Dilemma for me, question for you

Heddarc

So, DH just dropped a bomb on me last night and now I'm not sure what to do...our NT scan was about 99% chance of boy and he told me that he doesn't believe in circumcision.  I've never given it much thought, I always thought I would circumcise my son but now I'm not sure what to do.  He told me that SS is not circumcised (how in the heck did I miss something like that!).  

So, now the debate is to do it or not and that if we did, the boys would look different and that may be difficult for them to understand.

I saw that someone posted on this subject last night but I'm looking for anyone who has chosen NOT to circumcise and how you feel about your decision. 

MamaBoden

Oh wait this debate is for NON circumcisers...

busywifey

i always thought my son would be circumcised but after doing a lot of research we decided not to.

the academy of pediatrics does NOT give an opinion on whether or not to, there is no harm in not circumcising so we didnt.

My husband was dead set against it , but with me it took research and talking to doctors. also , in my area its becoming more and more common NOT to. its almost split 50/50 among newborn boys in my area.

 

careyalis

It is creepy that I know this, but my sister n law has talked about it before so that's how I got my info lol.  My brother isn't circumcised and he is super sensitive about it.  He is embarrassed about it and his friends have given him a hard time about it his whole life.  My mom feels guilty for letting my dad talk her out of doing it, and has even offered to pay for him to get it done as a grown man.  I don't know much as far as the health benefits go, but do it for the self esteem of your son.  You don't want him to go through life as the "abnormal one" in the locker room. 

HannahO28

you'll probably have good luck finding non-circumcised babies on the Attachment Parenting Board... They're very helpful, I would post this over there

WildcatPrincess

I don't have a boy, but I do want to point out leaving boys intact is becoming more frequent and I don't think it would be as abnormal for a male growing up in this generation. Many friends and people at moms group have chosen not to circ.

Mamasaurus

We are going back and forth about it. My husband is on the fence and leaning toward the snip of the tip, whereas I am pretty against it. Sure, some kids need to get it done later because of an abnormal foreskin, but that's a small minority, probably comparable to the number of snipped kids who need something extra done because their circumcision didn't go right. I figure that if somebody had trimmed my labia or removed the hood of my clitoris when I was a baby, I'd feel like my body had been violated. I don't want my child to feel that way, especially not because of something I ok'd. If he wants it snipped, he can always have it done when he's older, right? I mean, a lot of men must feel that way, because there's a pretty big foreskin "restoration" industry.

FWIW, circumcision rates in the US are somewhere around 50%, though it can vary a lot by where in the country you live. In any case, he probably won't be the only intact male in the locker room, if for some reason they're standing around after gym class comparing weenies. When they're erect, they end up looking pretty much the same anyhow.

shouldbworkin

Well, I think that your LO will find more acceptance for being uncirc'd nowadays.  It's really about 50/50 that do it. 

We do circ, but for religious reasons.  That being said, I don't think it's something that has to be done and if it was me, I would prefer it not to be done in the hospital.  There are some procedures that should be followed as per the AAP and unless the hospital is willing to allow you to be there to witness it and make sure it's done right, I wouldn't do it there.  I'd take your DS to a urologist a week later to have it done, if you feel strongly that it should be done.