shouldn't have said yes

rosesforme

My SIL called the other day to say she just became a Pampered Chef consultant and she's having a party on Friday. I said yes because my DH works Fridays and I have nothing else to do. Then we got a birthday party invitation for a friend who is in town (SIL is 20 minutes away). I really want to go to the birthday party because it will be fun and in town and because it's at their house I won't be obligated to spend money. But I can't back out of my SIL's party because I want to support her but because it's her first show but I will have to buy something and I just looked through the online catalog and I found nothing that I don't already have that I feel I need. I wish the invitations came in the opposite order. I don't want to go spend $50 on something I don't need.

Seriously, I have not had plans on a Friday night for ages and then two invitations for the same day. 

Texas77again

oh geez!  what about the timing of the parties?  anyway you can go to chef party, buy something and then leave with enough time to make it to the bday party? 

anyone you know having a house warming party soon?  maybe a xmas gift for someone?  something SIL wants?  wedding gift for someone? 

hope it works out!

jayleigh68

I loathe these types of parties. I also refuse to buy something unless I want it. Could you tell her you totally forgot about this bday party (blame it in pregnancy brain) then go to the party for a bit and then go to the bday party?

Fergie+1

0_o Wow. I've never been to one of those things, but I wouldn't go to a 'party' where I was obligated to buy something. I'd back out if you can.

rosesforme

They are both at the same time and are twenty minutes apart so unfortunately I cannot back out. I would feel sooo bad. They do have some spices and stuff that I can buy that wouldn't be too much and I would use them. I am going to a wedding soon but unfortunately I have no idea what they would need from there.  I usually don't mind the PC parties but I had a PC shower when I got married so I have all the big foundation pieces plus I feel bad spending money right now because I'm not working yet (substitute teacher) and there are baby things that we need more.

Oh well I suppose there is no use in complaining because it's not going to help.

books4brooke

I used to sell PC.  Have you seen the tomato knives?  I never thought I'd need one until I got one.  I had someone a few years ago buy them for Christmas presents for people, and they would probably make a good addition to a wedding gift.  I would say that if you feel obligated to get something and can get away with ordering something without going to the party, then that would at least help.  Such a bummer to have to pick though.

xoladiebug

You could always turn your order in advance and then go to the other party...that way you're still supporting her, but getting to also do something you want.

beachbunni307

Fergie+1:

0_o Wow. I've never been to one of those things, but I wouldn't go to a 'party' where I was obligated to buy something. I'd back out if you can.

I would just like to point out that you are not obligated to buy anything to attend the party, though most women feel as though they should.

If you go to her party, I would just tell her that there is nothing in the catalogue that you want or need and with a baby on the way, you need to be more careful about what you're spending money on...she should respect that. If there is enough people there ording stuff, she might not even notice if you don't. I've been to a ton of those parties and I only buy something when it's something that I want or need, and can't buy anywhere else for cheaper. But, if you can get out of it, the birthday party sounds more fun.