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Green eyed monster is back!

talentedgirltalentedgirl
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Yep, those old jealous feelings when someone annouces they are pregnant, have reared its ugly head again.

One of the women at the mom's and baby's group we go to announced she is 8 weeks pregnant today, her DS is 10 days older than mine. It took all my might not to cry or run from the room. This is not the first time I have learned of someone else being pregnant, but the first time it bothered me. Maybe because our boys are the same age, I don't know. I staid for 20 minutes more and then made an excuse and left, cried all the way home.

I really wish I didn't feel this way, I am worried I am going to become anti social so that I can avoid this situation. I don't want to be that person again.

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Re: Green eyed monster is back!

  • MayDayGirlMayDayGirl member
    oh I'm so sorry!! You really can't predict/control it can you? :(
    Married on 3.20.2004. It took 30 month, 2 failed adoptions and IVF for our first miracle. We have had 9 foster kids since he was born and started the domestic adoption process when he was 10 month old, we had 4 failed matches in that time. After our daughter was born we brought her home and spent 2 weeks fearing we might lose her because of complications that came up. But Praise God all went through and she is ours forever! Expecting again after IVF Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • GM&DGGM&DG

    I have no advice. The feeling has never left me. There are a few people who I hope get pregnant because they have been trying so hard and now when someone else announces a pregnancy I get so upset for me and for the women who are still trying! I have added another layer to my madness.

    Get this, DS was only 8 weeks old after 2 IVFs, 3 years, etc. and MIL comes over to tell me BIL's GF was pregnant. She totally trapped him. And MIL suggested I loan her my maternity clothes since I would not need them again. WTF does that mean? I will never get pregnant again? I am still so bitter about it and can't look at BIL's GF. It is so hard.

     I am sorry for your feelings but as you can see, you are not alone!

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  • Karma1969Karma1969 member

    I feel that way too.  I am even envious of the new BFP's on this board....which is crazy since I am so happy for each person.

     

    I just want another baby so badly, and I know that it more than likely will never happen (no more IF tx for us).

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  • krissybegskrissybegs member
    I know how you feel.  A little while ago, one of my co-workers announced that she is pregnant.  She got married the end of May.  I am very happy fer her, but a part of me was jealous that it was so easy.  Also, this is my first day back at work so I am feeling a little crummy anyway.
    TTC since 10/06 - Went to RE after 6 months of TTC due to AMA -Diagnosed with MIF 5/07, only option IVF with ICSI - IVF #1 cancelled due to cyst, never got to ER - IVF #1.5 10/07, BFP - Robert Andrew born 7/30/08 Lilypie Kids Birthday tickers
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