It's not like I lift up my top and start oiling up my belly... lol, I just like to feel for her butt or head or elbow. He thinks it looks like I'm trying to rub the genie out of the bottle and it's embarrassing (for him)... he said it would be like if he had a spare tire him rubbing his beer belly. I said, totally different! Why can't I get a free pass to rub my pregnant belly? I only have 2.5 months left to do it... and honestly sometimes I don't even realize I'm doing it! And it's always over my top/dress. He made me super self-conscious about it now. : /
He's embarrassed about you touching your stomach??? Wow...he needs to get over that. Tell him to mind his own business and get over it. It's your stomach, it's not inappropriate to rub it in public.
Your H is being a little dumb. All pregger mommies rub their bellies - I know I sure do. DH mentioned to me like a month ago that my hand is always on it and I said "yep" and that was it. If he is embarassed, he never said. I like feeling her move and honestly sometimes there's nowhere else to put my hands! They swell like crazy when they dangle at my sides. So rub away! If something so loving embarasses him, the problem is his, not yours!
Girl you rub your belly! It's pretty jerky he would even say anything about it. My DH rubs my belly like crazy in public. I think sometimes some guys feel disconnected from the pregnancy since it isnt happening to them so it makes them feel awkward. Don't you ever feel self concious about showing your baby love in public or in private!
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I find myself just resting my arms on my belly because it's a great arm rest. My hand is almost always on my belly. You shouldn't feel self conscious at all. Shame on your DH for making you feel that way!
I think it's ridiculous for him to make you feel bad about it! I am constantly rubbing the bump. It's like saying hi to my LO. And I've also read several times that many pregnant women subconsciously do this. It's totally normal and nothing like rubbing a beer belly!
I hope you set him straight and tell him to mind his own business then! He should be kissing your belly and smiling when he sees you connecting with your LO. If I were you, I'd let him read this thread so he can feel badly about what he said.
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That's ridiculous. And unless he's growing a little person too, it's nothing like rubbing a beer belly or love handles, WTF? Rub away, and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it!
Also wanted to point this out: LO is aware in there that someone is touching him/her, and why not start an early connection with your baby? He/she hears you talking, hears your heartbeat and all the sounds going on in your body are soothing.. what's wrong with a little touching?
When my bf is hugging me, or my DD is sitting in my lap, my LO pushes back at them. We think it's really cool!
I've never once heard of a husband being embarassed by his pregnant wife touching her belly. Your husband is being totally ridiculous.
I agree with this.
DH is actually the one that tries to rub my stomach in public and I always have to tell him to try not to do it so much because it starts to hurt!
My hands are always either rubbing or resting on my bump when I'm out.
This.
Im sorry you're husband said that he's embarrassed by that. I couldnt see how he would feel that way unless you were doing it in people's faces, inappropriately. It doesnt sound like you are though.
DH loves it when i feel the baby. He usually assumes that baby is moving when i am and always wants to feel.
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Your husband is being a controlling idiot, and rubbing your baby through your tummy is nothing like rubbing a beer belly. He needs to get over himself.
It's not like I lift up my top and start oiling up my belly... lol, I just like to feel for her butt or head or elbow. He thinks it looks like I'm trying to rub the genie out of the bottle and it's embarrassing (for him)... he said it would be like if he had a spare tire him rubbing his beer belly. I said, totally different! Why can't I get a free pass to rub my pregnant belly? I only have 2.5 months left to do it... and honestly sometimes I don't even realize I'm doing it! And it's always over my top/dress. He made me super self-conscious about it now. : /
I am sorry to hear this... I do it all the time... My husband actually rubs my belly in public sometimes to try and feel what I feel.
I would just try to tell him your not doing it on purpose to annoy him, but when you feel movement it is fun to feel from the outside too... also I find it a way to be closer to the baby. Does he like to feel the bump when your in private? I find his example of him rubbing a 'spare tire" in any way similar to rubbing your baby bump silly. Is he trying to say he is embarrassed your have gained weight and when you touch your bump your calling attention to it? It sorta sounded like that to me.... It would make me mad honestly- I would just try to tell him.... if he can't understand why you do it- to ignore it, because pregnant woman rub their bumps... It is very common.
What is so "embarassing" about touching your own bump? ;( It's not like you're feeling yourself up LOL
Seriously.....time to get over what is and isn't embarassing in public! You're going to have a baby...and at some point that kid will embarass you in public whether you like it or not! heheh
If he's one of those guys that scratches himself in public, I'd tell him that's embarrassing for you. I mean really, people always smile or something similar when they see a woman rubbing her pregnant belly because they know that mommy and baby are forming a relationship. Watching a dude fondle himself in public? People don't smile so much at that.... You go ahead and annoy the crap out of him. He's being a selfish prick.
Oh geez! That's crazy, I always have my hand on my belly while out, I guess I'm really protective and I love to feel her move. My DH thinks it's cute and will watch me :-) I would just keep doing it and tell him to get over it! It's not everyday you have a little one in there for you to feel! :-D
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That's..strange? Wonder why it makes him uncomfortable? I always rub my belly, either because the "little" one is squishing his butt out one side and it's uncomfortable, or just because it's a kind of subconscious thing I think all pregnant ladies do! Part of comforting the baby even before it's born I think, just the natural start of mothering?
That's strange. I'm sorry he said that to you. I am constantly resting my hands on my stomach without even meaning to just because it is so out there and in the way and my SO and my BFF are always touching my belly and talking to it LOL. And my 2 year old nephew WILL lift my shirt up to tickle and/or kiss the baby.
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Maybe I'm one of the only ones but I actually find it irritating too when pregnant women sit there and rub their bellies in public. I'm 38 weeks pregnant and I just don't see a need for it. The only thing it seems to do is draw attention to yourself. Pretty sure everyone can see you are pregnant, don't need to draw more attention. I guess I just think its unnecessary, but maybe thats just me.
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Re: DH hates it when I rub my bump in public..
My DH loves it when I touch my belly in public or not!!! Yours should feel the same way!! I'm just so shocked!!!
DH looks at me and smiles when he sees me touching out LO!
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I agree with everyone's above comments...
Also wanted to point this out: LO is aware in there that someone is touching him/her, and why not start an early connection with your baby? He/she hears you talking, hears your heartbeat and all the sounds going on in your body are soothing.. what's wrong with a little touching?
When my bf is hugging me, or my DD is sitting in my lap, my LO pushes back at them. We think it's really cool!
This.
Im sorry you're husband said that he's embarrassed by that. I couldnt see how he would feel that way unless you were doing it in people's faces, inappropriately. It doesnt sound like you are though.
DH loves it when i feel the baby. He usually assumes that baby is moving when i am and always wants to feel.
I am sorry to hear this... I do it all the time... My husband actually rubs my belly in public sometimes to try and feel what I feel.
I would just try to tell him your not doing it on purpose to annoy him, but when you feel movement it is fun to feel from the outside too... also I find it a way to be closer to the baby. Does he like to feel the bump when your in private? I find his example of him rubbing a 'spare tire" in any way similar to rubbing your baby bump silly. Is he trying to say he is embarrassed your have gained weight and when you touch your bump your calling attention to it? It sorta sounded like that to me.... It would make me mad honestly- I would just try to tell him.... if he can't understand why you do it- to ignore it, because pregnant woman rub their bumps... It is very common.
What is so "embarassing" about touching your own bump? ;( It's not like you're feeling yourself up LOL
Seriously.....time to get over what is and isn't embarassing in public! You're going to have a baby...and at some point that kid will embarass you in public whether you like it or not! heheh
Keep on rubbin mama
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My H has started rubbing HIS belly (though he doesn't have one) just because I do it so much he's picked up on it lol.
Dude, your H sounds like a grade-A Assface. What a silly thing to get his knickers in a twist about. For the love of God...
You should tell him not to open his jerkface mouth in public. What a numbnuts.
LOL! This!
sounds like my DH. i tell him to get over it...if there's something poking out it feels better to rub it.
" He thinks it looks like I'm trying to rub the genie out of the bottle"... that made me laugh, i've not thought of it that way before
I actually think I have done this in the car at a stop light with DH in the car....My boobs were killing me..... oops.... He didn't care though-