No sex...no anything

AllieCat16

DH and I probably haven't done the deed in about 10, maybe 12 weeks...I stopped counting. To be honest, I was upset at first but I feel so unattractive about myself that I stopped caring about me. In the interim, I was at least taking care of him...the past few weeks just seems like he doesn't even want to get close to me. A peck on the lips hello and goodbye is pretty much it. I even tried this morning getting close to him, spooning in bed and he complained after 3 minutes that he was not comfortable. Every time I try talk to him he brushes the subject off, it's so depressing.....

RedCamaro

Aww....that is depressing. I'm sorry he won't even try to talk to you about it. It's going to be a long 6 weeks after (at least that's how I felt the last time). I have known couples to not do the deed during the entire pregnancy (course I'd probably go crazy and DH would give in if we did that).

Not much longer, and you'll have a wonderful baby to fill your time with and forget about this part for a while. GL!

MrsWilson93

I was super depressed about this (and still am on occassion) a couple of weeks ago. We were not having sex and my husband would barely touch me. It hurt so much that I would just lock myself in the bathroom and sob nightly for a while. I tried to talk to him and he would say I was trying to make him feel guilty when I just wanted things to get better! This lasted a long time and my heart was absolutely broken. On top of everything I felt like I was losing my husband, or at least a part of him. It was only recently that we started having sex again. I think he was so stressed out with everything that was going on that he just lost interest. He still doesn't see me as sexual, won't touch my boobs (they are "for the baby now") and only rarely initiates but we both feel better now that the intimacy is back. Unfortunatley NOTHING that I tried while he was feeling that way helped and he just had to come around on his own. I know how you feel and am sorry you have to feel it. I hope that things start to get better soon and if they don't I hope you don't let it get you too down (like i did...). Good luck with everything.

sara622

We've literally had sex twice this entire pregnancy so it sounds like you're doing pretty good!  My hubby is so not interested.  I was really emotional about it at first but I'm over it at this point.  I just made hime promise that we'd get somewhat back to normal once I've recovered from labor.  Don't worry too much about it!  It's totally normal! 

pinklilly122

Yeah my sex life is pretty much nothing now too. Like PP we have had sex twice since we found out about baby. My DH is not a very affectionate person to begin with so Ive had no sex no anything too. I tried to talk to him about it but same thing, he just didn't want to talk about it. I pretty much had a total hormonal break down about a week ago and after telling him how I felt like I was losing him  and how I felt so unattractive to him, he has been making a good effort to be more affectionate, but still no sex. I really don't want it now anyway lol. Good luck Im truly hoping it gets better once baby is here!!!!

leftynat

Our sex life it pretty much the same. This is baby #3 for me and well honestly I figure it we do it once a month that is good enough. I am not in the mood however, I know my  husband would probably like it more, but I have to admit we have talked about it and he still finds me attractive, it is just that it is so akward and uncomfortable now. I doubt if I will even have sex again before this baby is due.