Letting them cry????

daniellecleasby

Hello All,

So when we first came home from the NICU (they were 35 weeks), they had us getting them up every 3 hours to eat and they rarely cried or woke up crying but now that they are just past their due date they are starting to not want to sleep when I do :-)  and will cry.  When do we start letting them cry themselves to sleep? Are they too young now?  They are almost 6 weeks old (born at 34).  One of our girls has reflux so when she cries it is hard for me to ignore her because she might be in pain so I am usually up everytime she fusses- sometimes crying makes the reflux worse.  Not sure what to do... it ends in me getting NO sleep :-(

Also, when do they start sleeping better.  Our girls are up all night, wanting attention and they eat like every 1.5-2 hours then during the day they sleep great but the Dr said they are too young to try to flip their schedule...advice?

Mrs.Greg

Patience, Grasshopper.  Seriously, crying is normal for newborns.  And yes, it is WAY too early to let your babies cry themselves to sleep.  Some crying is unavoidable, you have two babies to tend to and sometimes one will just have to wait their turn.  But do have some patience with the babies.  It's gonna be a tough couple of months (if not more!).  Good luck!

SoldiersGreenBean

They're too young to just let them cry.  Most experts say not until 6 months.

In my experience, you can try to flip their schedules now.  It took us about a week to flip it, but we did it by waking them up every 2-3 hours during the day and letting them sleep as long as they would overnight.

FWIW, newborns cry because they need something.  In the early days, it's a guessing game you play to figure out what it is.  But it's usually got a reason.  PP is right - sometimes it's unavoidable because there is 1 of you and 2 of them, but you need to do your best to ride out the next few months.  The first few months are awful (again, in my experience), but it does get better.

robinsokj

Way too early to let them cry. Andy boys still aren't strn consistently. Lately not at all

daniellecleasby

Thank you all.  The advice helps alot and lets me know it will get better. 

Have a good weekend

RClaffee

I just wanted to add that when we brought our girls home from the NICU, at first they were not criers and stuck to their schedule and I was thinking to myself, what is the big deal? This is so easy! 

Anyway, once they neared their due date, all that went out the window for a while, but it went back again soon after. Hang in there.