well, that didn't go how I hoped

hilwithonelary

So I'm finally telling all my family members about this pregnancy.  I just called my grandparents who are 93 and 96.  They don't generally get excited, and sometimes have the tendency to say semi-inappropriate things.  For example, my grandpa has told me "You don't look quite as heavy as you used to."  However, I hoped that I would get a tiny bit of happiness out of them when I told them that I was pregnant. 

When I called them tonight, my grandma answered.  I asked if my grandpa wanted to get on the other phone.  She pretty much refused to do that, and instead said that she would give him the phone and then he could give it back to her later. 

My grandpa is super deaf, but he always blames something else for why he can't hear me.  He finally said, "I'm going to try to get a better phone."  I tried to ask if he would give the phone he currently had to my grandma, but he didn't hear me. 

I had a short conversation with him, which mostly involved him saying "I can't seem to hear you.  Can you hear me okay?"

Then the phone went back to my grandma.  We talked a couple minutes, then I told her DH and I were expecting another baby.  It went like this.

Grandma: "Oh really?  Is that so?" (completely normal voice like I had told her "we got a lot of rain last night")

Me: "Yep, we're excited."

Grandma: "Tell me the details."

Me:  "I'm due March 19th.  So far everything looks good."

Grandma: "So did John want another one?"

Me: "Yes, he did.  We're both excited."

Grandma: "Well, I suppose that's a good stopping point."

Me: ...

My dad is an only child, and he was born after my grandparents had been married for 13 years.  I don't know if he was an oops, a miracle, or a planned only child.  DH and I aren't sure if we're having more or not, but I didn't really appreciate the commentary. 

jayleigh68

Omg... That's ridiculous! I'm sorry

jenny_seitz

Wowzers.  HAHAHA!  Because 2 is SOOOO many!

 

We told my grams (the only living grandparent between the 2 of us) on her birthday a few weeks ago and she cried she was so excited.  I'm sorry your grandmother's response wasn't quite the same.  

efox0615

Oh I'm sorry. My grandma asked me if our pregnancy was an accident, I promptly told her no. Now 6 weeks later, she told me I'm hiding my pregnancy well. Not sure where she is coming up with this stuff since we've been married for 4 years (together for 10), my husband owns his own business and I have my BSN and work as an RN full time, we own our town home... there is no reason for us not to be pregnant right now, but apparently she has different ideas.

Alliebooberz

Well... lol... that's a 90 something year old for ya :P Those ornery old people.  Sorry it didn't go as you hoped!

jenny_seitz

efox0615:

Oh I'm sorry. My grandma asked me if our pregnancy was an accident, I promptly told her no. Now 6 weeks later, she told me I'm hiding my pregnancy well. Not sure where she is coming up with this stuff since we've been married for 4 years (together for 10), my husband owns his own business and I have my BSN and work as an RN full time, we own our town home... there is no reason for us not to be pregnant right now, but apparently she has different ideas.

Wow to all of that.  People never cease to amaze me with the sh!t that comes out of their mouths!

Joie80

It's been my experience that older people are very comfortable saying some of the most inappropriate things. I'm sure you were hoping for more excitement, but....well...she said what she said. Sorry

yurmom

Aww, this made me LOL.  They're old, you gotta forgive them.  I work with geriatrics so I'm never suprised by what comes out of their mouths.  Sorry it didn't go as you hoped, hope it went better with your parents.

Fergie+1

Don't feel too bad, hon. When I told my grandparents, My grandma said "Well, isn't that something... Huh." She then asked if this one was an accident, then backtracked by saying it didn't matter. My mom and aunt are barely 2 years apart, so she then began to tell me about how hard it was... thanks, grandma; I needed to hear how you got no sleep and still had a farm to work at 4 a.m. on top of two babies, making dinner and keeping the house clean.

LauraSmarterSpam

efox0615:

Oh I'm sorry. My grandma asked me if our pregnancy was an accident, I promptly told her no. Now 6 weeks later, she told me I'm hiding my pregnancy well. Not sure where she is coming up with this stuff since we've been married for 4 years (together for 10), my husband owns his own business and I have my BSN and work as an RN full time, we own our town home... there is no reason for us not to be pregnant right now, but apparently she has different ideas.

 

That is crazy!  DH and I have been married for four years as well, and this is our first.  When we told his grandma, she was so excited and said she almost gave up on us having children but she understood that we were still young.  My grandma was just ecstatic as she loves babies.  They keep wanting baby bump photos, but I still look exactly the same except after I've eaten.

MTAtlanta

OMG I'm sorry but I had to smile at that - how wildly inappropriate!

I supposed that's a good stopping point. What?!

What is it about older family members - it's like with age the appropriateness-filter just gets thrown out completely. They feel completely comfortable commenting bluntly on weight, hair color, clothing, major life decisions, names, jobs, ..... in addition to the "well, back in my day" stories.

Ugh - I'm sorry about that. You have to give them a break, and take it all in with a huge grain of salt.