Talk me from the ledge...an IL story

ebearwife

So I left the kids with my ILs tonight so I could go do something while DH is oot.  I am eternally grateful for their help.  HOWEVER, when I go to get them and get Isaac out of bed and put him into the car seat I notice he is soaked.  Not leaking - SOAKED through.  As in the pee pee from his diaper poured into the car seat (which I JUST washed during preschool!!!).  I took him out and then back into their house to change him and his diaper is the same one I brought him to the house in five hours earlier.  I know this bc I had a special edition Pampers on him and they only have the sesame street kind.  Who doesn't know to put a fresh clean, DRY diaper on a boy you just fed TWO bottles to?  Seriously?  Everything was wringing, dripping wet.  His diaper, his PJs, his sheets and his blankie.  And his newly washed car seat.  My dry clean only jacket.  I am trying so hard to not be annoyed and appreciate the "free" babysitting, but sheesh.  This is trying out even my patience.  I am scared to say anything bc they will just get all hurt and dejected and refuse to help me again.  UGH.  Its just especially frustrating bc Isaac has really sensitive skin and the smallest thing makes his diaper rashes go nuclear.  And they know this.  Sorry this got long winded...I needed to give the business to the internet bc at least then someone will hear my message.

K&P414

I can't imagine my mom or MIL not changing my baby's diaper for 5 hours.  I don't even know I would say honestly? You shouldn't have to say "Hey, thanks for watching the kids tonight.  Make sure you change his diaper if he pees in it."

missmlp

You might have to start calling and checking on the kids and throw friendly reminders.  I hope little Isaac doesn't have a nasty diaper rash. GL with the IL.

slwprincess

I wouldn't say anything but next time, I would just say... "hey, I think he's going to need a diaper change in a little while- the diapers are in his bag."  I realize you shouldn't HAVE to say this... it's pretty obvious... but apparently, they need some reminding of basic babysitting techniques.  Wow.  You guys really make me so appreciative of my own IL's!!!

Kerrin

Unfortunately, you probably DO have to remind them to change his diaper. 

A few years ago we took my FIL with us to a beach wedding to watch the kids.  We were gone about 5-6 hours.  We we got home around midnight, the kids weren't even in the bed, and when i picked up Carter the stench of poop hit me.  It had sat in his diaper for so long that it literally leaked through the diaper and was all over his clothes.  So nasty.  I couldn't believe FIL couldn't SMELL it.  It was all over the child.

The next day as we were leaving, I was checking the couch cushions for lost toys, pacifiers, etc.  There was a huge sh*t smear where Carter had been sitting.  As I check the other cushions, I found that 3 had been turned over to hide the sh*t that was on them as well.  I don't know if he turned the cushions before or after I got home.  So I spent the last 2 hours of my vacation cleaning poop out of these beautiful Pottery Barn white slipcovers.  

That's the LAST time FIL will be in charge of the kids by himself.  I feel your pain.

amanda_holbird@hotmail.com

My mother is the same way.  She had no problem changing the poop diapers, but I guess she had a hard time remembering to change pee diapers.  To help her remember, I'd say, "Jack will need to be changed in about an hour" or I would just leave a couple diapers laying on the table to help her remember. 

Daisy22

I would just say a friendly reminder next time like his diapers on in the bag and he'll need to be changed after each bottle.

 My mom is the exact opposite. The boys barely pee in their diapers and she changes them. I swear she can go through a whole pack of diapers in a few hours. I don't let them sit in really wet diapers but I also don't change then every 10 minutes.

AugustaBride04

mrs.holbird:

My mother is the same way.  She had no problem changing the poop diapers, but I guess she had a hard time remembering to change pee diapers.  To help her remember, I'd say, "Jack will need to be changed in about an hour" or I would just leave a couple diapers laying on the table to help her remember. 

My mom and step dad were the same way when H was little. They would change poopy diapers, but seemed oblivious to wet ones.  It drove me crazy!  I think they were so focused on her having fun and staying happy that they just completely forgot. I had to say something like, "please change her diaper at least every 2 hours bc she's sensitive and will get bad diaper rash".  Even still, that didn't work all the time. Glad to hear it's not just my parents

yellowtulips80

I would have been pissed too.  I remember way back when your MIL said she didn't want to change him.  Maybe, this is part of that whole thing?