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"We all disappointed she's having another boy"

This comment was made by a relative of my SMIL about her daughter's pregnancy.  This daughter already has a son and really wanted to have a girl.  I went totally ballistic when I heard that comment, probably said some things in a tone that was not appreciated, but basically remarked that anyone who cannot appreciate what a gift it is to be able to conceive and carry a healthy, genetically and anatomically intact child has no business being a parent.

When someone at the table said that she might have a girl if she has a third child, this woman remarked, "I can't imagine anyone having a baby over 30."  Thank you very much, I'm 34 and yet to conceive my first.

Does someone know a hit man (j/k) for this woman and her uber spoiled pregnant daughter?

TTC since 3-08 IVF # 1 Dec 2011 BFP DD born at 31 weeks 6-24-12

FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN

FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN

No more frosties

IVF #2. September 2014

PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts

SET November 9, 2014
Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN

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Re: "We all disappointed she's having another boy"

  • Ugh...  That would have made me soooo mad.  Who are these people and where the h*ll are their manners?!?!

    I hope you gave them a piece of your mind!

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  • That is ridiculous. Some people just don't know how lucky they are.
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    Ugh...  That would have made me soooo mad.  Who are these people and where the h*ll are their manners?!?!

    I hope you gave them a piece of your mind!

      Fortunately I don't have to see these people very often . The woman who made the remark is a cousin of my SMIL, who was in AZ for a birthday celebration.  She made the comment when someone asked her how her daughter, whom I refer to as Bethany the Beotch (too long to explain), was doing.  I did give an abbreviated version of my TTC history, how I'd love to be having a second child, but I'm sure it all fell on deaf ears.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    TTC since 3-08 IVF # 1 Dec 2011 BFP DD born at 31 weeks 6-24-12

    FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN

    FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN

    No more frosties

    IVF #2. September 2014

    PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts

    SET November 9, 2014
    Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN

    Not sure where to go from here.

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  • WTF is wrong with people. I would have been so upset. I am glad you said something. Sorry people suck.
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  • I agree... people suck. Some people will just never get it.
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  • What a bunch of morons! WTF??
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  • Ugh. I am so sorry you had to hear that.

    Who says these things? 

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    This comment was made by a relative of my SMIL about her daughter's pregnancy.  This daughter already has a son and really wanted to have a girl.  I went totally ballistic when I heard that comment, probably said some things in a tone that was not appreciated, but basically remarked that anyone who cannot appreciate what a gift it is to be able to conceive and carry a healthy, genetically and anatomically intact child has no business being a parent.

    When someone at the table said that she might have a girl if she has a third child, this woman remarked, "I can't imagine anyone having a baby over 30."  Thank you very much, I'm 34 and yet to conceive my first.

    Does someone know a hit man (j/k) for this woman and her uber spoiled pregnant daughter?

    Seriously, what is wrong with people? I won't lie... I have an older brother, so as a kid, I always assumed families were made up of a boy and a girl. Now that I've gone through IF, I know better. And that comment about over 30? Ridiculous!

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  • Ugh, people and their stupid, stupid comments anger me! I'm sorry youhad to sit through that conversation. I would have passed out from biting my tongue so hard and not going ape-sh!t on them.
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