so frustrated!!

AKurosky

LO is almost 3 months and has been BFing since birth. He did have some issues at first, needed to use a SNS system to get him to learn how to suck, so for the first 2 days he had formula but since then has been BF.

He was gaining slowly at first, half an ounce a day,(latch issues and then I went to see a LC and it got better, an ounce a day), but last week he started STTN (10/11-630a) and in the last 13 days has only gained 2 oz. I called the pediatrician, who is also an IBCLC, and now they are telling me I have to wake him at night and feed him since he is not gaining well. I'm ok with this, but I am just so frustrated, I don't know whats wrong....or why my body is not providing what he needs. Some days I just want to throw in the towel and start with formula but I know BF is best and want to continue. I try to not to stress or worry but its such a horrible feeling that I am not giving him what he needs. 

And I know every baby is different but my friends baby was born 3 weeks after DS at about the same weight and is already 2 lbs more than him. 

Thanks for letting me vent.... 

jhopkins.574

Your situation sounds just like mine- little to no weight gain with EBF, trying everything and not knowing why BFing seems to work for everyone but you!  I too have felt like throwing in the towel many times just b/c I'm scared I'm depriving LO.  I've stuck with it and we still have good days and bad days.  I'm working closely with an LC and I've had to supplement pretty much since birth b/c of not enough weight gain.  LO is gaining but slowly.  I hate when ppl tell me "so and so's baby already weighs 14 lbs!" or w/e it is.  UGH!  that makes me feel horrible.  same thing with seeing babies the same age as my LO, with rolls and rolls of chub (my LO has no chub).  But like you, I feel in my gut that BFing is best and I love the bonding aspect so I'm sticking with it.  LO is 3 months,  1 wk now and we've had a great weight gain last wk (I get her weighed wkly) and a pretty good wk feeding-wise, this wk.   i'm hoping this is the breakthrough I keep praying for.

So I don't have alot of advice but just know that you're not alone in feeling like you do.  good luck!