. I battle daily with naps and obsess over it. I knew babies didnt sleep all that well but I had NO idea I would obsess that much