if you have frozen eggs and are pg

joyco

what will you do with it/them?

We got so lucky that both the eggs we put back in implanted because all I've ever wanted was two kids.  We got our wish on the first round of IVF and for that, I'm so thankful.  But we have one little frozen egg and I have no idea what to do with it.  

I don't think my husband would want to donate it because that's "us" right there.  But it would be hard for it to just thaw and not do anything with it.  To keep up with storage is nearly $600/year.  God willing, this pregnancy will make it to the end and the babies will be perfectly healthy but I can't help thinking about that little egg. 

What will you do or what did you do?  What other options do I have?

InACitySoNice

We have 5 frozen embryos and DH and I just decided that we'll be doing an FET as soon as I finish bfing the one I'm cooking right now.  We'd love to have a third baby, but if it doesn't work, it doesn't work, and we know how fortunate we'll be to have 2 babies made through "love and science".

If we hadn't chosen that option, we would most likely have them used for research. .

TakYelgif

your only options are to thaw and discard, donate to science or give it to an embryo adoption program.

 DH and I always said we would stop after just one child, but are now considering another child after Fenton turns one. 

What I'm saying is that you may change your mind, so you might want to consider keeping it for now and make the decision after you have given birth.

laura&dan05

We have 3 frozen embryos.  DH and I haven't discussed it in great detail but we both agree we wouldn't never be able to donate them to another couple or for research purposes.  The thought of letting them thaw and die is upsetting to me as well. We do want more kids one day so if it doesn't happen we'll probably try and thaw them and do a FET.  Until we figure it out we'll continue to pay to keep them frozen.

I have a friend that did IVF 4.5 years ago.  She has twin girls from IVF and 1 older child.  They are 99% sure they are done having kids but they continue to pay for their frozen embryos (I forgot how many they have) because they can't decide what to do with them.

jbk

We also have one frozen embaby.  We'll attempt a FET at some point.  I worry that once we get ready for it, do it, and it doesn't survive the thaw, etc...we'll be crushed.  Also, I am not sure when we'd do it.  DS is 5 now and baby #2 is due in early Dec.  ??

Cheer4State

Hey Joyco!  I hope you are doing well!

 Thankfully we have just one frozen baby that we have to make a decision about.  I think we will try a FET a few years down the road.  I don't want to disgard them - that thought just upsets me.  My hubby does not want to give up for adoption.  We have considered donating to science if we decide that we don't want more kids.  But I know once these two babies arrive, I will want to give that one frozen baby a chance.

Cookie Monster

We will be using ours with an FET in another 2-3 years ... we have two babies now and are PERFECTLY happy with that, but we're also a pro-life couple and we have decided not to discard or donate to research. We can't adopt them out either, I don't think my heart could take it- I would probably always wonder 'what if.'  So, although we're happy with our two, we are going to give it another shot when the baby turns 3. If it doesn't work, we're good, if it does work, we're good ...

raesue

We have 7 frozen blasts.  We were very lucky and got PG with twins on our first IVF.  MH and I have not decided if we're going to try for more kids ( I think we might, but we're not 100%).  If we don't (and even if we do) whatever embryos we have left over will be donated to science.  I couldn't just thaw them and I wouldn't feel right about adopting them out.