Intro

caitriona87 · November 2011

Hi everyone,

I just found this board a few days ago and have been reading a bit...I thought I'd go ahead and introduce myself.

To make a long story short, I found out I was pregnant in April 2010, had a perfect pregnancy, crappy-but-no-big-deal-in-the-scheme-of-things birth, absolutely perfect, healthy baby boy on 12/18/2010, and a perfect nine days with him. The morning of 12/28 we woke up to find him dead. Called 911, paramedics came, etc but it was way too late. Funeral on 12/31. Happy new year to us. We never really found out why it happened.

It has been awhile now, especially seeing how recently some of you have gone through this. We were doing (reasonably) well over the summer, considering, but I think we had unrealistic expectations about how things would be at this point. We began TTC in July but no luck yet, and we've had some other disappointments in our lives that are made harder by the fact that our son is gone. That coupled with the holidays and his birthday/death anniversary coming up makes it seem like we're backsliding in our recovery, so to speak. We moved right before he was born so hardly know anyone in this city, and the few that we do (including my sister) keep making the worst foot-in-mouth comments to us, to the point that we don't feel like seeing them anymore.

Anyway, I just thought it might be nice to talk with people who can relate and at the same time offer support to others as well. Thanks for reading.

dandywarhol · November 2011

{{hugs}} I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. What was his name? I can't begin to imagine what you're going through. SIDS is such a cruel thing. I'm sorry that you, or any of us, have to be here but I hope you can find some comfort and support from the wonderful people here. I know they have been a help to me.

Does your new city have any support groups you could join?

cjsmom79 · November 2011

I cant even imagine losing my son if he was born and home for 9 days, I am soooo sorry for your loss. I am just getting around to ordering my sons medical records because before we TTC again (start of the new year ) my husband and I want to know what really happened. We just dont have a clue. My thoughts and hugs to you. We all know what your going thru and it sucks, but thats why we are here ! To help each other out.

roxyttandme · November 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you find this board a source of comfort and support.

(((hugs)))

Auki13 · November 2011

I am so sorry for you loss and everything else you are going through. I wish I could say something that would make you feel better but all I can say is that life sucks sometimes. These women are so helpful and caring, I hope you find some comfort here like I have. (((HUGS)))

caitriona87 · November 2011

dandywarhol:
{{hugs}} I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. What was his name? I can't begin to imagine what you're going through. SIDS is such a cruel thing. I'm sorry that you, or any of us, have to be here but I hope you can find some comfort and support from the wonderful people here. I know they have been a help to me.
Does your new city have any support groups you could join?

His name was Anders John, we called him Jack, for my dad who passed when I was 15.

I know there are some things in the general area. I was quite resistant to it for awhile but now I'm starting to think it might be a good idea.

Thanks so much for all the kind words.

pandabearlover · November 2011

Hi and welcome. This board and the ladies on it are fantastic. I am so sorry we all have to be here, but it is nice to have a place to come and I am glad you found us.

Jack is a little cutie-I am sorry the holidays/new year's are made difficult for you because of what happened. I know it's not the same, but my grandfather passed away 3 days before Christmas almost 20 years ago and it has changed my family's perception of the holidays ever since.