Making room for baby = husband/wife drama.

mgg

I'm so sick of fighting over this. In order to have a nursery and a guest room, we had to consolidate two rooms - one of DH's gear and one of my favorite stuff that I like to have to look at, but that doesn't belong anywhere else. Anyway, it's creating so much freaking drama to move my stuff into his gear room and for him to move his clothes out of what will be the baby's closet. Every single time we try to get anything done on this project we just end up in a huge fight. I'm so sick of it.

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firsttogo

Trust me, I am not criticizing, but try to remind DH to think about the reason that you are "fighting" You are having a BABY!!!! That may make him change his tune a bit. Congratulations!

LucyPevensie

It took my husband a while to realize that he was going to have to get rid of/consolidate some of his "toys" (and I do mean toys .. he collects all sorts of action figures and goofy crap) to make room for baby.  I think it was made easier by the fact that before we did anything with the baby's room - he re-did our (very small) basement on the cheap and made that his little man cave.  Finally - he came around to the idea that we had to get rid of his GIANT childhood desk and hideous chest he had in the spare room (what is now the baby's room) and we finally got rid of the futon that was in there too.  He just finally realized something had to give.  And now the baby's room is really coming together. 

What if you just take his clothes out of the baby's closet and toss them on the floor?  OK .. kidding ..

I'm sorry.  Just try to keep your cool.  Have you had a shower yet?  I think bringing all that loot in the house also helped DH realize "oh, another person is moving in.  We need to make room."
 

readyin07

Ha! This is timely b/c DH and I were cleaning out the nursery today! Let me tell you -- it is a nightmare. We only have a 3 BR -- pre baby we had a master with a teeny closet, a guest room which stored a ton of CRAP and my extra clothes and an "office" where DH keeps his clothes. The guest room is becoming the baby's room and there is nowhere to put all of our stuff!! I've been begging DH all day to get a few more jobs so we can have a bigger house Don't worry...you guys will get through it. It is a huge adjustment -- can you incorporate some of your things into other spaces in the house so it doesn't all 'invade' DH's gear room?

mgg

So yall totally feel my pain then! I mean - we have a 4 bedroom house for crying out loud. And we can't make room for a BABY?? Three extra bedrooms can't be enough space to make room for everything?

I just have a hard hard hard time being understanding of DH not wanting to get rid of *some* of the (I"m not kidding here) 10+ tents that he owns. And the 15+ sleeping bags. And the 8,000 meter parka that he wore climbing?Rainier. ?Or don't get rid of them, but put them in storage boxes in the garage.?

Oh - did I mention that he, in addition to the gear room, has the entire garage for his own use (I can't even park my car in there. That's right. I'll be scraping snow off my car while baby waits in the house because of the THREE motorcycles and zillions of tools that get priority garages space.) AND he has an entire shed in the backyard full of tools. I just get so frustrated with the amount of stuff he has and demands space for, and I get a corner of the gear room. That's it. And he's the one that gets upset at me because he's getting "screwed" out of closet space.?

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LisaMarisa

We had to consolidate the office and guest room and it took a few weeks before it was even close to being done and then took several more weeks to finish.  It is so hard to consolidate!  Maybe if you try to look at it as several small projects instead of one large project it might be easier to handle.  You'll figure it out!

Mrs.RockyM

this was our day too.  Our office/storage room needs to be completely emptied out inorder to make it a nursery, and our basement guest room will then become the new office/guestroom/storage room.  DH has so many toys (star wars junk and airplanes, and stupid stuff he just won't get rid of) and we have nowhere to put it.  We only have a 3br townhouse!  Plus when I moved in after we got engaged, he never went through his stuff to make room for mine.  So he's got years and years worth of crap to go through.  And this is all before we've got to paint the entire house (including the nursery) and move everything down into the basement! 

kittylove

I can feel your pain. We fought a lot while cleaning out the "office" but now DH and I both love the baby room. It will all be worth it. And I agree your DH will understand better once all the stuff from your shower comes home. Mine was amazed at how much STUFF we got and needed.