Ask a second+ time mom? Anyone up for a game of this?

TheOriginalSP

I remember a long time ago we did this on BOTB.  People pretty much asked any of the "scary" questions that they wanted to know answers to and the moms who have been there already gave their input. 

Stuff from 3rd Tri sex to losing your MP to actual labor to pushing and if you really did poop on the table.  Anyone game for this?  We can either do a certain topic (labor) or just a broad generalization of questions.

dixee.deluxe

I'M GAME!

gisa886

TheOriginalSP:

I remember a long time ago we did this on BOTB.  People pretty much asked any of the "scary" questions that they wanted to know answers to and the moms who have been there already gave their input. 

Stuff from 3rd Tri sex to losing your MP to actual labor to pushing and if you really did poop on the table.  Anyone game for this?  We can either do a certain topic (labor) or just a broad generalization of questions.

This is a good game. My mom was zero help to me when I had DD because she had 4 c-sections and was with me so when my water broke she just told me I peed the bed and to go back to sleep because it wasn't a gushing river of fluid

pensparade

Me too. Maybe it will make me feel smart. haha

Punken13

count me in!

 

ImThisBabysMom

Here's a question....Is the evil article posted yesterday true about my bloody vag and poop and everything else that terrified me???

SKWCM80

I'm in!

Lina1030

I'M IN! ASK AWAY!

pensparade

ImThisBabysMom:

Here's a question....Is the evil article posted yesterday true about my bloody vag and poop and everything else that terrified me???

I don't know the article you speak of but blood and poop is a definite yes.

TheOriginalSP

ImThisBabysMom:

Here's a question....Is the evil article posted yesterday true about my bloody vag and poop and everything else that terrified me???

I don't know what article you are talking about.  Are you talking about your first poop after the baby?   I think I was more scared about that then actually having my baby.  TERRIFIED!  But as long as you take plenty of colace you should be more than ok.  Buy some BEFORE you have your baby and make sure you take them religiously. 

And bloody vag after the baby?  I bled for 6+ weeks with both of my girls.  I was one of the lucky ones.  But the good news, after the first few days of heavy OMG I think I'm dying bleeding, it's just like a light period after that.  No need for the major maxi pads.  I got just regulas Always Thin. 

adamstodrake

Love to play! The article pp speaks of is the one I posted last night called 'What Pregnant Women Don't Tell You'.

dixee.deluxe

ImThisBabysMom:

Here's a question....Is the evil article posted yesterday true about my bloody vag and poop and everything else that terrified me???

 

Yes, it is true.  But when you are going through it, you're all mixed up anyway.  Days and nights don't exist.  Time turns into something different.  Because of that, it's like you're in a dreamworld and one day it's just...over.

krystalxyz

ImThisBabysMom:

Here's a question....Is the evil article posted yesterday true about my bloody vag and poop and everything else that terrified me???

 

THIS!  https://skepchick.org/2010/02/what-pregnant-women-wont-tell-you-ever/

gisa886

ImThisBabysMom:

Here's a question....Is the evil article posted yesterday true about my bloody vag and poop and everything else that terrified me???

After the baby is born take a stool softener and get some cottenelle fresh wipes and it is all good. I bled for less than 6 weeks and after the first week it wasn't so bad.

TheOriginalSP

krystalxyz:

ImThisBabysMom:

Here's a question....Is the evil article posted yesterday true about my bloody vag and poop and everything else that terrified me???

 

THIS!  https://skepchick.org/2010/02/what-pregnant-women-wont-tell-you-ever/

FWIW,  I DID NOT poop on the table!  Either time.  I pooped right before I had to push becuase I did not want to poop in front of my husband!!!!!

dixee.deluxe

dixee.deluxe:

ImThisBabysMom:

Here's a question....Is the evil article posted yesterday true about my bloody vag and poop and everything else that terrified me???

 

Yes, it is true.  But when you are going through it, you're all mixed up anyway.  Days and nights don't exist.  Time turns into something different.  Because of that, it's like you're in a dreamworld and one day it's just...over.

Also, if you're planning a water birth, keep in mind that you will probably poop in the pool.  And then you have to get out of the tub.  You can't birth a baby in a poopy tub. 

So, just keep that in mind.

ImThisBabysMom

dixee.deluxe:

ImThisBabysMom:

Here's a question....Is the evil article posted yesterday true about my bloody vag and poop and everything else that terrified me???

 

Yes, it is true.  But when you are going through it, you're all mixed up anyway.  Days and nights don't exist.  Time turns into something different.  Because of that, it's like you're in a dreamworld and one day it's just...over.

Well none of those responses made me feel better LOL. I'll just have to toughen up for April.

gisa886

TheOriginalSP:

krystalxyz:

ImThisBabysMom:

Here's a question....Is the evil article posted yesterday true about my bloody vag and poop and everything else that terrified me???

 

THIS!  https://skepchick.org/2010/02/what-pregnant-women-wont-tell-you-ever/

FWIW,  I DID NOT poop on the table!  Either time.  I pooped right before I had to push becuase I did not want to poop in front of my husband!!!!!

I totally pooped. I told them I had to go and they didn't believe me. At that point I did not care.

dixee.deluxe

ImThisBabysMom:

dixee.deluxe:

ImThisBabysMom:

Here's a question....Is the evil article posted yesterday true about my bloody vag and poop and everything else that terrified me???

 

Yes, it is true.  But when you are going through it, you're all mixed up anyway.  Days and nights don't exist.  Time turns into something different.  Because of that, it's like you're in a dreamworld and one day it's just...over.

Well none of those responses made me feel better LOL. I'll just have to toughen up for April.

YUP!  You can do it! 

rc1276

I don't know if it will make anyone feel better or worse about it, but I have no idea if I pooped during delivery or not.

pensparade

rc1276:

I don't know if it will make anyone feel better or worse about it, but I have no idea if I pooped during delivery or not.

Me either. I never asked. Though I'm pretty sure it happened.

megoguen

I have a non-poopy related question. I had read somewhere to eat before you get to the hospital, because once you're in, ice chips is it. Is this true? If so, I'm planning ahead... somehow.

dixee.deluxe

megoguen:

I have a non-poopy related question. I had read somewhere to eat before you get to the hospital, because once you're in, ice chips is it. Is this true? If so, I'm planning ahead... somehow.

YES.  Stay home as long as you can because once you're there, you get nuthin.  The day I delivered, I had 2 Luna bars.  I knew this rule, but my water broke at my appt (at the hospital) so I couldn't hide.  I was only in labor 12 hours, but come 3 am when the baby came, I was starving. 

pensparade

megoguen:

I have a non-poopy related question. I had read somewhere to eat before you get to the hospital, because once you're in, ice chips is it. Is this true? If so, I'm planning ahead... somehow.

USUALLY, YES.

Sometimes if you are lucky they will give you some toast or water. It depends on your situation, but you never know.

rc1276

megoguen:

I have a non-poopy related question. I had read somewhere to eat before you get to the hospital, because once you're in, ice chips is it. Is this true? If so, I'm planning ahead... somehow.

Yes, if you can ... I had this cockamamie idea that I'd go to Chipotle or something to really fill up my tank but I had no desire to eat anything. It was also the middle of the night when I went into labor and went to the hospital. 

It was ice chips and water, and I think they might have treated me with 4 oz of apple juice once.

Tambcat

Did anyone have a pain med-free labor and actually enjoy it? I hear people say they loved their birth experience, but they are usually people who had an epi. Or does it just totally suck. I'd like to go med-free, but I don't want to hate the whole thing.

rc1276

Tambcat:

Did anyone have a pain med-free labor and actually enjoy it? I hear people say they loved their birth experience, but they are usually people who had an epi. Or does it just totally suck. I'd like to go med-free, but I don't want to hate the whole thing.

I'm an epi fan, but there are lots of women who go med free with their first baby and repeat the experience with future kids. 

FWIW I pretty much hated the whole thing even with the epi.

shealy12

pensparade:

megoguen:

I have a non-poopy related question. I had read somewhere to eat before you get to the hospital, because once you're in, ice chips is it. Is this true? If so, I'm planning ahead... somehow.

USUALLY, YES.

Sometimes if you are lucky they will give you some toast or water. It depends on your situation, but you never know.

shealy12

pensparade:

megoguen:

I have a non-poopy related question. I had read somewhere to eat before you get to the hospital, because once you're in, ice chips is it. Is this true? If so, I'm planning ahead... somehow.

USUALLY, YES.

Sometimes if you are lucky they will give you some toast or water. It depends on your situation, but you never know.

shealy12

pensparade:

megoguen:

I have a non-poopy related question. I had read somewhere to eat before you get to the hospital, because once you're in, ice chips is it. Is this true? If so, I'm planning ahead... somehow.

USUALLY, YES.

Sometimes if you are lucky they will give you some toast or water. It depends on your situation, but you never know.

Once my epidural was in....no eating. They put it in at 9am, and I didn't get to eat until almost midnight. I was starving so I made hubby get Wendys.....only to not really eat much of it.

pensparade

Tambcat:

Did anyone have a pain med-free labor and actually enjoy it? I hear people say they loved their birth experience, but they are usually people who had an epi. Or does it just totally suck. I'd like to go med-free, but I don't want to hate the whole thing.

I had an epi and some how it just stopped working about an hour before pushing time and they didn't realize it until I was pushing and crying about the pain.

So yea, mine was med free by the time it came to pushing and I did NOT enjoy it.

ETA: I plan on getting an epi again and just pray that this time it doesn't kick out on me. please please please.

IMO, you don't get an award for going med free. If you think it'll make you feel like super mom, go right ahead, but I wouldn't do it by choice.

benoitfan

I don't know if I pooped during delivery either....no one said and I didn't ask!  One of the perks of an epidural...if I did, I didn't feel it!

ChelseyB5186

I guess mine is a BF question:  I heard that if you plan to BF you should try and do it right away, or as soon as possible (at the hospital).  But, I also know that babies sometimes take awhile to latch.  Were you all able to BF right away (those who chose to do so), or did it take longer, and how was it at first?

dixee.deluxe

pensparade:

Tambcat:

Did anyone have a pain med-free labor and actually enjoy it? I hear people say they loved their birth experience, but they are usually people who had an epi. Or does it just totally suck. I'd like to go med-free, but I don't want to hate the whole thing.

I had an epi and some how it just stopped working about an hour before pushing time and they didn't realize it until I was pushing and crying about the pain.

So yea, mine was med free by the time it came to pushing and I did NOT enjoy it.

Yep this was me.  Medicated labor, unmedicated delivery.  Nope, didn't enjoy it.

Oh, and this relates to the poop.  I think when I first started pushing, I wasn't doing it right because I was scared I'd push so hard that my butthole would turn inside out (which isn't related to pooping, but may be relevant).  They kept telling me I was doing it wrong so I was like "EFF THIS and gave it all I got when it approached the 2 hour mark".

My butthole turned inside out, but the baby came out without assistance from the vacuum. 

Moral is...butthole turning inside out is way scarier than pooping.

countdowntolockdown

Hmmm, don't really care about pooping on the table, but I do worry about tearing. Can this be prevented? I hear massaging the opening can help, but that just seems like crap.

Also, do you use crib bumpers, because now they're in question. I'm terrified already of my baby suffocating.

TIA! 

TheOriginalSP

megoguen:

I have a non-poopy related question. I had read somewhere to eat before you get to the hospital, because once you're in, ice chips is it. Is this true? If so, I'm planning ahead... somehow.

I ate a bowl of cereal at 3am before I went to the hospital and didn't get to eat again until almost 9pm.  EAT BEFORE!!!

With the second I was induced and ate breakfast before they gave me the pitocin and then ate at 2:30 just 15 mins after she was born.  I think I ate some jello and toast in between that.  But yeah they don't give you much. 

foxxy1

I got a question (well, two): after a vaginal birth, what was sex like? Does doing the Kegels really help?

After a c-section, how long do you have to wait until you can have sex again?

Sunshine+Luv

Ok, here's my question. After you give birth, do things go back to normal? As in, it is all stretched out forever and the deed with DH is never the same? (I am on a work computer forgive the odd wording).

TheOriginalSP

Tambcat:

Did anyone have a pain med-free labor and actually enjoy it? I hear people say they loved their birth experience, but they are usually people who had an epi. Or does it just totally suck. I'd like to go med-free, but I don't want to hate the whole thing.

I had a induction with pitocin with my second and did no epi until the very end and by that time it was too late.  I actually did enjoy most of my labor.  Until the contractions started to hurt really bad and then the whole transition thing.  Yeah...transition is the part of labor where you literally feel like you are going to die.  I've heard that's when some med free people ask for the epi.  But all in all when it's said and done it's not that bad.  I don't know if it's the fact that you just forget how horrible it is or if it really wasn't that bad.  I'll say though, it's all 100% totally worth all of the pain once you see and hold that little baby!

chasbride07

Tambcat:

Did anyone have a pain med-free labor and actually enjoy it? I hear people say they loved their birth experience, but they are usually people who had an epi. Or does it just totally suck. I'd like to go med-free, but I don't want to hate the whole thing.

I did the most med-free.  It wasn't too terrible, just really uncomfortable.  Until transition which came roughly 17 hours into the ordeal.  At that point I started throwing up and begged for an epi.  They said how about we try some nubain for now and order the epi.  This time I'm hoping to make it the whole time because from the time I got the nubain to when he was born was about an hour and a half.  I was just so freaking tired, I needed something!

gisa886

ChelseyB5186:

I guess mine is a BF question:  I heard that if you plan to BF you should try and do it right away, or as soon as possible (at the hospital).  But, I also know that babies sometimes take awhile to latch.  Were you all able to BF right away (those who chose to do so), or did it take longer, and how was it at first?

I didnt bf right away cause we had a room full of people. I left the hospital with a shield and that helped. Don't get discouraged if baby doesn't latch at the hospital because it is totally normal. Just keep trying. Once they get the hang of it it is so easy! And the shield really helps.