Just found out I'm having TWINS! Need adivce!!!

Dori722

Hi ladies -

Let me introduce myself...I'm coming over from the TTTC board. My DH and I have a beautiful 3 year old son and for almost a year and a half had a very difficult time getting pregnant again with our second. After meds, IUI's, etc we decided to go through IVF and today we found out that we are having twins!

I'm excited but I'm I'm not going to lie, I'm scared. I don't know anyone who has twins and I have no idea what to expect. We live in the city right now, do we have to move out...would it be too hard to live here with twins? Will I definitely need help and a baby nurse?

ANY advice you could pass along to me would be great...thanks!  

tmbuchmann

Congratulations! And Welcome!

LnA5909

I don't have outside babies yet, so I can't answer many of your questions, but congrats and welcome!

crystaleyes39

I'm expecting twins as well, I can't input on how hard it will be or what to expect, but I can say that at first i was VERY scared too. After a few weeks of it settling in and especially once you get to registering for them you really will be so excited!

Jen0204

crystaleyes39:

I'm expecting twins as well, I can't input on how hard it will be or what to expect, but I can say that at first i was VERY scared too. After a few weeks of it settling in and especially once you get to registering for them you really will be so excited!

I completely agree!  I was in shock for a couple of weeks (and still get the "holy crap" moments once in a while), but once it sinks in it's easier to wrap your head around.  I'm really excited now.  This board is a great resource, I learn a lot just from reading the different threads.

2shihtzus

Congrats and welcome!!  I don't know where you live so I can't answer thatfor sure but I can say that you won't necessarily need help and a baby nurse.  Would it be helpful?  Sure, but you don't have to have it.  We never had anyone stay the night with us and we were able to manage just fine.  However, we don't have an older child so I can't speak to that.  There are a lot of MoMs on here that have 1+ twins so they can probably give better advice on that than I can.   Stick around here, you will get tons of great advice and support, this is a great board!

atlb

Don't worry, you can do it! I have an older DD (5) and have done everything with basically no help--not even from my husband most of the time! I know it is scary at first, but you will get used to the idea.

zsvendsen

Welcome and congratulations!

You don't "have" to move because you're having babies (instead of A baby) - it all depends on what works for you. People on the board will have advice, and check out Ohdeedoh (ohdeedoh.com) for tips on living in a small space with kids and cute shared kids' rooms ideas.

Some of the women on this board have also moved while pregnant and can tell you if they recommend it or not. We remodeled because of the twins (boy/girl, we live in a two bedroom house and knew we'd eventually want three bedrooms anyway, so we went for it) and it was stressful but that was the right choice for us - rather than moving. If you have same-gender twins, they can share a room for a long time, really. And I have a friend with 4 singletons (two boys, two girls) who ALL share a room (well, the fourth hasn't moved in yet - still an infant), and the oldest boy is 7. It works because it has to, and the kids don't care.

Good luck!

RedWingsFan

Congrats and welcome!

We moved from a townhouse in Chicago to a house in Chicago when I was 31 weeks pregnant (and moving day was the day I was discharged from the hospital for PTL) - I would not recommend it, but it worked out in the end.

I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months!

jlefief

I have a 3 year old and 4 mo old twins.  ZERO help and a husband that travels 3 days a week.  It takes some adjusting and nerves of steel but you get used to it.  It's like learning to swim, just jump in and figure it out!

2 things that helped me:

Study this board well before they come for lots of tips, tricks, advice and know what to expect.

Babywise  - all 3 of my kids slept through the night after 8 weeks of using BabyWise and it is now my 2nd favorite book after the bible!

jlefief

I should also mention that even though there are moments I feel I could lose my mind, there are many more moments every single day when I feel like the luckiest woman in the entire world!!!!

Oh - and I STILL have OH CRAP moments!!!

RClaffee

I live in the city too and love it still. I think that as long as you have the room, stay! It is so nice to be able to go walk to the store with them or to go on outings without needing to deal with the car. 

My twins are my only children, so I am sure adding a toddler to the mix makes things harder, but I imagine that you will surprise yourself by how you can make things work if you need to.  

violaplayer

Congratulations and welcome

missfire

Congratulations! In terms of help, YES, start thinking about who can help! It doesn't have to be someone you hire -it can be friends or family - but you will need a break. You may also want to line up someone to take care of your older child while you're in the hospital. We had my parents stay with him for the three days, but also had a neighbor agree to come over and stay with him for a few hours, in case I needed to go to the hospital quickly and my parents couldn't get there right away.

We also found that when the babies were six or seven weeks old, we were exhausted and no longer functioning from the sleep deprivation. We hired a postpartum doula to come take care of the babies overnight once or twice a week, just for a few weeks. And we kept our older DS in daycare, and he still goes to part time preschool now. I think if you can afford the help, take it, and if you can't, you will manage fine.