What did you do with all of the baby gear?

lovemymaddy

Just curious. We had everything ready to go for Timmy. And I mean EVERYTHING. We'd bought new furniture, crib, an a glider for his room, new pack n play, clothes, diapers, pacis, blankets, everything. Some of it we've had other people return for us, some we've done, some we've given away, and the most special things I have kept.The nursery is all still intact as there is no way that I'm ready to take anything down yet. Just curious as to what you did with all of the baby gear that you had ready for your LO?

hewinked

My DS was 2 months old when he died, so we had everything, too.  His nursery remains the same with a few things moved around.  It will be changed at some point since I'm now pregnant again.  I gave a few of his outfits that he never wore to friends that have recently had boys.  I donated all his diapers (we bought boxes of various sizes throughout my pregnancy) to the hospital he passed away at.  A friend of mine is making a quilt of all the clothes he did wear.  We didn't know if we were gonna have another, so we were gonna sell all the stuff.  Most of it was also DD's from when she was a baby.  I did take some of his nursery stuff down and I'm going to incorporate it into a memory box at some point.  If we didn't have another baby coming, I'm not sure I would take down his nursery, even at this point.  I still don't feel ready. 

starrkitten89

We still have a lot of A's stuff up.We were team green so everything we bought before she arrived was gender neutral,so it will soon get packed away in case of another baby.

I gave diapers,wipes,pacis and some neutral clothing to a close friend who is expecting.I kept everything that she wore.

Carolee

We had everything too.  In fact, I had just had my baby shower 3 days before we found out Eliott had died, so everything wasn't even put away yet.  DH and his mom put everything in the nursery we had set up, and a few days after we got home from the hospital I organized everything through tears.  It's all still in his room.  I can't bear to get rid of anything yet.  Maybe I won't ever be able to.

LoveOfMikesLife

I still have everything set up the EXACT same as the day we lost her!

UsafWifey09

I have everything still. I covered all his things including his crib and bassinet in white sheets. The smaller things in the closet.

illinigal

I was only 18w1d when I lost my twins, but I had a ton of stuff in the nursery from my older sister who is done having kids.  It's still all in the nursery and I'm hoping to get to use it someday.  If not, eventually, I'll have to clean it out.

drvst8

Our nursery still has everthing in it too. We lost Logan at 40wks and 2days. So his room was completely ready to go. We haven't touched anything in his room except for the outfit we took out to dress him in when we had his funeral. I'm not ready to give stuff away yet. I guess I'm hoping to be able to use some of it for our next baby.

easjer05

We'd been accumulating things for awhile, even before we started ttc.  My theory was that we were going to have kids eventually/somehow, so why not spread out the expenses.  Bought the crib on a super sale, bought the dresser and changer half off, figure we could use them in the guest room anyway . . . etc.  Nothing during a pregnancy.  I made that mistake with the first planned pregnancy - nothing big, just a little stuffed blue elephant.  But it still (three years later) makes me sad to see.

Then we got the word that things were finally ok, healthy, normal with Gabriel at the A/S on a Thursday and we went out that weekend and bought clothes.  So many clothes.  Just about everything he might need for the first 9 months, depending on his size.  Mostly neutral items, but a couple of more boyish things.  Then he born on Monday, and I walked back into my living room and there they were.  Neatly folded in the bin I'd put them in two nights before.

I remember going through all of them with my mom, showing her with this weird sort of pride what we'd bought for him, and crying as I folded it all back up.  That and every other piece of baby gear we had went into the other room (spare room, junk room, supposed to be a nursery) and it's still there, in addition to the other random things I've picked up at odd moments of hope since he died.  A bathtub, a crib mattress on sale, an entire stash of cloth diapers. . .

We need only a handful of things for this baby, if it lives, and none of them absolutely essential.  The things purchased outside a pregnancy don't carry the same kind of meaning as the things purchased specifically for a baby, at least for me.  It doesn't bother me to walk by that room.  Though if we lose this one, I may get rid of it all and really turn that room into a full, actual guest room.  

cookie_queen

We had a giant shower (50+ people) two weeks before the boys were born. We had also just finished painting the nursery and setting everything up the week before. It was so hard to go back into that beautiful nursery.

I was lucky that my mom and two best friends were able to be out here the week after our loss. They helped return what could be returned, pack up what couldn't , and take down the cribs. 

I have since given things we had two of as shower gifts for friends. 

johnnys june

I left his room exactly how it was for the longest time.  I had just finished painting his walls and we had set up almost everything including the crib.  We were excited and wanted it done early.  I didn't take anything down until -- unfortunately -- the week before Mother's day.  My mom was coming in town and I couldn't bare the thought of her sleeping on the couch for an entire week.  The nursery used to be our guest bedroom.  So, after a huge meltdown, DH and I went in there together and took everything apart.  It now is all organized and stacked in the nursery/guest bedroom closet.  I don't ever touch that closet.  Ever.

Mjmksb04

About a month after she passed, I put the swing, bouncer, changing pad in the basement with the other baby gear. About three months ago, I finally packed up the diapers, clothes and other things. All that is in the nursery right now is the crib, dresser, rocker, small toy boy and the two bins of keepsakes from my DD we plan on keeping. We are holding onto everything pending the outcome of this pregnancy.