1st Trimester

Did DH go to your first appointment with you?

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I'm reading that a lot of first appointments are just blood work and family history. Did you have your DH go with you to the first appointment, or did you wait and have him go to your first u/s? I was thinking I would just wait and have him come along once they're ready to do an ultrasound...but now I don't know. My first appointment isn't for a few weeks...I'm just curious to know about your experiences...

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  • My DH works late afternoons/night so he is off in the morning.  I am having him go with me to the 1st appt. just because he is already off but prolly wouldn't if he had to take off.
  • Fiance went with me, but at our first appt they did an u/s... 

    If they are going over family history, I would have him there, unless you know every little bit of his side of the family...  

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  • I would call your dr to make sure the appt doesn't have an u/s option.  With both of my pregnancies, they have done or offered to do an u/s at the first appt.  My DH missed it the first time, so I made sure he was there the second!
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  • My first appt. was bloodwork, u/s, and a pap and pelvic.  They also asked basic symptom questions and gave me a couple prescriptions.  Surprisingly not a single family history question or much talking at all for that matter.

    FI went with me, he really wants to be involved in things and will probably go to as many appointments as possible. 

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  • My first appointment is tomorrow and I actually had this same question, so I called the Dr. and they told me that they only do blood work, take urine and talk for the 1st appointment.  So DH isn't gonna come. But, I'm sure every doctor is different... you might want to call and see how your dr does their first appointment. 

     

     

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  • My husband will be going with me on 11/10.  He took half a day from work. :)
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  • I called today and my appointment is tomorrow!! Since I'm only about 7 weeks, which is my approximation, Im sure they wont be doing a u/s. My husband has said he doesnt know is he'll be able to make it because of work but I will defs want him there for all of the u/s appts.
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  • Mine has gone to all that he is able to go to. Unfortunately we have had complications which means a LOT of unscheduled appointments!

    The first one was a huge waste. All I did was PIAC. But it was a new OB so I did want his initial opinion on the guy...

    After that, he did go to the first OB with me to answer the family history questions, which, again I think was a waste. They were not very in depth regarding his side and I could have answered them all.

    From now on he only goes when we get an u/s (which we have had 9), or if I want him there b/c I'm worried. 

  • DH didn't go to my "confirmation" appt, but he went to our first real appt. We also had an u/s scheduled for that day, and he wanted to see the baby and the heartbeat. 
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  • With LO#1 DH went with me. They do a family history for mother and father and it was good that he was there - even though  I know most of his family history anyway. They also told us both a lot of what to expect, which was helpful for DH.

    Since this is my second pregnancy pretty close together he didn't come. Nothing has changed in the family history and he already knows what to expect. My appointment was all of 10 minutes, doc was basically like "nothings changed from the last time, any questions?" and that was it. haha.

     

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  • Mine did even though I told him it would just be family history etc - I think he wanted to see the doctor face-to-face, etc.  I'm glad he did bc I ended up getting a vaginal u/s (which they hadn't told me about) so I think he was really happy he got to be there the first time we saw the baby.
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  • My first appt was with the nurse at 8 weeks, and he did not go - they told me it's just to go over medical history, pee in a cup, and do b/w.  I didn't see reason to have him leave work for that.  He did go to the doctor with me and the follow up ultrasound.
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  • Thanks for sharing your experiences. I know this sounds so stupid, but I never bothered to call the Dr.'s Office to ask what to expect (I was so nervous when I called to make the initial appointment!). At any rate, I just called and they told me it will be a very basic appointment, just family history and blood work this time around.
  • At our first appt last baby (we have a 1 year old now), they went over family history, any & all questions, then at the end we had an ultrasound & got to see our baby for the first time (a little peabut on the screen). You should call and ask what to expect at yours, because if you have an ultrasound (which most do to determine if your due date is approximately correct) then you should def bring your DH so you can see it for the first time together :)
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  • nope.  he came to the second cuz we knew we'd get an ultrasound.  it was hysterical how uncomfortable he was being in a ob/gyn office, i couldn't stop laughing at him.
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  • DH went to the first BIG appt with me. It included u/s, so it was important to me that he be there.
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  • DH did not come to my first appointment (there was no u/s...just bloodwork and questions).  He is coming to my 2nd appointment next week (1st u/s)!
  • DH went with me. It was very uneventful so now he's boygotting further appointments unless there is an ultrasound.
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  • I just found out that they will do a vaginal U/S on my first appt. I'm worried if I take DH, he is going to be a little squeamish about that. Are you usually all business out in the open, or do they drape you for a little modesty? (Yes, I know it's not unfamiliar territory for him, but there's never been someone else poking around down there.)

                 

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  • Mine did and I kind of wish he hadn't just because it wasn't all that eventful!  I felt bad because he took off work and everything... while I was glad he met the doctor with me and we were able to talk a bit, it was the ultrasound that was really important for him to be at and that you have to schedule after your appointment anyway (if your doctor orders one).  So if it's convenient for him to come, it might be nice for him to meet the doctor... if it means taking off work etc., I'd wait until the first ultrasound if I could do it again!

     

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  • Yes, DH came with me to the first appt. - which was today. I'm glad he did. It was a lot of information to take in today, and we have some decisions to make as for screening tests, etc. He was able to ask questions, and it was nice to have a second set of ears with me in case I forget anything! Tomorrow is my first u/s and he will be there as well. :)
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  • Just had my first appt today.  DH came, I thought I'd have an u/s but it was just fam hx ?s, bloodwork, pap.  It was nice to have him there for the 1st appt even if there was no u/s  We were able to schedule my 1st u/s for a day he took off work anyway!  It's hard for him to get off and his vacation time is limited so I'm so relieved he can be there! 
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  • imageCass224:

    Hi!

    I'm reading that a lot of first appointments are just blood work and family history. Did you have your DH go with you to the first appointment, or did you wait and have him go to your first u/s? I was thinking I would just wait and have him come along once they're ready to do an ultrasound...but now I don't know. My first appointment isn't for a few weeks...I'm just curious to know about your experiences...

    My DH went with me mostly because they ask about his side of the family too. I didn't know the answers to those questions and also they give you new information and the change to ask the nurse about any questions. I am thankful that he went and I think if it is possible and he doesn't mind going you should definitely take him along. HTH =) 

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    DH went with me. It was very uneventful so now he's boygotting further appointments unless there is an ultrasound.

    This sounds like my husband lol... My sister is two weeks more pregnant than me so I've been able to ask her what they did at each appt. When I found out it was just bloodwork, etc, I told him not to bother since my doctor's office won't do the u/s the same day. He went with me when I scheduled the u/s and is going with me to my second appt because he found out we'll hear the heartbeat for the first time. I joked that he only likes the fun stuff!

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