here we go again..

japatton05 · September 2011

Well I went in this morning for my 2nd u/s at 9 weeks (due to my history of m/c). I saw a little peanut at my 6w3d u/s with a strong heartbeat. Today, no heartbeat. Baby only measured at about 8 weeks. My Doc sent me for another u/s at the hospital to verify what she saw. It was verified. It's hard to comprehend. Last time (in April) I was having heavy bleeding, and now nothing. My brain can't understand what it doesn't feel, or see. I now have the decision to waiting for it to happen naturally, or going for a D&C. IDK what to do. No idea. Any suggestions? I've heard a D&C could lead to infertility, but Idk if that's true or not. The waiting is going to be terrible...I'm so torn.. Anyway ladies, guess I'm leaving this board for the second time this year!! Good luck to y'all and H&H 9 months!!!!

dnhosking · September 2011

I am so so sorry for your loss. I had a missed miscarriage, where the baby stopped developing at 9wks but I didnt start bleeding until almost 12 wks. Its heartbreaking, again, I am so sorry.

I chose to have a D & C. I couldnt wait for my body to expel it, since it had already been 3 wks since the baby had a heartbeat. The D&C wasnt too bad. I was scared because I had never had surgery before but I just took some advil and took it easy for a couple days. Had bleeding for a few weeks. I think any risks associated with a D&C are very rare. I trusted my doc and wanted to start recovering from it as soon as possible.

Some women prefer letting it happen naturally and find peace with it. For me, I just couldnt bear to hold a non-viable fetus any longer. I had the u/s that confirmed the miscarriage, and the next day, was scheduled for the surgery. It was the longest night of my life, but it brought me some kind of closure having the procedure.

No one can tell you what to do, its really up to you and what you are comfortable with. Again, I am so sorry.

Fotog77 · September 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had this, as well. I thought I was 10.5 weeks -- turns out the baby had stopped developing at 6 weeks but I'd had no symptoms. I let it happen naturally as I started bleeding almost as soon as I found out, but it took two weeks, making the entire situation harder. If faced with that choice again I'd have the D&C or the medical option.

sedo2480 · September 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. I also had missed miscarriage and for the reasons stated above I chose to have a D&C but also as stated above it is a personla decision with no right or wrong answer. Do what will bring you peace at this time. Take care of yourself.

robbins25 · September 2011

i had a D&C lil over 3 years ago i had to go to a 2nd dr but i chose that way bc i had already went thru emotinal stress from it(was 9 weeks long lost it at 12wks) that that way was better for me because i couldnt handle waiting for my body to deal w it i took advil for about a week and didnt bleed more then a normal period myself i went on implanon birth control the week after and suppose to be able to get preg quick right after it is taken ou(lasts 3 years)t..i had it taken out in march of this year and now i am 5 weeks preg..took some time but it happend n to now im full of nerviousness but have had steady pregnancy symptoms not to worrind at this point