How do you handle the waiting?

Magoy

We're currently being presented to a potential BM, she should have received the package of profiles in the mail today.  I believe we are only one of three couples being shown, unless that changed late last week.  

I'm a mess!  I can't concentrate.  I have a million things to do to get ready for Thanksgiving (we're hosting this year) and I can't stop checking my phone and my email.  

I figure there is a good chance we won't be chosen.  Statistically, I guess there's a 66% that we won't be.  We already have a DD and our profile was thrown together at the last minute in order to be presented to her.  I'm certain the other profiles are a million times better than ours.  (Yes, this is what is occupying my mind...all the reasons we won't be chosen!) 

So, how did you handle the waiting?  

Art Teacher

We didn't know ahead of time when we were being shown, so that made it a lot easier.  Friends of ours are adopting right now and are in the same boat - last Friday their profile was given to a set of birthparents who are trying to choose adoptive parents.  They are still waiting. 

Try to give yourself little jobs to do, I guess.  That's what I did when we were waiting, in general.  We worked on dd's room, cleaned other parts of the house, I made art for her room, I bought clothes/baby supplies, I wrote in a journal for her, etc.  It made me feel like I was doing something. 

And share how you're feeling - with friends, with your dh, on here with us...it helps to talk about it.

(Wishing you all the best!)

Dr.Loretta

We didn't know ahead of time either.

I figured our child would come to us when it was meant to be. Cheesy, but it worked.

so1966

we didn't know ahead of time either (about being shown).  for us, it took the agency's typical max time, so what I did is check in with them periodically and make sure our photos and bm letter were the best they can be.  i also tried to do things to keep myself busy.  it is sooo hard. i certainly can relate...

Joe'sSweetPea

We are in the same place.  Normally our facilitator doesn't share when families are being presented, but in this case, the birth father maybe Native American, and she needed our consent to be shown.  Now, My hubs and I are in the same camp as Dr. Loretta, we really believe that when it is our time to be parents, our baby will choose us.  Until then, I pray a lot to remind me that the choice is really out of our hands until we get 'the call'.  I know that doesn't really answer your question, but it is how we are getting through this time.

kellz

waiting is excrutiating- it just is.  We were told ahead of time, and I'm not sure if that was worse, because once it didn't work out, and once it did.  It took over 2 years for us, and every bit of it was so impossibly hard.  I send lots of hugs and prayers that you get good news!