So the baby's father and I broke up in May after dating for 4 years, and 8 weeks later I found out that I was pregnant. He has been fairly supportive, but has moved on and gotten a new girlfriend and doesn't really connect with the whole baby thing yet (which is all frustrating enough). His cousin and aunt have been very supportive and contact me on a regular basis. His parents on the other hand have not really been in contact with me much except when I e-mailed them about the baby being a girl. The last time I saw them was when we told them that we were pregnant.
His cousin told me recently that she is planning a shower for him and has asked his aunt to help in planning it. She always refers to this shower as "his shower". We have many mutual friends that are being invited to his shower. I don't think that I'm invited. I find this strange and frustrating! We are trying to do as much for the baby together as possible and I think it's rude for them to decide if I should be there or not. I did all of the registering and included his name as a co-registrant. This pregnancy has been lonely enough as it is and now I don't even get to attend this? I also feel like it's rude to our friends and I don't want them to feel like they have to attend two showers and buy two separate gifts. On top of this, I don't have any extended family in state, just my mom and dad. So if my mom did throw me a shower it would be pretty small compared to his.
Does anyone find this strange or offensive? Any advice?