"push present?"

cutekate

Let me preface this by saying I am aware the idea of a "push present" irritates people and I am not trying to start a debate. A healthy happy baby is gift enough, however where we live push presents seem to be all the rage. My H asked me what I had in mind and I was kind of surpised because I am actually scheduled for a c-section next friday due to her being breech- so I most likely wont be pushing unless she flips. But being that he is insisting I pick something out I am looking to you ladies for suggestions.

I want something that I will have forever- such as a piece of jewelery, rather then some sort of electronics.

Has this been discussed before and I missed the post? Are you aware that you are getting something? Did you pick it out? Any suggestions?

 

jb2rn

We have not discussed it. I don't expect a gift. A heartfelt card would be nice, though. I am a "card person" and keep all cards my husband gives me. I remind him that cards mean a lot to me.

I also like jewlery, something like this? : https://www.thevintagepearl.com/products/acupoflove_p23

KBBH

DH and I have talked about it and we had decided that he would get me something.  However, as the time gets closer and I start to panic about money, I feel like I can't justify having him spend money on something like that when we have the holidays, a new LO, and 4 weeks of my maternity leave are unpaid.  So I am having a hard time justifying it.

baileyrayvalentine

Maybe something with the birth stone of your LO - by the way, the November birth stone is topaz

oliviosis

I didn't even know that my DH knew what this was but he came in with a gift a few days BEFORE we had our son and said he'd gotten me a "push gift"!  I was like, "Uhh, I haven't PUSHED yet!".   Anyway, he got a really nice camera for us to take pictures of our LO.  It was really just an excuse to buy something we needed to get anyway but it was sweet and he was so excited to give it to me. 

BUmama

DH talked about this a few months ago (this our 3rd baby btw, but he just heard of the concept from a co-worker). And the other day he offered me the sweetest gift ever--a tummy tuck!

No seriously, he was being sweet! He knows how much the belly bothered me after my first c/s and that it hasn't gotten better. So he said that when I get to my goal weight (we're starting weight watchers after I've been cleared for exercise) that he'll happily pay for me to have my tummy put back the way it used to be!

Sounds horrible I know, but I thought it was sweet!

azcobride

I hate the term push present. I certainly don't think I need a gift for doing what needs to be done to give birth. However, I love the idea of marking a very special day in BOTH of our lives with a small gift that will last forever. My grandpa gave my grandma a small piece of jewelry at every birth and she has since passed those down to her grandchildren. I thought that was really nice so I've asked my husband to do the same and to perhaps incorporate the birthstone. I've told him nothing expensive (as in not more than $100). For my son, he bought me a necklace that has a tree on it and said it represents the new family tree that we've started. I thought that was so sweet!

megs68

DH shocked me by giving me diamond earrings after DS was born.  He gave them to me a few hours afterward and he loves that I have something special to remember the day and can pass them down later.  He has asked me about what I would want this time around, but I can't really answer, because I know I don't need anything and the baby is enough obviously.  I just said that I'd prefer jewelry that I could pass down to her later if he wanted to give anything.

planeprincess

I found on Etsy jewlery a very delicate leave design braclet ( also comes in a necklas) that you can add charms to each leaf to represent your family.  I think i will be buying this myself for mothers day.

jnealet

Someone once suggested that the push present should be something that you can pass to your child (or their future spouse).  I had a girl in the first go round and received very nice diamond earrings (that I saved up for half of, I wouldn't expect DH to spend that much). 

This time around, I haven't asked for anything mainly because there isn't anything that I want but I am kind of bummed that I won't have anything to give to DD2 when she gets married.  I'm sure I can come up with something in the next 30-ish years though.

planeprincess

LEAF

rubycitrine

Honestly, at this point I just want a glass of good champagne and to call it a day.

Andrea Cohoon

I really like the idea of being able to pass your "push present" onto your little one when they are of the appropriate age (16th birthday, wedding, when they're expecting their first baby, etc.).  Jewelry is a really nice idea and I love the idea of a birthstone or diamonds (what girl doesn't?).

If you don't want to spend a lot of money, a "Willow Tree" figurine is an idea.  Those aren't terribly expensive and they have a few tailored to becoming a new parent.  I've also seen Christmas ornaments geared to becoming a new parent.  Of course, that gift would only be out and about for a month or so a year, but it's small and sweet.

 

angela9602

I havent even pushed yet and already got my gift! DH got me the juicy couture diaper bag I wanted and a pair of uggs.

EllieBabyBellie

I got a treadmill (also an early Xmas present -- we bought it now so I can start using it after baby is here). But maybe that is more a present for him than me!

kbingram51

jnealet:

Someone once suggested that the push present should be something that you can pass to your child (or their future spouse).  I had a girl in the first go round and received very nice diamond earrings (that I saved up for half of, I wouldn't expect DH to spend that much). 

This time around, I haven't asked for anything mainly because there isn't anything that I want but I am kind of bummed that I won't have anything to give to DD2 when she gets married.  I'm sure I can come up with something in the next 30-ish years though.

Just a suggestion-but what about a strand of pearls? They're usually fairly inexpensive, and always a classic piece of jewelry.

My grandmother did the same thing, but only had boys, so she gave jewelry to her granddaughters. My cousin (the first) got diamond earrings, and I got a pearl necklace. I don't wear it every day or anything, but it's still a classic piece of jewelry and it reminds me of her. :-)

MommaErica

I'm only offended by the women who DEMAND it and feel entitled to it.  I think if your husband really wants to get you something special that's sweet.  It's a gift that is coming from his heart not any sense of obligation.

I think a piece of jewelry is nice because you will have it forever.  If it were me, I would want something with our child's birthstone in it.

cutekate

Thanks for all of the suggestions. I am totally leaning towards a gift that can be passed down. I technically cant wear jewelry at work (law enforcement) but I do wear the same things everyday (plain wedding band & solitare necklace) while working.

Now I have to decide what type of jewelry to get- most likely a necklace or earrings of some sort- I would love a new set of diamond studs- I got mine from my dad at my college graduation.