Feeling like such a bad mom right now

BoxTer

Or, Why Do These Things Always Happen at Gymboree?

So we were playing on one of the rocking horses and I was supporting her w/ one hand while trying to take a photo with the other. Well, she threw herself back and off the horse and hit the floor. Silence. Then the most awful cry. I could feel everyone looking at me as I picked her up and tried to calm her down. It wasn't a far fall and it was onto carpet, but I felt terrible, and worse that it happened there in front of all those people. I mean, I have never had this happen to me before. She calmed down after a few minutes and I gave her a bottle. I bought her a "guilt Gymbo" clown puppet as we were leaving and now she's cooing away in her crib. I know it was just an accident, but when I called to tell DH about it, I couldn't stop crying and I just feel sick to my stomach. He tried to reassure me, but I can't shake the feeling. Even now as I type this, tears are in my eyes. And I'm mad that I even care what those women think, because I really didn't think I did, but maybe I do care more than I think, and I hate that.

wvagirl

you are a great mom!  accidents happen, but it is always harder when other people see them happen.  somehow it makes it seem like a much bigger deal than it is. 

eli has been working on sitting up.  so at my last yoga class i let him sit up on the mat the whole time while i did yoga.  well of course despite the fact that i surrounded him with two thick mats he falls over to the side and bangs his head on the wood floor!  oops! he screamed his little head off for about a minute then he was over it, but i was flushed and shaking the rest of the class. 

don't worry, but next week the other moms will have forgotten, and someone else's kiddo will take a dive.  hang in there. 

 

Mrs.Reem

Oh sweetie you need a hug. ((hUGS))  You are a FANTASTIC mother! In fact all of those Gymoboree moms are secretly jealous of you and the fun you have with your daughter. Don't fret. This is just one of many ooopsies to come.

Katen is learning to walk and it looks like we beat our child. She has a mark on her forehead where she dove into the doorway randomly, and a mark below her eye where she head butted a crib at daycare. Ahhhh what can ya do? 

Repeat after me... "I am a fantastic mother. I am good enough, smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like me."    

CMM05

Do NOT beat yourself up about this! First off.....she hit the carpet/mat....she is fine Don't worry about the other moms. I know its hard to not wonder what they are thinking, but trust me, they won't admit it, but they have been in the same position before! When we go to Gymboree, my DS is the only one who won't sit still. There are all these babies that sit perfectly on their mom's laps for like 20 minutes straight. I was embarassed at first.....but you know what? Gymboree is for PLAY time. I got over it!!

My DS falls all the time and our house is so child proof and I watch him every second. Things will happen......they are babies.....just wait until she starts walking! My DS falls daily now (even on hardwood floors!!) because he is trying to stand and walk and then loses his balance.....

elliek05

You wouldn't be a good mum if you weren't upset about it-- and I promise it happens to every single child and parent in that room. Now if you had been off smoking or on your phone and left her alone and she'd fallen... that'd be another story, but you were there supervising and being a loving, involved mum and short of wrapping her up in bubble wrap and keeping her locked in some kind of cage, there's no way she's going to learn and grow without some minor spills. Nobody there has any right to judge you for even a second.