Is it totally tacky to throw your own baby shower?

gisa886

LMK cause SO and I are totally considering it. I mean, we just moved to a new place and our financial situation is totally crazy so we are gonna need people to give us every thing we need for this baby and maybe keep buying us stuff after we have the baby.

FTR: I was making a funny.

ImThisBabysMom

Edit: Changed my answer to Yes since I got way out voted and I am super tacky LOL.

I love the board.

TrendyTina

Yes. 

gisa886

A girl asked this on 1st tri and there was a girl my best friend worked with that was planning on throwing herself a shower at work. She was gonna make fliers and put them all over the store. It was going to be an all day thing too. It kind of makes me LOL.

starshollow

Sorry, but it is pretty tacky.

We all know babies cost money, but it really isn't your place to ask others to pay for yours.  Is there a friend or family member that will want to throw you one?  You can definitely register for things you need and hope that people get those things.  You can even have friends and family spread the word of where you are registered.

Once the baby is born, you can send out birth announcements.  No one is obligated to send a gift when they get the announcement, especially if they gave you a shower gift, but some will opt to send you a gift anyway.

beth6287

Personally, I don't think it is because I get why you would be throwing it yourself. but unless you want to explain your financial situation to everyone I can see other people thinking it is tacky. I would suggest planning it with one of your good friends....that way you still have one but the more judgemental people will think your friend did it and it won't look as bad.

starshollow

D'oh.  My first thought was that this can't be a real question, but I answered anyway.

DragonflyBelle

Gisa, my friend did...and you look like you could be her twin, BTW.

She did it because she was a SAHW and had way too much time and money on her hands and was way too picky and particular to have anyone else do it.

gisa886

DragonflyBelle:

Gisa, my friend did...and you look like you could be her twin, BTW.

She did it because she was a SAHW and had way too much time and money on her hands and was way too picky and particular to have anyone else do it.

I ever knew I had a twin out there. I can understand wanting to be very involved if you are that kind of person, but I'd at least pretend someone else was the hostess. My mom technically threw my shower, but we had it at my cousin's house. We aren't the game playing type so we ate a lot of BBQ and opened gifts and just hung out.

TIFFANYTORRES1984

I personally think it's tacky but thats just me. It seems kinda needy to me.

funkymonkeyohyeahhh

I think it's tacky to throw yourself any type of shower. The point is to shower you with gifts. If you want to be involved in planning/control the theme/etc then maybe express some of your wishes/ideas to the host. If no one volunteers to throw you one, tough luck...?

gisa886

funkymonkeyohyeahhh:

I think it's tacky to throw yourself any type of shower. The point is to shower you with gifts. If you want to be involved in planning/control the theme/etc then maybe express some of your wishes/ideas to the host. If no one volunteers to throw you one, tough luck...?

Totally agree! I checked to see if 1st tri girl also asked it on the baby showers board and she didn't. If she thought she had it rough on the tri board she would've gotten the crap slapped out of her on baby showers.

biblionerd

I was ready to smack you upside your virtual head.

gisa886

biblionerd:

I was ready to smack you upside your virtual head.

Lol I know you would! First I am a cat hating slore and now I want to throw myself a baby shower.

funkymonkeyohyeahhh

gisa886:

biblionerd:

I was ready to smack you upside your virtual head.

Lol I know you would! First I am a cat hating slore and now I want to throw myself a baby shower.

It takes all kinds.

nzmum

My mum is throwing mine but she's leaving the guest list, date and place and gift registry to me. We are really specific in what we want people to bring (only small gifts) and friends are at uni and things like that. I guess do whatever makes you feel comfortable and screw everyone else's opinions Your baby your way.

SoonToBeMrsDTS

You should ask my 20 y/o knocked up on a one-night stand neighbor. She invited me and her other 300 closest friends to the shower she was throwing herself via facebook invite. 

gisa886

SoonToBeMrsDTS:

You should ask my 20 y/o knocked up on a one-night stand neighbor. She invited me and her other 300 closest friends to the shower she was throwing herself via facebook invite. 

Klassy!

funkymonkeyohyeahhh

SoonToBeMrsDTS:

You should ask my 20 y/o knocked up on a one-night stand neighbor. She invited me and her other 300 closest friends to the shower she was throwing herself via facebook invite. 

FTW!

CM1206

To make it even better I think you need to add in "Cash Only Gifts" at the bottom on the invite.

devious1031

Honestly I think it's a bit tacky, then again I liked how it was/is in my family (and DH's family is the same).   Babyshowers are a surprise for mom & dad, we have one for every child in the family and EVERYONE is there (none of that "girls only" stuff)..