My son went to a birthday party and the father dressed up as Darth vader...I mean...a professional real-deal costume....with the synthasized (sp?) voice and all! We were unaware that it would be there so I was unable to prepare my son...he freaked out. That was about 6 month ago. Now....my two nephews (ages 3 and 6) are going to be darth vader for Halloween and their intention is to scare my son who is 4. I have talked to them about being nice, etc.
When my son looks at DV stuff at a store, he is OK. On TV, fine...but if it's a cardboard cut-out mask, he FLIPS! He is OK when HE puts the mask on, but even if he WATCHES someone put on the mask and once it's on, he flips out.
I am not sure how to handle the next two days where my son will be with them and they have the mean intention to scare him. My nephews are NOT going to change what their costume is,nor would I expect them to...but I need a way to explain to my son that he might see some DV, how to deal approrpriatly. He need to be prepared for trick or treating when we WILL encounter things that might be scary to him.
Should I say something to my SIL who know my son was recently DX autistic and have them talk to their kids. I get kids will be kids...but I don't need my son being a target. Know what I mean?