Hi, I am new here (my first bump post) and recently scheduled a genetic testing appointment with my husband. I am terrified and would like to hear about what I can expect. I am ready to start TTC, but am considered high-risk for children with special needs. I had 2 brothers who were both born with extremely severe genetic defects that have now passed away. Neither of them ever functioned above the level of a 6-month old baby, and the doctors were never able to diagnose the problem.
I really don't want to offend anyone here, but the truth is that I am just so scared about having children (especially boys) with the same problems as my brothers. I saw the pain it caused my family, the anger that I had growing up as a sibling of 2 special needs children, the jealousy I had towards my friends who had close relationships with their brothers, etc. and I just don't know if I am strong enough to handle all of those same emotions as a parent.
Has anyone here gone through similar testing after having a special needs child? Did you have similar fears, and if so, how did you settle them?
I am very sorry if I am on the wrong board, I don't know where to look for someone who may have been through something similar. Thanks.