Are you a member of a moms group?

rach10782

I recently joined the Pleasant Hill/Walnut Creek moms club.  However, I feel that I did not do the appropriate amount of research before I joined.  After paying the dues I realized that there are no open playgroups for my sons age accepting new members.  The one group that was open has not met in 7 months.  I have been looking into other groups but I would hate to pay a due only to realize that it will be the same situation.  I have also tried to join some groups on meet-up but I never hear back from them.  I am starting to feel like I will never make friends out here.  I realize we have only been here a month but the loneliness is really starting to set in.

MsPurple24

I'm sorry you're feeling isolated- that must be really hard.  Have you looked into Las Madres in your area?  They do a 60-day trial for their playgroups and you can try out as many as you'd like before becoming a member of one.  Go to lasmadres.com and see if there are any close you...

Good luck!   

lmvierra

I second the Las Madres recommendation. They have chapters all over the bay area with "clubs" for each birth year - different chapters have different feels so even if you don't like one chapter don't rule out another. Also, I joined my local MOPS group. I'm not sure how to find out if they have one near you but it's a great way to meet other moms while your kiddos are entertained...

NorcalLinds

i don't think they have las madres out here. I might be wrong. Anyhow, I joined the pleasant hill/wC moms group when we moved. I felt the same way, the play groups were closed that fit my needs. I ended up joining a play group recently, and went to a get together last week. Your son would be a bit older, but not much. Please let me know if you would like the info, and I can add you. I sent you my email in a PM.

AvaLikeLava

Is it possible to use that forum to create a new playgroup for your DC's age?

anirahc

I'm sorry that you're having a hard time finding a group to meet up with.  I am part of the MOMS Club in my area and have been since my first was 6 months old.  Is it an "official" MOMS (Moms Offering Mom's Support) Club? Or another club called Moms Club?  That sounds odd to me that they have no open playgroups.  In our chapter the playgroups are split up by age or other characteristic but they are all open for anyone to join in if it fits their availability no matter what the age of the child is.  This is how international had it set up if I'm remembering correctly.  The club as I see it is more for the moms to gain support than for the kids (that's just a bonus!)  Ask around to established playgroup organizers and see if it's truly a closed group, it might not be.

 Hope you can find something soon that works for you and your DS.

fjaril

I've been here almost a year and still don't have a play group or regular playtime nor really mom friends

I met two lovely ladies, but they both work full time, so that doesn't lend well to doing things during the week and weekend is Papa time.

I just had my first play date with someone from H's school and that was nice, literally 1 month shy of the year anniversary, but nice.

I have a friend that lives in SJ, but with our kids and nap schedules and daily schedules, we rarely see each other.

I joined a mom's club, but it's not been much help either, nor has meetup.

I've heard it takes a year to settle in to a new place and I'm hoping it goes much faster for you, but it seems on par for me.

Lots of luck and sorry you are lonely too :

Meritage

That is so disappointing!  We moved when my younger son was ~6 months old so I know how difficult it is to find new friends.  If I was in your shoes, I'd take my kid to the local park as much as possible.  You often meet other moms at the park, and once you start seeing the same faces over and over again, you can start to build a friendship.  Storytimes at the local public library are also a great spot.

Do you do Little Gym or Gymboree?  I've met a couple of moms that way.  Also met several moms through baby music classes.

All of those stroller exercise classes are also great places to meet other moms - Baby Boot Camp, Stroller Fit, Stroller Strides, etc.

Hang in there!  It takes time, but it will happen!

EmmieB

Does this board count? ;-)

I stalk moms at the park. 

cynnichinny13

Walnut creek is a little bit on the outskirts of the bay area BUT I have a new meetup.com group with no membership fees... I like to think we have good communication so far. What is good about my meetup is that within the group you can suggest a meet up location near you and any mama that is in your area (and in the group obviously) can rsvp to it. Worst thing that can happen is no one rsvps and you play at your favorite spot anyways. 

https://www.meetup.com/bay-area-young-mamas/

I still don't know how to make it clicky, sorry. And if the group doesn't fit your liking then I still wish you the best of luck in your mommy group search, I know it can be difficult. Which is why I made my own group haha