We are having 2 showers - one hosted by my girlfriends and one hosted by some friends of my parents.
My mother-in-law also offered to throw a shower, but we declined since we thought 3 showers would be overkill (she has also had some health problems and is living out of state, so we were worried about the stress for her). I thought one shower could be for my friends and one could be for our parents' friends, since this is the first grandbaby on both sides and they are very excited.
My parents' friends initially said we had an "unlimited" guest list, but recently chose a smaller venue and we will have to limit after all. I want to give an equal number of invites to both my mother and mother-in-law, but my mother is very upset about having to "cut back" her list. She says since the hosts are her friends, she shouldn't have to cut back or give an equal number of invites to my mother-in-law.
It's too late for my mother-in-law to host a shower now because she already bought us an expensive piece of furniture for the nursery in lieu of a shower. I think my mother is being unreasonable and petty, but does she have a good point? What is the fair thing to do here?