Mothers of Twins

TryingToGrow

I watch my sisters children constantly, she has a 6 yo daughter, 5 yo son and 2 yo twins, boy and girl. Her older two are so very well spoken and what not but her twins, is where I find something off. (Pardon my poor grammar, I'm writing as I think) The girl, K, is speaking full sentences and needs to be potty trained, she'll bring you a diaper and what not. But the boy, A, he doesn't talk, he doesn't know when he's wet, he won't bring a diaper if you ask, his sister always does. K does everything for A. She talks for him, dresses him (to the best of her abilities), brings his diapers, I mean EVERYTHING. 

It's just...odd for me to see this but it could be normal and I not even know it lol Have any of you seen something like this with your children? A won't mutter a word, he just uses hand motions, like when he wants to be held, he'll whine and hold his arms up and K will say "he wants up" He can talk, he just chooses not to.. 

leapgirl8

You may be interested in a thread that was posted on the Multiples board yesterday called "Developmental delay in one twin?" Lots of twin moms talking about the differences between their twins.

2brides

well, 2 things. One - girls often are potty trained way before boys. So it doesn't surprise me that the girl is articulating that she is wet and wanting to be changed and the boy isn't. The average age of potty training a boy is about 3y, so him having no interest or even acknowledging he is wet is totally within the norm. My guys didn't potty train until 3y 3m and no one batted an eye.

The second, is his speech delay. Both of my kids had speech delay (Gray because he didn't babble/make sounds by 15m and Carter because by age 2y you couldn't understand anything he was saying (the rule is that at 2y you should understand 50%, 3y 75% and 4y 100%.) Both graduated from speech around 3y, but Carter is about to be evaluated again for articulation.It sounds like he should be evaluated for speech (both receptive and expressive.) Also mom should encourage him to use his words and not let his siblings speak for him or do everything for me. Gray will often do things for Carter because he can/willing/etc, but we make Carter do things on his own, even if it takes him longer and is a challenge - it is how he learns and gains confidence in his abilities.

People often expect twins to develop similarly, but twins (especially fraternal twins who are no more genetically alike than siblings born at different times) often have their own developmental tracks. I know that I have said it time and time again on here, but my guys are night and day. Their personalities, interests, abilities are on opposite ends of the spectrum. It can make parenting a challenge.

2moms2twins

2brides:

People often expect twins to develop similarly, but twins (especially fraternal twins who are no more genetically alike than siblings born at different times) often have their own developmental tracks. I know that I have said it time and time again on here, but my guys are night and day. Their personalities, interests, abilities are on opposite ends of the spectrum. It can make parenting a challenge.

THIS THIS THIS our Pediatrician always says dont compare and we dont  Lilka and Sloan are so diff  on every level.   On is chill one a wee bit more spazzy and One is a TALKER and one is not.  One can do fancy baby tricks and the other can do other fancy baby tricks. 

- J&M