real PTing regressions

MrsEmm

Im at a complete loss with B. The kid makes me feel so ill-equipped sometimes as a parent. I always end up hitting a wall and feeling like Im doing stuff completely wrong - or at least wrong FOR HER. 

She has been pottty trained for a while now and every once in a while she regresses in a big way. Yesterday she pooped her pants twice in one day. She did it last week a couple different times as well. 

Its not as if she doesnt know to go in the toilet. Or forgets. She has also had a few middle of the nite pee accidents as well - which have been rare for us. I have watched her get a certain look on her face and choose to go right there in the living room. Its not like shes in the middle of a game or activity, which Ive dealt with during the first few months of PTing. She has been PT-ed since the beginning of the year - maybe february-ish?

I dont know if at this point its still falls somewhere in the range of normal - or if I should call the pedi. Just dont know where to go from here. And its not just PTing stuff wtih her. She will be 3 in a couple of weeks. 

 

marsnemmo

I don't think you are a failure in any way, I think hat she is going through is completely normal. I know our situation is different but when M got sick she regressed in a big way. She was having diarrhea , we got lazy and went back to pull ups and I saw she regress to her non potty trained self fast. I think if you go back to rewarding her with stickers, prizes and praise for going on the potty she will eventually go back.

SweetieP

I talked to my pedi about similar issues (more nighttime than daytime) but my pedi said not to worry - that 10% of all kids are not 100% potty trained until they are 6 years old - and that there are some kids that aren't 100% nighttime potty trained until they are 10!!!!    I have no advice other than maybe reverting back to a reward chart? 

futrkingsley

DS potty trained at about the same time (February). We've had similar issues in the last two months since we made a change in DS' weekly routine.  He was not pleased with teh change, and was making some other changes (testing independence) and it was sort of messy there for a bit in the PT department.  He wet the bed 6 times in almost three weeks after more than 6 months of dry nights and I was honestly sort of pissed and upset.  I don't believe you can night train -- only that the kid's body will tell you when they are capable of doing it, by doing it.  But his had clearly been doing it fine and then all of a sudden, what felt like a billion wet wake ups. 

So I did what I do, which is push our routine.  Instead of allowing us to all slack on a last second trip to the potty before going to sleep, I pushed it.  He hates it, I hate fighting about it, but I hate waking up to wet sheets even more. And we also went back to our schedule for trips to the potty (before and after sleep, before and after leaving the house).  It seemed to work well as the accidents have mostly stopped for the time being.

 

jsugrin

I think regressions are much more typical than any of us know because it's not something that gets talked about a lot.  Andrew has been PT'd since he was 20 month and yet around 3 we went through a stage where he was peeing on the floor all.the.time.  It started out seeming like accidents then we quickly caught on that he was doing it on purpose and for attention.  It got to the point where he'd look us dead in the eye and whip it out and pee on the floor, can you effing imagine   Who wants to talk about that kind of crap.

We just went with the zero attention approach, which was hard because I wanted to flip the eff out, and eventually he just stopped.  Totally make me feel like I had no control over my kid and was the crappiest parent ever.

Cooper sometimes has accidents and I know it's not about not being able to make it.  He'll just pee as he's sitting there yet we can be in the car with a pull up and he'll scream his head off, kicking his feet like crazy, until we get the car pulled over.  Kid also refuses to poop in the toilet too although he's been pee trained since January.

futrkingsley

jsugrin:

 It got to the point where he'd look us dead in the eye and whip it out and pee on the floor, can you effing imagine   Who wants to talk about that kind of crap.

J, you always make me feel more normal.  This totally sounds like something C would do (though he never has) and it would make me so crazy. You have some super human ability to not flip out. 

alibee09

Just one more for the "us too" camp -- we'll have weeks of greatness and then she'll act like she has no idea what the potty is for. She told me once when I asked her where pee/poo goes: "In daddy and mommy's car!" Our poor carseat

MrsEmm

Thank you all! Started a new sticker reward chart, plan on doing the no attention over the accident and can breathe better knowing its pretty darn appropriate. THANK YOU for talking about the stuff no one wants to talk about!!!! ;0)