1st Trimester

How long are you waiting to tell people?

I know most people wait until the start of their second trimester to share their good news, but I was wondering how many people have already started telling family and friends.  I am 4 weeks and am ready to shout it from the roof top!!  But am scared due to superstisions I guess...What about everyone else??
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Re: How long are you waiting to tell people?

  • We have both told a few people; friends that we will need to know if (Heaven-forbid, please!) something happens. We will tell our parents after our first doctor appt. Probably will wait till week 13 or so to make it public...

     

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  • I've been guarded in who we have shared the news with. I've only told people I would be comfortable sharing news of a miscarriage with. I'm sharing the news with most others after my NT scan and 12 weeks appointment next week.
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  • I have already told close friends, my parents, and a few co-workers.  We feel pretty safe doing that because he saw a healthy heartbeat at 8 weeks in an u/s.  But as far as making a Facebook announcement or telling just anyone, we haven't done that yet.  Maybe in a couple weeks.
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  • It' s up to you, but I told people as soon as I found out we were expecting last Oct and we miscarried a few days later around 4 1/2 weeks. I had to tell them all nevermind we lost the pregnancy. The next month I was prego again and once again told everyone we were prego(again) and we miscarried at 10 weeks. Everyone was asking "so are you pregnant or not." It was a headache. I suggest keeping it hush until 12-13 weeks.
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  • We told everyone after the second ultrasound.  Most people know what we've been through. They know about our losses and that we did ivf.  If something goes wrong I know I will need the support.
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  • When I first found out I was pregnant(which seems forever ago! lol) I told everyone.I had had a previous miscarriage so I was very happy when I got pregnant again.I wanted everyone to know.I announced it everywhere.I had a feeling everything was going to work out this time that's why I was comfortable telling the news right away.Now I'm 23 weeks pregnant and having a little girl.You don't have to do what I did.Its all up to you when and how you want to spread the news
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  • It really is your decision. I tell the people who would support me if something bad were to happen. Most people in my life would be there to be supportive. We told our 2 other kids this weekend and that went well. Anyone else will have to wait just a few more weeks.I have an NT scan on 11/2 and I will be 13 1/2 wks..I think then we will shout it out to everyone! I don't ever think I will actually "announce" it on fb. Just not my thing. 
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  • We just told our parents and my brother last week, at 8 weeks.  My bff knows too.  The rest are going to find out after the NT scan.
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  • I haven't even told my family yet. My first appointment is tomorrow and if all goes well I'll tell them this week. Everyone else I'll tell at 12 weeks.
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  • I didn't want everyone knowing, just those very close to me.  I told 2 people (Sister and her husb) and suddenly everyone knew.. yikes.  Be careful who you tell even if you think you can trust them..

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  • My husband told his best friend. Which, is okay because i know it will be easier on both of us if he has someone to vent to about my crazy pregnancy emotions. it is also good because his friend's wife had her baby about two months ago and i know i can go to her for support and questions. 

    we plan on telling our parents around ten weeks and everyone else on november 15th. :) we have a large family and friends gathering every year for "deer camp" giving dh a specific date is good. he's just so excited and wants to tell everyone now!  

  • We didn't really plan it out, when we found out we were both really excited,  H called his mom right away.  I called my sister and mentioned that I'd probably tell everyone at work the following day (it's a small office)  She asked me if I really wanted to do that because most people wait till around 10 weeks just to make sure everything is okay. That helped me get a grip and so now we've told close friends.  Just a week until my 1st u/s so after that we will be telling most (that will be 8 weeks)   H is of the mindset that you just tell everyone but I'm more cautious. Now its become a goal for myself to keep quiet about it at work.  

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  • So far, I've only told immediate family and a very close family friend.  I also made sure that they knew that I didn't want other people to know until I was past the 10-12 week point - just in case.  These are the people with whom I would trust with my life, let alone the biggest news in my life.  God forbid anything happens, I will need their support.  The only problem with adhering to this timeline is now everyone will think I'm just getting fat because I won't give away my pregnancy!  I may, however, end up telling my boss sooner than I wanted. 

  • I was just as far pregnant as you when I told everyone! I dont see the point in waiting. Nothing will happen to your baby if you tell people now, my baby is just fine :)
  • I had an ultrasound last week (at 10 weeks). Everything looked great so we decided to start telling people as we see or talk to them. I haven't made any special phone calls just to tell friends the news, will probably wait till 12 weeks for that. As for FB, maybe 20 weeks or so?

     

     

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  • We'll probably tell our church after we receive my genetic results (should be in a week or two).

    Family we wont' tell until thanksgiving.  They all live 7 hours away and we like to do it in person all at once.  And by then we'll have our 1st u/s.

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  • Yeah I understand where you ladies are coming from but at the same time anything could happen in any part of pregnancy.You could be 10 weeks,20 weeks or even 30 weeks and something could happen but God forbid it doesn't.Whether or not you tell people now or later its all up to the big man above.If something is meant to be it will be if not it won't.I've lost a baby and trust me its not a very fun experience and regardless had I waited to tell everyone I still would have lost him or her.But its your decision
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  • I'm 7 weeks and we told two of our best friends and my mom so far.  We're planning on telling my DH's parents next weekend at 8 weeks and probably waiting until 10-11 to tell my Dad (we're not as close). 

     I'm going to "officially" announce to some close family at Thanksgiving and I'm not sure about Facebook yet.......

  • When we found out we were pregnant in June we told all of our family and a few friends right away and  then had to untell them at 9 weeks when we m/c. This time we decided to only tell my best friend until after our first appt which will be about 8 1/2 weeks and then we will tell family. We will probably not announce to friends until closer to 12 weeks.
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  • We are waiting until Christmas!
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  • Family and very close friends. Thats it. I`m so scared to tell...its like i dont know how. Im a dance teacher and havent told any of my students or dance school owners i work for...I just dont wanna have to untell all those people. At this point I`ve had 2 ultrasounds and all seems good..dunno what im waiting for Indifferent
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  • We told really early with the first two, but we're changing things up and waiting awhile to spill with this one. Not because we're afraid of telling early, just to try something different and I want the challenge of seeing how long I can keep the secret ;-) We're planning to tell families around mid-November when we go visit and then announce on our blog & FB around Christmas (and by around Christmas, I'll probably cave the day after Thanksgiving. Lol!)
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  • with my daughter, we didn't tell a single soul until 15 weeks. we would have told everyone right when i entered second trimester, but it was around xmas, and we wanted to tell my family in person.

    this time, we haven't told a single soul, and won't until pretty much exactly 13w3d. not only will that be the exact date of me entering second trimester, i also have an ob appt and it's my bday.

  • I will tell my family as soon as I figure out how to share the news again... likely in a week or 2.  Work? I'll tell them after my 1st appt at 8w... if I can wait that long.  My belly usually shares the news way before I do.
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  • We haven't told anyone yet.  I have my NT Screen next week and we'll probably tell family only (no FB) around the first of November.  I have no plans at all to tell work. 

    Last time we told family and friends after our NT Screen, and I told work around 20 weeks when i started wearinig maternity clothes.

  • We have a dating ultrasound today and if we hear a heartbeat than we will be slowly telling friends and family, and then wait till 2nd trimester for the more public anybody and everybody annoucement. 

    We had a miscarriage in February and I think that has definitely kept us quieter than with DS1 

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  • I will probably tell right before Thanksgiving. We're due 10 days before DD was due and that's what we did that time. At that point I'll have had my ultrasound and might be starting to look pregnant. My parents and sister know, but are not to tell anyone. I didn't even tell them last time and it drove me crazy. DH has 5 siblings and divorced and remarried parents so we have to tell all of them at once, so we'll do it right before the holidays. 
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  • I was expecting back in February, but the baby never grew past 6 weeks. We were forced into telling the parents due to a family destination wedding that would have been taking place a week after we would have been due. I was not happy that we were forced to tell our parents as we then had to tell them that I was no longer pregnant.

    So this time, unless a gun is held to my head, we are not telling anyone until we are at 12 weeks. :)  Though if we get good u/s results, that will be harder to do.. :)

     

     

  • We told parents and siblings and my best friend...all people we would tell anyway if something tragic were to happen. 

     We will tell extended family/work friends/etc. after my first doctor's appointment/ultrasound.

    But, we have not suffered any previous losses, so I understand why people who have wait longer to feel more comfortable sharing.

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  • We just told our parents/siblings this past weekend. I was going to tell my BF but she wasn't in a very good mood on Friday so I think I'll wait to tell her on Halloween, along with another couple we're close friends with. We're supposed to be going to a Halloween party on a river boat and they'll know something's up if I'm not drinking!

    We plan on telling everyone else (extended family, work) after 10-12 weeks.

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