What kind of expectant wife/partner have you been?

CountingUp

So far I've been pretty awesome. I'd want to be married to me. The morning sickness months were tough and my husband had to take care of more than 50% of the meal planning and chores. After week 16 I was back to normal and tasks returned to more of a 50/50 split.

 I'm not too moody but every couple of weeks I feel emotionally overwhelmed and end up crying in bed before falling asleep. At that point I just need an arm around me and a comforting lead into slumber. I tend to wake up a-okay.

These days I'm not very comfortable. I don't whine but I do mention what kind of day I've had (sore ribs/heart burn) so that he doesn't think that this is a breeze. It's tough. It's work.

I've become slightly more needing the past few weeks. This has resulted in me asking for more screen-free time together and planning dinner's out or company in. I've also asked for more "lovin'" while I have my current girl-bits. I am worried about the delivery renovations that will be happening in a few weeks. I just want to make the most of the bits while they are still the bits we know!

alkinney

I'd say on a scale of 1 to awesome, I've been extremely awesome. 

Rosie24

I've had a pretty smooth pregnancy so I have been my normal awesome self for the most part.

I think that I may be starting to get a bit stressed with EDD approaching so I am a little more overwhelmed and I may be coming off as more emotional and stressed than before.

I still do everything and go everywhere though...DH is pretty lucky;)

kaymaroo

I've had two, maybe three bad mood swings.  I don't whine much, but like you I do let DH know what's going on.  And since I don't work I'm still doing all of the house and yard work, I just have to take more breaks so things get done more slowly than usual.  Overall I think I've been pretty good about everything, but it's not like I've had NO changes whatsoever.

iluvmylab

Besides much less sex, nothing really has changed.  I still do the chores I used to do before, although DH took over completely for changing cat litter.  I'm not whiney, I let him go out with his friends, play his video games, etc.  I do ask him to get me something every now and then when I'm comfy on the couch, but for the most part, I think he's had it pretty darn easy.  Oh, except for when the credit card bill comes and he sees how much I've spent on the baby!

indomesticbliss

yeah, nothing has changed for us (nothing changed with my first pregnancy either). Honestly, DH often says that he forgets I'm pregnant until he goes to open a bottle of wine and takes out one glass instead of two.

Or until he wakes up to me eating cereal at 3 am.....

JessH85

I've had a pretty smooth pregnancy so I didn't do too much whining in the beginning but the further along I get the more I find myself complaining in the evening. I am admittedly quite spoiled... my husband has slowly taken on many more household chores, rubs my feet every single night and will go do grocery shopping that we used to do together if I'm really tired after work. All this and he started an online grad school program in June so his after-work workload has significantly increased. I love him!

Happily Overwhelmed

I've been lazy. Not moody or crabby...just lazy. I've had a few crying outbursts for no reason but DH found them "cute"

I haven't been keeping up with the house or cooking like I should. But I still think I'm pretty fun to be around and haven't demanded much of DH at all. I've been pretty laid back (for God's sake the nursery is barely started!). I have a few whiny moments but that's normally on my way to bed/or a nap. I've been trying my best to handle crabbiness before it starts! Otherwise just normal stuff I can't control (tons of m/s).

Moozilla11

Saying as I clean the apartment every day. Cook 3 meals a day every day. Take care of DD all day every day. Do the laundry and put it away. All while DH plays video games from the moment he gets off work until he goes to bed and he has not been murdered yet..... I would say I am a pretty awesome wife. Looking forward to hospital time because that is almost a vacation in my eyes.

JennaM919

We were just talking about this tonight. If I am feeling something unusual I will comment to him, just so he knows if I end up in the hospital and they ask my symptoms. Other than that, I pretty much keep complaints to myself. I probably shouldn't do that, as I think he forgets that I'm pregnant!

beezybaby

Honestly, at the beginning, I sort of sucked.  I didn't have REALLY bad m/s, but I got super depressed (we had just moved out of the country, away from civilization, into a new job, etc...)  I never wanted to have sex, and I was pretty down in general. I think given the situation I handled it pretty well, and DH says I was a trooper, but I look back and I think I could have been cooler.  

after the 1st tri passed my usual coolness returned.  We did fun things, and I continued my normal share of the responsibilities.   I am more now queasy though, so he has taken on some of the grosser things I used to do. I have included him in all the baby related decisions and tasks he wants, and let him off the hook for the tedious things.  I only have periodic neediness, and emotional overloaded-ness, but I am pretty good at telling him when its coming and saying sorry before and after S**t hits the fan. Oh, and my libido returned full force!

Now I am planning an awesome surprise night out with his boys for when he joins me here in the states, hopefully before the baby comes!!!  I think that's pretty awesome.  

wintersnight20

Eh, for this one I salute and worship the ground my husband walks on. I have been an awful pregnant lady to deal with. In the beginning I was very excited and couldn't wait, we moved our wedding date, got our adorable house and started planning for  for what we thought would be a wonderful start to our new life together. I got fired from my job a month later and it snowballed from there until the point I developed depression and had to be put on medication....I've been very needy and I know I'm hard to deal with because I can't handle fear/stress well...but he never once made me feel bad, he held me when I cried for hours, never yelled back when I would freak out over something as stupid as my tostada shell breaking and go on a rampage, didn't guilt trip me over not having found work (I tried SO fricking hard) and was supportive and sweet, Genuinely the guy I fell so flipping in love with it was unreal...I'm better now and I make sure he knows how important he is everyday lol and I hope soon I can do something amazing for him to thank him for being such a wonderful husband/dad.

Mass-girl-at-heart

DH is still alive, I'm a f'ing saint

mirandagc91

Mass-girl-at-heart:

DH is still alive, I'm a f'ing saint

 

HAHAHAHAH AMEN!!!!!! This is our house exactly

Maggie-Moo

Yah, I am pretty emotional and DH has gotten the brunt of it at times (however, he DID do things like offer to have his sister's baby shower at our house less than 2 weeks after our EDD and I found out after he made the offer to his mom. He figured since they will all be in from out of town to see or baby, we could just have the shower then. That resulted in a spazz-out, but has since been rectified). I have complained abut stuff, but some has been more including him in what is going on (holy cr@p! look at my sausage feet!). He does most of the stuff around the house, but I have been trying to make sure he knows he is appreciated and still do things for him, too.I have also been doing all of the baby stuff I can, and have limited the extra work he has to do for that, although assembling crib and moving furniture were still his job.

I guess I am not as awesome as some of the other ladies, but I definitely agree with the thought that we have both made it through and only had a few blow-outs, so that is good.

xxmiyaxx

I've been a pretty effin AWESOME wifey during my pregnancy, in my opinion!
I've had a pretty smooth pregnancy (thank goodness)...so DH got lucky or I probably could have been a total nightmare.

I didn't have any MS and no weird cravings or aversions, so he didn't have to deal with any food issues. I don't whine when I'm aching, he hasn't needed to give me any massages, I still go out and do everything he asks me to go with him to (such as friend's events, errands he wants to do, visiting his family, etc...), I cook, clean, do laundry, work full time, take care of my own doctor's appts, and everything else I always did before getting pregnant.

Yes, I do have some hormonal moments, especially now during my 3rd tri....where the stress of everything (LO coming and NOTHING is ready, trying to move into a new house, and more...) has made me quite upset and we've argued a few times and I've cried over things maybe once or twice...But it is nothing that I didn't get over in a day, and he totally didn't take to heart anything mean I said LoL (he was actually sweeter after...cuz he knows I'm completely stressed out)

I say he got off easy this time.
I did tell him that I cannot guarantee that pregnancy #2 will be the same though...so he better not hold it against me if I end up being a total b!tch!! LOL