Just told my one of my best friends..

ATXBarber

I just worked up the nerve to tell one of my best friends that DH and I are officially TTC. She was extremely supportive and happy for us. I have tons of butterflys in my stomach now and a huge smile on my face. It was really nice to tell someone.

I'm debating whether or not to tell anyone else (mom, other bfs, aunt). Who all knows that you're TTC?

 I'm on CD 6 and expecting O around the 15th-19th.

AliciaS1411

It depends...if you end up having a lot of trouble TTC, do you want to deal with all their questions and reminders? If you lose a baby, do you want to deal with it privately with your husband or do you want everyone to know? 

Personally, my family won't know until we're 12 weeks pregnant. 

GermanGirl2007

My husband and I know.  And that is pretty much it other than 1 close friend and you ladies .  I have told maybe 2 other close friends that we are hoping to have kids soon, but they don't know that we are actively TTC.

BankerBSN

We haven't told anyone.  I already am sick of the "when are you going to have kids" questions and I might go bonkers if that question turned into "Are you pregnant yet?"

Oem617

Too many people know. We wanted to keep it quiet, but both me and DH have slipped. Most of our really close friends know and my SIL and her husband know. Parents or ILs do not know and I want to keep it that way.

LollipopsAndCrisps

adparker@cn.edu:

It depends...if you end up having a lot of trouble TTC, do you want to deal with all their questions and reminders? If you lose a baby, do you want to deal with it privately with your husband or do you want everyone to know? 

Personally, my family won't know until we're 12 weeks pregnant. 

I agree with what you're saying, adp, but if your username is your actual email, it's probably a good idea to get that changed ASAP, lest you incur the wrath of any kind of crazy. 

bornmommy

mainly just close friends...as in my DH and I got one friend each We haven't completely lied to people that ask but we aren't putting it on fb or anything.  We decided we didn't want the pressure from our family asking every time we spoke to them.  They will find out when we are KTFU about 10 weeks after we know, too.

ATXBarber

Banker&BSN:

We haven't told anyone.  I already am sick of the "when are you going to have kids" questions and I might go bonkers if that question turned into "Are you pregnant yet?"

This is what I'm thinking. DH likes to talk about how my mom "might have a grandchild soon". Seriously. He's used that phrase and everybody pretends they didn't hear it and I laugh it off. He thinks TTC will be a breeze and I'm obviously nervous bc I know the statistics.

Another phrase I'm trying to avoid: "You're too young. You should wait and have some couple time" Bleh.

beckyjoy8

I just did the same thing the other day. I was so nervous because I knew they weren't TTC yet, even though I know she wants to (her DH doesn't want to yet and wants more time). But she's a good friend of mine and I didn't want it to catch her completely off guard if/when we do get the BFP. So in a round about way, I told her.

The only other person I have told is my mom, because she is my ultimate bf. I haven't even told my sister. It's hard to tell people because you want to tell people you can trust. At the same time, it's not fun trying for a long time with people waiting each month for you to get pregnant.

Not sure if that helped, just wanted you to know you're not alone. I'm on CD9 and ovulated yesterday or today (23 day cycles and ovulation came early according to a positive OPK! Now for me is the 2ww. Really hating it! First month trying

Good luck to you!!!

Kerri072906

The only people that know our a very close couple to us that we knew about them since they have a 2 year old already and we are their backup in case of issues.  Like they ended up m/c and i had to rush out of work to get the baby while they went ot hospital and so on.

She is now 10 weeks pregnant again and I am on DPO 8 and feeling very good about this cycle.

 Also a bff of mine from an old job in another state.  We tell each other everything.  Neither of us have any mutual friends or know anyone in the ohters family it works out great for this kind of stuff.

 Family will be told around 8 weeks after seeing a heartbeat.  and the world around 11-12 weeks.

megemoney

My two best-friends (and one's fiance), my H's best-friend and his wife, and my SIL and her H know...that is all.  We may or may not tell parents, depending on what happens over the next couple of months. 

It's a personal choice, do what is right for you!

Mrsbuttercup0806

Some know now, but in a passing sort of way and I made sure to mention that we've been trying for a while now (year and a half) so none hound me about it.

ashS10309

I have told one close friend, since she has 2 children and has been through this, she is a good listener and has great advice. Other than that its just me and DH. When I do get prego then we will wait until 12 weeks and tell our family and friends!

 I agree with you on the butterfly feeling though when I talk about it with DH I get so excited !

Good Luck!

jan_it_2004

Almost everyone DH and I know know we are TTC....it hasn't been bad for us...DH family never ask anything so we never talk about it my family and friends all know and are very supportive about it.  I do pick and choose what I say to who. I'm glad that most of my famiy and friends know because they were all a big comfort when DH and I had a miscarriage back in april.  If no one would have known I think it would have been a little harder for me to move past.

SGC29

We haven't told anyone this time around and we didn't last time either. I want it to be as much of a surprise as it can be when it happens. That and since it generally takes us awhile to conceive I don't want to get anyone's hopes up.

ks3pink

krysbb521:

All of our friends & family know we are TTC but we wont tell them we are KU until 12 weeks into the pregnancy!

mdjdf

Our families know that we are actively trying to get pregnant. Everyone else just thinks we are not avoiding getting pregnant. It is just such an exciting time, hard to keep to yourself. However we won't be telling anyone we are pg until after 1st tri!

ATXBarber

I also got to go to CVS today and hunt for preseed. I was lost bc I usually shop at walgreens for stuff like that and it's all on the baby/family planning aisle. CVS had a baby aisle, a tampon aisle, AND a family planning aisle. Maybe they're trying to get people to walk more? Because I can't really think of another good reason to put any of that on separate aisles.

Oh and btw..The preseed is on the same aisle as the toothpaste.

KMac570

I have told three people - my very best friend, my mother, and my sister.  My husband I think has only told one close friend.  I will probably tell immediate family if and when we get a BFP, but will not tell friends (other than the ones referred to above) or anyone else until 12 weeks.  We MAY tell his mother on her birthday October.  I am still debating this.  She will be so happy, but I REALLY don't want to deal with her constant phone calls and emails about it, especially if the pregnancy doesn't stick. 

 To each his own!

Sullivan1416

I started TTC May 2010, DH and I wanted to keep it a secret so our parents and family would be really surprised!  About 5 months into it I was getting really anxious and had to talk about it.  Another girl I work with was trying too, so she is the one I confided in.  Only a handful of people know.. no one in my family knows yet and I am extremely happy that I didn't tell them.  Its already hard enough to hear, "So when are you having kids." 

I don't know how I would feel if people were asking me if I was pregnant yet.  That is my own opinion though..

dani2480

We agreed to keep it pretty quiet. I've told a couple of my closest friends. And DH told one of his superiors at work (because the guy was asking DH to put in for a special assignment, and DH wanted to be sure us starting a family wouldn't create any issues). We agreed to not tell our families, or broadcast it to anyone more than our closest of friends (and even then it's very limited).

We already get a lot of pressure, mostly from family (his mom finally stopped making comments in front of me -- but I keep learning that she's still whining about wanting grandbabies to everyone else). My aunt cornered me at a wedding a couple weeks ago to comment on how "everyone is wondering when you guys are going to start having kids too" (my two younger brothers, and two male cousins all have kids already, although my brothers and one of my cousins had "oops babies" so there's really nothing to envy there). I had another aunt tell me "you're not getting any younger" a while ago too. I'm too diplomatic to let them have it, so I usually find a polite way out of the conversation. Even my brother has pestered me about "making cousins" for his two daughters. As if I'm going to have a child for everyone else's benefit...

Emily&Chad

We are not telling our parents but we are telling our closest friends.. and I've explained to my close friends that I'm not telling everyone because I don't want those nagging questions if it takes a little while. They understood.. I'm a very open person and couldn't keep it to myself. 

Cookie Monster Mama

I didn't tell anyone b/c I didn't want people constantly asking me "are you pg YET?".  We didn't tell our parents until I was 14 weeks and I my level II u/s and I wasn't even high risk or anything. 

I know it felt good to tell someone, but it took my 9 cycles to get pg and there were some really long cycles in there.  It would not have been fun to hear on CD45 "So have you gotten lucky yet?"  It just wouldn't.  Then again, maybe that wouldn't bother you...  You will do what is best for you! 

Good luck!

SchruteBucks

Only my husband and I know.  I like keeping it a private thing between the two of us.  Feels more special that way, to me   We'll let everyone else know when we get a bfp.

AliciaS1411

LollipopsAndCrisps:

adparker@cn.edu:

It depends...if you end up having a lot of trouble TTC, do you want to deal with all their questions and reminders? If you lose a baby, do you want to deal with it privately with your husband or do you want everyone to know? 

Personally, my family won't know until we're 12 weeks pregnant. 

I agree with what you're saying, adp, but if your username is your actual email, it's probably a good idea to get that changed ASAP, lest you incur the wrath of any kind of crazy. 

 

Thank you for the advice! I actually created my profile a year before I got married on the Knot, so that email has my old last name..and I've since graduated from College, so that email isn't valid anymore. But I appreciate the concern. 

butterfly1979

I have told two friends and my cousin's wife. We're not telling parents/siblings. My MIL already asks enough questions and makes comments about when we are going to have #2. I don't need her being even more obnoxious.

vanillajen

I'm a pretty open person so I gradually told my mom, my sisters, my SIL, some friends...etc. Now that we've been trying for around a year people are starting to assume that something is wrong. It's taken my body around a year to regulate after getting off birth control so I personally feel like it's way too soon to start any sort of testing or worrying, but some people (specifically my SIL) think we should be worried. My SIL even compares us to some mutual friends who are starting to pursue adoption after exhausting all other options to try to conceive on their own! 

I would say tell a couple people if it makes you feel better, but just prepare yourself. 

kpowers982

I told my husband I didn't want to tell anyone, but I was so excited that the first chance I got, I told my mom and a couple of friends, but swore them to secrecy...who knows if that worked or not!  At least no one is asking how things are going or anything, so that's good.

TiggerLuv80

My family is aware that we're starting to try again but after DS (who took 16 cycles to conceive) it is definitely a lil pressure. I'm hoping to not tell them we're pregnant until around 14 weeks or so. 

ansi29

Our closest friends know and my MIL knows (she's awesome, not awful). They do not bug us about it but we are very close with our family and these particular friends and I would feel strange not telling them. 

 

Edited to add: "these particular friends" I'm not close to many people, but the people I'm close to, I'm close to.

Also edited, my mom passed away 8 years ago so that's why she's not up there on the list. I realize it looks completely bizarre to have told my MIL and not her.  

mrsz2008

We didn't tell a soul when we were TTC #1 and won't tell anyone this time around. I don't want to get the unsolicited advice on how my sister got KTFU on the 1st try for 4 of her 5 pregnancies.

canthardlywait426

When we were ttc DS, we didn't tell anyone for a few months. Once we knew my endo was going to play a huge role, I told my 2 best friends and my MIL (I'm very close to her) because I knew I needed their support. They were also the only people I would have leaned on in the case of a m/c. We told all of them I was pregnant within days of finding out, and waited to tell everyone else.

It's really a decision you have to make based on how intrusive you know they'll be. Will they constantly ask about it? Will they pry? Weigh the pros and cons and then decide.

7apodacn

My BF locally, my mom, sister, and some work people know. I had to tell people at work we're TTC because I'm a nurse and there are some chemicals/procedures I can't be around and I'd rather be safe than sorry. We've been TTC since Jan. and I told coworkers around May and no one really cares if I'm pregnant or not yet, so it's been nice that I don't have to hear 'Are you pregnant yet?'. I know my MIL would love a grandchild and we're close but I don't feel ready to tell her yet. I don't see her often enough where I won't get that question asked. I just can't wait to tell her the news whenever it does happen!!!