I was planning on telling my family im pregnant around thanksgiving but i am getting every impatient. I had an ultrasound yesturday and they were able to find a strong heartbeat. What are the odds of miscarring after they have found a heartbeat? Im thinking i might just tell everyone this week but im still scared of a miscarriage.
Re: What are the odds?
Risk of miscarriage after seeing a heartbeat depends on how far along you are when you see the HB, whether you've had any bleeding during pregnancy (rates appear to be double at each stage), whether you are AMA (over 35 - which increases rate), whether you have prior losses (can also increase rate)
Here's what I found :
The rate of pregnancy loss with positive heartbeat varies with gestational age and the presence of vaginal bleeding:
This is from https://www.baby2see.com/medical/miscarriage.html, but I've seen the same stats from other sources as well.
So, if you saw the HB at 7 weeks and have not had any bleeding during your pregnancy so far, you fall into the 5% risk, if you have had bleeding, then you would still have a 10% chance. Also, if you are over 35, it could be higher.
My loss back in April was after seeing the hb at 7w3d. It was a missed m/c at 9w4d. We are just starting to share now but told family immediately as we needed them with our loss. So, My advice is always to share with those who would support you in good or bad.
I think the rate goes drastically down once you hear the HB with a doppler somewhere around 10-12 weeks, not sure if it goes down when you see it on the monitor earlier than that but can't hear it with the doppler yet.
Now here's the thing, if you miscarry, will you tell your parents/siblings? (I assume that's which family you are talking about since you're talking Thanksgiving)
The way I look at it is, if I would tell my immediate family that I'd miscarried, why shouldn't I tell them that I'm pregnant in the first place? So we told our families when we were 6-7 weeks, and just made them keep quiet until we put it on Facebook, which we haven't done yet. Not trying to say you should tell now either, but just giving another way of looking at it.
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Good info elf!
If you would need their love/support if you m/c, then why not tell them now during this happy/exciting time? I always tell my family right away. I'm telling mine tomorrow, actually
GL!
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As I am sure you know, there is no "in the clear" time. But I was able to sigh some reliefe after my 6 week apointment. They heard a heartbeat and saw a healthy baby. My doctor was aware of how nervous I was to m/c and informed me my chances of that were less than 5%.
I am coming up on second tri here pretty soon, and while I am more confident, I am still very nervous of things going wrong. I probably will be until I hold my baby. Good luck to you, and I think since you have a strong heart beat, baby is doing wonderful!
We are not telling our families until Thanksgiving, which is when we will be out of first tri. For us, though, this is due in part to 1st tri concerns and in part to the fact that we don't live anywhere near our families and want to tell them in person (they will be visiting for Thanksgiving). I know how you are feeling, though; I am getting so impatient!
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