I got into a little facebook debate with a "friend" (really acquaintance), about judging people who keep their homes filthy.
She posted this: Every mom & dad should repost!* Dirty dishes prove I feed my family, full trashcans prove I clean up after their mess, messy floors prove that I let my child have fun, piles of clean laundry prove I keep my family in clean clothes, a wet bathroom proves that I bathe my child! So next time you walk into my house and see a mess, think twice before you judge!!! Keep this going if you are a parent..
I commented that I thought it was a cute status message, but then I pointed out that there is a difference between messiness and filth. I said that I don't judge people who have stuff laying around, because my house is usually messy with having a 15-month old pulling stuff out all the time. But I said that I do judge people who have a filthy house. I gave examples like moldy dishes, toilets that haven't been cleaned in weeks, and kids sleeping without sheets on dirty mattresses.
She responded by basically saying that single moms can let their house get that way when they are trying to work a full-time job. She said that it's not always easy to keep a house clean when you don't have any time. She said "I've never been the type to judge anyone"
I responded by repeating, that I was not talking about messiness, I was talking about filth. I said "It takes 5 minutes to scrub a toilet, 5 minutes to empty a trash can, and 15-20 minutes to wash dishes by hand" I think that if a person even cleaned their house well twice a week, their house would never get to that disgusting level.
Am I way off base here? Is it wrong to judge people for keeping a filthy house? Again, not talking about messiness... talking about the filth you see on tv.
I also told her that it's easy for her to say that she doesn't judge anyone, but that of course she does. I said, "do you judge animal abusers? Do you judge people who abuse their children? Of course you do. I am willing to admit that I judge people who make their kids live in filth"
Do I have compassion for people who seem to have lost all care about the way they live? Yes. I do. But, it still angers me that they make their kids live that way. Kids don't deserve that.