Hi!
I'm reading that a lot of first appointments are just blood work and family history. Did you have your DH go with you to the first appointment, or did you wait and have him go to your first u/s? I was thinking I would just wait and have him come along once they're ready to do an ultrasound...but now I don't know. My first appointment isn't for a few weeks...I'm just curious to know about your experiences...
Re: Did DH go to your first appointment with you?
Fiance went with me, but at our first appt they did an u/s...
If they are going over family history, I would have him there, unless you know every little bit of his side of the family...
My first appt. was bloodwork, u/s, and a pap and pelvic. They also asked basic symptom questions and gave me a couple prescriptions. Surprisingly not a single family history question or much talking at all for that matter.
FI went with me, he really wants to be involved in things and will probably go to as many appointments as possible.
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My first appointment is tomorrow and I actually had this same question, so I called the Dr. and they told me that they only do blood work, take urine and talk for the 1st appointment. So DH isn't gonna come. But, I'm sure every doctor is different... you might want to call and see how your dr does their first appointment.
Mine has gone to all that he is able to go to. Unfortunately we have had complications which means a LOT of unscheduled appointments!
The first one was a huge waste. All I did was PIAC. But it was a new OB so I did want his initial opinion on the guy...
After that, he did go to the first OB with me to answer the family history questions, which, again I think was a waste. They were not very in depth regarding his side and I could have answered them all.
From now on he only goes when we get an u/s (which we have had 9), or if I want him there b/c I'm worried.
With LO#1 DH went with me. They do a family history for mother and father and it was good that he was there - even though I know most of his family history anyway. They also told us both a lot of what to expect, which was helpful for DH.
Since this is my second pregnancy pretty close together he didn't come. Nothing has changed in the family history and he already knows what to expect. My appointment was all of 10 minutes, doc was basically like "nothings changed from the last time, any questions?" and that was it. haha.
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I just found out that they will do a vaginal U/S on my first appt. I'm worried if I take DH, he is going to be a little squeamish about that. Are you usually all business out in the open, or do they drape you for a little modesty? (Yes, I know it's not unfamiliar territory for him, but there's never been someone else poking around down there.)
Mine did and I kind of wish he hadn't just because it wasn't all that eventful! I felt bad because he took off work and everything... while I was glad he met the doctor with me and we were able to talk a bit, it was the ultrasound that was really important for him to be at and that you have to schedule after your appointment anyway (if your doctor orders one). So if it's convenient for him to come, it might be nice for him to meet the doctor... if it means taking off work etc., I'd wait until the first ultrasound if I could do it again!
My DH went with me mostly because they ask about his side of the family too. I didn't know the answers to those questions and also they give you new information and the change to ask the nurse about any questions. I am thankful that he went and I think if it is possible and he doesn't mind going you should definitely take him along. HTH
This sounds like my husband lol... My sister is two weeks more pregnant than me so I've been able to ask her what they did at each appt. When I found out it was just bloodwork, etc, I told him not to bother since my doctor's office won't do the u/s the same day. He went with me when I scheduled the u/s and is going with me to my second appt because he found out we'll hear the heartbeat for the first time. I joked that he only likes the fun stuff!