Thinking back on this long journey, I know I had a *feeling* that something was wrong very early on. Maybe b/c when TTC #1 we were mostly NTNP for a good chunk of the 6 months that it took to get pregnant, and when we started hardcore trying I conceived pretty soon after. This time we were hardcore trying from the beginning, charting, etc....I just knew after a few months that I *should* have been pregnant.
When I first went to the doctor, she totally blew me off. According to her, my husband and I were obviously fertile b/c we had conceived fairly easily the first time. She refused to listen to my concerns (weird sciatic pain during the TWW...which ironically, we still don't know if it is related to our infertility or not, heaven knows we have enough other issues going on.)
Even after we found out that DH had a severely low sperm count and that conceiving naturally again was very unlikely, my friends and family just really didn't believe that we weren't going to get pregnant. My mom was convinced it would happen again "soon", one of my friends was all, "Well, so maybe it will take 8 months this time instead of 6. Keep trying!" (this was before he had varicocele surgery- he had 3 million total sperm *eye roll*)
Now DH's count is borderline normal, but I have DOR at the ripe old age of 27. After 2 years of TTC, one m/c and 15 months after being told about DH's MFI......I feel like people are FINALLY starting to believe that we have a serious problem.
Re: Did it take you awhile to be taken seriously?
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Oh, my doctor switched gears after DH's seman anaylysis/my labwork and told us we have less than a 5% chance of getting pregnant. I basically went from everyone blowing me off to being told I would never have more children.
I was blown off by my OB, but my RE has always been welcoming and respectful. My OB had me start some tests for #2 (knowing my history with DD#1), but then never called me with results until 2 months later when she called to tell me that my day 21 progesterone never showed up. Yeah...that bus left the station a loooooong time ago.
I, luckily, had the results sent to my RE, too, and she took care of me from there. At my earlier appt, My OB refused to refer me to the RE that I had seen for DD#1. She wanted to send me to her guy and ignored my protests that I had already developed a relationship with the first person. I did an end run and called the RE directly. I'm questioning whether I'll go back to the OB if/when I get pregnant.
I feel the exact same way.
Except DH's still thinks that we will have another child even if all the IUI's don't work. Somehow magically, I'll get pregnant after 7 failed IUI's and MFI.
~after 34 cycles we finally got our 2nd little bundle of joy~
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I am fortunate that most family and friends are very understanding and supportive, but there are the few that don't get it.
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
By doctors? No. For once, my age was helpful. After 5 months of TTC DS, but at age 38, my OB took me seriously and did a clomid challenge test, had me get an HSG, and did one more month of clomid before turfing me to the RE. So for him I was 38 and had tried for 7 months, so no issue. (we conceived spontaneously on a break before we were about to do an IUI).
After DS, and we had tried for 4 momths, I knew something was wrong and DH thought I was crazy, We saw the RE again and he immediately did BW and found I definitely had issues, and recommended going straight to IVF, which we would have done if it were covered by insurance.
So, so, not with the doctors. But with DH? Yes, in fact I don't think he thought there was a problem until maybe 2-3 months ago.
With friends? With the ones who went through IF or 2IF, no. The ones who never had problems still barely think there's a problem or think at age 41 it's time to just raise the one I have. The ones without kids just think I'm crazy, but I understand that.
YES! I have family members who say, "Look at your daughter, you can't tell me that your not supposed to have another one." Yeah, yeah, yeah. Because you have a direct line to God and he told you something that he didn't tell me.
Oh, you're just trying too hard. Well, we didn't try at all the first 6 months...Fertile people drive me crazy!
The first visit with my RE he said, "You've had one pregnancy in 4 years. It's a good thing you came to me first." No problem with the doctor, obviously.
---------Game Over---------
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