DH is driving me insane VENT

mgra328

ARGH!  we do not like the same names at all, esp. for boys.  it seems he only likes a name if he knows someone that has the name.  i finally told him, pick a name that does not belong to someone you went to high school with, please.

he is stuck on names like Christopher, Michael and Matthew.  Don't get me wrong...those are fine.  But I always think, these days, is that the best you can do?  There are a million names out there!

I keep giving him short lists of names that I like, he'll completely dismiss half of them and leave a few.  So when I tell him that X is a front runner, he says, "Yeah, I'm not really feeling that one."  Even though he did not take it off the list.

Sigh...we go through this every pregnancy and I keep saying that if I have to carry the child and birth the child, I should get to name the child.  LOL! 

goodgollie

That's difficult.  DH and I had a really hard time with our first pregnancy.  He tends to not LOVE any names.  So I kept a running list of all the names I liked and when we finally got pregnant we went through the list. He nixed all the ones he hated and took awhile considering the rest.  I also let him use family names from his side of the family for middle names.  I thought it was a good compromise.  GL!

emisi

My husband LOVES the name Kirk.  I don't mind the name, so much as you KNOW he's going to be teased and called "Captain."  But every other boy's name I come up with, I get "nah, don't like that one."  Men can get so stuck on names!

mgra328

if i hear christopher, angela or maria one more time....LOL!

 

led2009

Fortunately we aren't having a boy because we have the same problem. We absolutely can't agree on names. DH loves Hunter and I hate it. I like Liam and Ian which he says are "to European" whatever that means! Girl names seem to be easier for us.

alliejo725

Dude, this being your fifth pregnancy, you have to know---18 weeks is EARLY to be arguing about this.

Did you ever think maybe your H has the perspective that it's just too early to be fretting over the name, and THAT'S why his main responses are "no" and "I'm not feeling it"?

If I were you, I would let it rest. Kick back. Don't worry about it. Are you finding out the sex? Wait til then to start seriously discussing names. Are you team green? Still wait until the anatomy scan.

I get it, I was an annoying wreck with DD's name for EIGHT MONTHS, until DH (what irony!) finally suggested something that I agreed to. But that whole process taught me that, wow, 40 weeks is a very long time. Arguing about a name to begin with is a little silly; doing so any earlier than 20 weeks is bonkers.

I think you'd be amazed just how much giving it a break for a while will refresh the discussion. And once you have it limited to one sex---things get so much easier.

ETA: I have a counting problem. Sorry---I just saw now that this is your sixth pregnancy, not your fifth.

bread&jam

alliejo725:

Dude, this being your fifth pregnancy, you have to know---18 weeks is EARLY to be arguing about this.

Did you ever think maybe your H has the perspective that it's just too early to be fretting over the name, and THAT'S why his main responses are "no" and "I'm not feeling it"?

If I were you, I would let it rest. Kick back. Don't worry about it. Are you finding out the sex? Wait til then to start seriously discussing names. Are you team green? Still wait until the anatomy scan.

I get it, I was an annoying wreck with DD's name for EIGHT MONTHS, until DH (what irony!) finally suggested something that I agreed to. But that whole process taught me that, wow, 40 weeks is a very long time. Arguing about a name to begin with is a little silly; doing so any earlier than 20 weeks is bonkers.

I think you'd be amazed just how much giving it a break for a while will refresh the discussion. And once you have it limited to one sex---things get so much easier.

ETA: I have a counting problem. Sorry---I just saw now that this is your sixth pregnancy, not your fifth.

This is good advice. My husband is not into baby names until after we find out the sex AND we are well into the third trimester. Keep a list of names you love, add to it, play with first names/middle names, post here about the names you like, etc., but leave him out of it for awhile. Most men just aren't as interested in getting the baby named 38 weeks before he/she gets here.

Ivana_Stolichnaya

We're on our second child.  My husband has come up with only ONE name between the two of them.  All he did last time was sit back and veto all my name ideas.  This time he brought one to the table and he's hooked on it and refusing to budge.  He's even telling family members his name choice over dinner and trying to get them to jump on board with him and make me look like the only one who's on the outs.  I don't think that's fair.  I went through so many name ideas and he had no problem saying, "Hmmmm......nah" or "::sigh::....I don't know about that one"

It's frustrating. I'm not going to say the name because I don't want to offend anyone here but I'll just say the name is really dated and went out in the 80's and probably for a good reason, where he got it from is beyond me.

mgra328

We start early bc it takes this long.  And this being my sixth pregnancy, I know what will happen.  We won't make a decision and then by the end of the 3rd tri, it's stressful.

With our last baby we were going back and forth until she was 30 minutes old bc we still didn't have a name.  I don't want to feel rushed to just "pick already."

Further, we ARE team green and we have already had our a/s. 

 Thanks, though.